Emva kokuhlala esikolweni yonke imini, abaninzi abantwana banokufumana izinto ezininzi abanokuzenza kunokuhlala phantsi baze benze umsebenzi wesikolo. Kwaye ngoku ukuba abantwana banokufikelela kwizixhobo zecomputer, akumangalisi ukuba bafuna ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo kunokuxazulula iingxaki zematriki.
Kwaye abanye abantwana abakuthandi ukwenza umsebenzi wabo wesikolo. Kuyakhathaza umzali ozama ukukhumbuza rhoqo umntwana ukuba "Yenza isipelingi sakho."
Kodwa, ukugxeka umntwana ongafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe akusebenzi. Kwixesha elide, konke ukugxeka kungahle kubuyele.
Ingxaki nge-Nagging
Ucwaningo lwe-2017 olupapashwe kwiNcwadi ye-Applied Developmental Psychology , lwafumanisa ukuba abantwana benza ngcono xa abazali bebakhuthaza ukuba bazimelele emsebenzini wabo wesikolo. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abantwana bafuna ukuzimela ukuba babe ngabafundi abachaphazelekayo.
Ukuzibandakanya akukhuthazi ukuzimela. Uhlala uthi, "Ungalibali ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo sakho," kwaye, "andiyi kukuxelela kwakhona. Hlala phantsi wenze umsebenzi wakho wesikolo," uthetha ukuthatha uxanduva oluninzi kunokuba umntwana wakho afumane msebenzi wesikolo.
Ukuba uchitha ukuhlwa kwakho, ukucela, nokuzama ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe, mhlawumbi ubeka amandla kunye notyalo-mali emsebenzini wakhe kunokuba yena.
Ukuxhamla de ukuba umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni anikeze akufundisi ukuzimela . Endaweni yoko, unokuthobela ukukwenza ukuba uyeke ukugxotha, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo.
Ukuzibandakanya kwenza umntwana wakho axhomekeke ngakumbi kuwe. Akunakukhathazeka ngokulawula ixesha lakhe okanye ukulandelela izabelo zakhe ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kunika izikhumbuzo rhoqo.
Ukuzibandakanya kufundisa nomntwana wakho ukuba akayi kukuphulaphula okokuqala xa umxelela into ethile. Ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kuthi "Yenza umsebenzi wesikolo sakho," okungenani amaxesha angaphezu kwe-10, akayi kukhuthazwa ukuba akwenze okokuqala ngamaxesha ayisithoba.
Vumela iziphumo zendalo
Ngamanye amaxesha, imiphumo yemvelo ngabafundisi abangcono. Ngoko kunokuba ugxeke umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe uyenze, phambuka uze ubone oko kwenzekayo.
Khawucinge ngemiphumo engabelana nayo esikolweni ukuba akafumani umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo. Ngaba uya kufuneka ahlale e-recess? Ngaba utitshala uya kumenza ahlale emva kwesikolo? Ngaba uya kufumana i-zero? Kwabanye abantwana, le miphumo ingaba yimpumelelo.
Kakade, ezo zicwangciso aziyi kusebenzela wonke umntu. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakhathaleli ukuba zeziphi iimpawu zamabakala azifumanayo okanye azibonakali engazange azichaphazele ngemiphumo yothisha, uzakufunda isifundo somntu ukuba uvumele imiphumo yemvelo.
Kodwa kwabanye abantwana, ukuvumela ukuba bahlangabezane nemiphumo yabo yokuziphatha kunokubaluleka ekuncedeni ukuba bafunde.
Ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe
Ingxelo yekhadi ayiyikukhuthaza ngamnye umntwana. Abantwana abaninzi banenkxalabo malunga nento eyenzekayo namhlanje, kungekuphi uhlobo lwebanga abaya kufumana kwikhadi lombiko kwiinyanga ezimbalwa. Ezi ntwana zifuna imiphumo emihle ngokukhawuleza yokubakhuthaza.
Unako ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe uyenze ngokubeka imida ngeekhompyutheni. Misela umgaqo wendlu othi, "Ayikho i-elektroniki kuze kube yinto eyenziwa ekhaya."
Emva koko, yishiye kubantwana bakho ukuba banqume ixesha lokuqhuba umsebenzi wabo. Ngaphambili bangenayo, ixesha elide baya kufuneka benze izinto abazithandayo. Ukuba bakhetha ukungenzi umsebenzi wabo, banciphise amalungelo abo de bazalise izabelo zabo.
Unokubonelela ngeenkxaso ezongezelelweyo kunye nenkqubo yokuvuza . Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo owenziwe ngexesha ngalinye imihla, mnike umvuzo omncinane ngeveki.
Okanye, sebenzisa inkqubo yecandelo loqoqosho ngokumnika isibonakaliso ngosuku ngalunye owenza umsebenzi wakhe. Makhe atshintshe iimpawu zokufumana iimbuyekezo ezixabisa amanqaku athile. Yibandakanye ekukhetheni umvuzo kwaye uya kukhuthazwa ukuba azuze.
Ingxaki -Sombulula kunye
Xa umntwana wakho ezama ukukwenza umsebenzi wakhe, kunokuba luncedo ekujongeni ingxaki kunye. Umsebenzi unokuba nzima kakhulu okanye mhlawumbi ubalekele ukubhala izabelo zakhe. Ukuba usebenza kunye ukuxazulula ingxaki unokufumana izicombululo ezilula eziza kumnceda enze umsebenzi wakhe ngokuzimela.
Buza umntwana wakho, "Yintoni eya kukunceda ufumane umsebenzi wakho ngexesha?" Usenokumangaliswa ukuva iingcamango zakhe. Kungaba lula njengoko kumvumela ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe emva kokutya, ngoko unokukwazi ukuphuka xa ebuya ekhaya esikolweni. Okanye, unokuthi ufuna uncedo olongezelelweyo ngesifundo esithile.
Ukumema igalelo lomntwana wakho kunokumnceda ukuba akhuthazwe ukufumana isisombululo. Emva koko, uya kuba nako ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, kunye nezikhumbuzo ezimbalwa ezivela kuwe.
> Imithombo
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