Yazi indlela yokuqonda izizathu kunye nempawu zeengxaki eziqhelekileyo kubantwana
Ukuxhalabisa yingxaki ehlala yinto ebhekene nabantwana namhlanje. Njengabantu abadala, abantwana bayasabela ngokungafaniyo nokuxinekeka kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabo, ubuqu bomntu ngamnye, kunye nezakhono zokuhlangabezana. Xa kuziwa ekuxhalabiseni kwabantwana, abafundi besikolo abancinci abasenakukwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zabo, kanti abantwana abakhulileyo banokwazi ukusho ngokuqinisekileyo oko kukukhathazayo nokuba kutheni (nangona akuqinisekisi ukuba baya kukwabelana ngolwazi kunye noMama okanye uTata).
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukwesaba nokuxhalabisa kunye noxinzelelo kubantwana kuyashintsha okanye kuphelile kunye nobudala. Ngokomzekelo, umntu onesibeletha ofumana ubunzima bokuhlukana naye unokuba yintlanzi yentlalontle ebopha esikolweni kumabanga alandelayo. Umgcini wesibini oloyiko lomnyama okanye wezilwanyana angakhula abe yinkwenkwe ethanda iimbali zomoya.
Xa abazali sele banqume ukuba ngaba umntwana wabo uhlangabezana nantoni okanye ingxaki yokuxhalaba kakhulu, banokufumana iindlela zokunceda umntwana wabo ukulawula uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalabisa .
Iimpawu zokuxhalabisa kwabantwana
Utshintsho ekuphatheni okanye ngesimo sengqondo iiflegi eziqhelekileyo ezinokubonisa ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezixhalabileyo. Ezinye iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ziquka:
- Izikhalazo zesisu okanye isisu
- Iingxaki zokulala okanye ubunzima bokugxila
- Utshintsho lwendlela yokuziphatha, njengokwenyuka, ukukhawuleza, okanye ukunyaniseka
- Ukuphuhliswa komkhwa wesifo, njengokwichila
- Ukwenqaba ukuya esikolweni okanye ukungena enkingeni esikolweni
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuxinezeleka kwabantwana
Umthombo wokuxhalaba noxinzelelo kubantwana unokuba yinto yangaphandle, njengengxaki esikolweni, utshintsho kwintsapho, okanye ukungquzulana nomhlobo. Imizwa yokuxhalaba nayo ingabangelwa yimvakalelo yangaphakathi yomntwana kunye neengcinezelo, ezifana nokufuna ukwenza kakuhle esikolweni okanye ukulungelelana noontanga.
Ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo zokubandezeleka kubantwana ziquka:
Izinguqu ezinkulu kwintsapho. Ubomi obuninzi obunokubangela ukuba uxinzelelo kubantwana lubandakanya ukuhlukanisa, ukufa kwintsapho, ukuhamba, okanye ukuzalwa komntwana omtsha. Ezi ntshukumo zezinto ezinokuzithengisa zinokugubungela ihlabathi lakho lokufunda esikolweni kwaye liguqulwe. Ubomi obuninzi bunokutshintsha ingqondo yomntwana wakho ukhuseleko, uze udideke kwaye uxhalabe. Ngokomzekelo, umntakwabo omtsha unokuyenza umntwana abe nesongelo kwaye abe nomona. Ukufa kwintsapho, ingakumbi ngootatomkhulu okanye omnye umntu osondeleyo kumntwana, kunokudala ukudideka kunye nentlungu, kunye nokuxhalaba nokuxinezeleka.
Iishedyuli eziphambili. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala eqhuba ukusuka komnye umsebenzi ukuya kwelinye, unokuziva ecinezelekile, ngakumbi ukuba unesibini inkunzi efuna intsuku yokuzihlaziya rhoqo emva kwexeshana.
Uxinzelelo oluzimeleyo. Abantwana abaninzi banokukhathazeka ngokufuna ukwenza kakuhle esikolweni. Basenokufuna ukufanisana namanye abantwana kwaye bathande. Uxinzelelo oluzimeleyo luqhelekileyo kubantwana abanoyika ukwenza iimpazamo okanye ukungabi nento entle.
Ukuxinezeleka okubangelwa yinto esikolweni . Iingxowankulu okanye ii-clique zingaba ngumcimbi xa abantwana beza esikolweni samabanga aphezulu. Nangona umntwana engaxhatshazwayo, uxinzelelo lokuba angene kwaye lube ludumo lungabangela uxinzelelo kwaye lukhokelela kubandezelo kubantwana . Kubafundi besikolo abancinci, ukuxhalabisa ngokwahlukileyo kungengxaki efanayo.
Iindaba ezibuhlungu. Iindaba zeentloko kunye neentengiso zeendaba zethelevishini malunga neentlekele zemvelo, ugqirha kunye nogonyamelo lunokuphazamisa kwaye kaninzi kunokubangela uxinzelelo kubantwana. Xa abantwana bebona beva malunga neemeko ezimbi ezimbi, banokukhathazeka ukuba into engalunganga iyenzeka kubo okanye kumntu abathandayo.
I-movie eyoyikisayo okanye incwadi. Amabali azalwayo angabangela ukuxakeka okanye uxhalabisayo kubantwana. Abantwana baxhaphazwa ngokugqithisileyo, ubundlobongela, okanye ukukhushulwa kwi-movie okanye kwiindinyana kwincwadi. Nangona abanye abantwana banokuthi bavelele ngakumbi kwimidiya yemidiya kunabanye - yintoni eyoyikisayo okanye eyantyantisayo ukuba umntwana omnye angenakuchaphazela kwenye - yinto efanelekileyo yokwazi into enokumcasula umntwana wakho, ukunciphisa umxholo wemidiya enobudlova , kwaye unamathele kwiminyaka yobudala- iifilimu ezifanelekileyo, iincwadi, imidlalo yevidiyo kunye namanye amajelo.