Ukuxinezeleka akusisona nje ingxaki kubantu abadala abaxakekile; Abantwana ngoku bafuna ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo kunanini ngaphambili. I-poll yesizwe evela kwi-American Psychological Association yabonisa uxinzelelo lokuba yinkxalabo yezempilo yabantwana kwinqanaba eliye lanyuka ngamanqanaba athile kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abagxininisiweyo bahlala bexinzelelekileyo, ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo yabantwana kubalulekile ngoku nakwixesha elizayo lempilo yabantwana bethu.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokukhuthaza ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo yabantwana, kunye nezindlela ezilula zokuzizalisekisa ezinokubangela ukukhululeka kwintsapho yonke. Zama oku kulandelayo, ukukhuthaza ukukhululwa kwengcinezelo yabantwana.
Xhuma Ngezingane Zakho
Abantwana kunye nentsha kufuneka babe noqhagamshelwano oluqinileyo nabazali kunye nabanye abadala ukuze bazuze ngokupheleleyo kwivava, ubulumko kunye nenkxaso. Ungakulibali ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabantwana bakho, baphulaphule, kwaye udibanise xa wenza izinto kunye kunye nonke nandipha. Ukuba imigca yonxibelelwano ivulekile, baya kuba baninzi ukuthetha nawe kwaye basebenzise njengemithombo xa bexinezelekile.
Nantsi indlela: Ishedyuli kwixesha lokwenza izinto kunye njengentsapho, ingakumbi imisebenzi eyenza uxhulumaniso olufanelekileyo. Ezinye iintsapho zifuna ukugibela ibhayisikili endleleni ephumlileyo, imidlalo yebhodi yebhodi kunye nemidlalo yamakhadi, kwaye ubeke ixesha lokukhupha ngaphandle kwendlu. (Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ulungise ixesha lokuzikhawuleza.) Ezinye iintsapho zithatha iiveki eziphumayo zenkampu ezithe zazingena kwiindawo ezithulekileyo ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, umdlalo weqela lomdlalo kunye kunye nokuhlalisana xa bedlala, okanye iintlanganiso zentsapho nganye Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ukuchukumisa isiseko.
Intsapho yakho ingasebenzisa ezinye zezicwangciso okanye uzame into eyingqayizivele, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba neengcamango ezimbalwa uphakamise isandla sakho esikhuthaza ukukhululeka kwengcinezelo yabantwana.
Nciphisa Ngeengcinezelo ezingadingekile
Iintsholongwane nabantwana namhlanje banamalungiselelo angaphezu kwezizukulwana zangaphambili. Ngandlela-thile, le nto yinto entle: abantwana ababandakanyeka kwimisebenzi eminingi eyenziweyo bavezwa kumava okwakha izakhono kwaye banamathuba okwenza abahlobo.
Nangona kunjalo, 'ixesha lokuhla' kubalulekile kubantwana nakubantu abadala, kwaye ukuba abantwana bahlelwe ngaphaya kwexesha lokuba abanakho ixesha lokunciphisa, banokuxinwa. Kwakhona, mhlawumbi abayi kukwazi ukufunda kunye nendlela yokubeka imida kwiishedyuli zabo njengabantu abadala.
Nasi: Njani: Ukuba ucinga ukuba abantwana bakho bahlelwe ngaphaya kwexesha kwaye baxinezeleke, bafunde ukubeka izinto eziphambili kunye nokunciphisa, njengokuba unako kunye neshedyuli yakho. Thetha nomntwana wakho kwaye uzame ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo axakekileyo; uya kufumana ibhalansi elungileyo ngaloo ndlela.
Ukunyamekela iimfuno eziziSeko
Kungabonakali, kodwa abantwana abangalali ngokwaneleyo, ukufumana umzimba owaneleyo, okanye ukutya ukutya okunempilo banokubakho ukunyamezela, njengabantu abadala. Kungako kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba balala kakuhle, besidla kakuhle, kwaye bafunda ukubaluleka kokunyamekela.
Nantsi indlela : Le nto ilula: qiniseka ukuba isitokisini indlu ngokutya okunempilo, yenza isimiso esikhuthaza uxolo endlwini yakho ebusuku, kwaye qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana umzimba owaneleyo ngemisebenzi ayithandayo. Iishedyuli ezihamba phambili, izinto ezikhethiweyo, imidlalo yevidiyo kunye nabantwana abangabambisani nabo bangenza icebo ukwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuqinisekisa ukuba zonke ezi zithako zikhona kubomi bakho abantwana, kodwa ukuzinyamekela kukufanele umzamo.
Yenza ezi zinto zibe ziphambili ngokuzihlela kwiindlela zakho zokuphila nokucima imisebenzi ephazamisayo. (Oku kunokuba kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, kodwa ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo kubantwana bakho kubalulekile ngokwaneleyo ukwenza loo mzamo uzuze.)
Fundisa Abantwana Bakho UkuPhathwa Kweengcinezelo
Ukuphathwa kwengcinezelo ku funeka kuqale ebuntwaneni. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana banamhlanje bayakhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye baninzi banengxaki yokuxinwa kwiimfuno eziphambili ngaphambili, kwaye ngenxa yokuba uxinzelelo oluninzi lunokulimaza abantwana kunye nekamva labo (abadala), akusoloko kusasa ukufundisa iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo kubantwana bakho, kwaye bancede bawenze rhoqo.
Nantsi indlela: Nangona abantwana abancinci banokukwazi ukuqonda ukuphefumula, i-yoga poses, okanye iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzivocavoca, kunye neengxaki zokuxinwa kwengcinezelo ezinokuthi zithinte ukusukela kwiminyaka yokuqala. Yenza i-yoga kunye nezingane zakho. Bancede babhale kwirekhodi ngelixa ubhala kwakho. Phefumla ndawonye. Uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ubuchule kwaye uza kufumana inzuzo yokuziqhuba. Ngaphezulu, uya kudala imemori emihle kubo bobabini.
Ukulawula Ingxaki Yakho
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba uxinzelelo lwabantu abadala luyabathinta abantwana, kodwa aluthathi isazi senzululwazi ukubonisa ukuba xa siphelile, sinomncinci wokunika abanye. Ukongezelela ukugcina iimpahla zethu zengqondo ezipheleleyo ngokwaneleyo ukunceda abantwana bethu bajongane, iindlela zethu zokulawula uxinzelelo zingabanika abantwana bethu imodeli efanelekileyo yokulawula uxinzelelo lwabo.