Indlela yokusingatha uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba kwabantwana
Ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo yincinci yokuphila kwabantu abadala namhlanje, kukuthi, ke, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo inxalenye yobomi babantwana, oko kuthetha ukuphathwa koxinzelelo kubantwana kuyintloko ebalulekileyo ukuba abazali baqonde. Ukuxinezeleka kwengane, njengokuxinzeleleka komntu omdala, kubangelwa kwizinto eziliqela kwaye ziyakwazi ukuqwalaselwa ngokufunda malunga nokuba yintoni ingxaki, yintoni enokuyibangela, kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okunceda umntwana azive engcono kwaye ekhululekile.
Kutheni abantwana Banyanzeliswe Namhlanje?
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Kubantwana, abavame ukufumana ingxolo kunye neengxolo, iintshukumo zengcinezelo zemihla ngemihla ziyakwazi ukukhuliswa, okwenza kubekho isidingo sokuphucula ixesha elide ngakumbi. Ukongeza kweso sikolo nangemva kwemisebenzi yesikolo, ingcinezelo yokuphumelela (ingaba iphuma ngaphandle okanye ngaphakathi kwayo), utshintsho lweentsapho okanye iimpikiswano, kunye nezinye izinto ezinokubangela uxhalaba kwaye unayo iresiphi epheleleyo yomntwana uxinzelelo.
Iimpawu zoxinzelelo kubantwana
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana - ingakumbi abantwana abaselula - abakwazi ukuchaza ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zabo nokuxhalabisa. Enyanisweni, iimpawu zoxinzelelo kubantwana zingabonakali, njengeentlungu zesisu, iintloko, okanye utshintsho ekuphatheni.
Unokujonga kwakhona ukuguquka kwemizwelo kunye neengxaki zokulala kunye nobunzima bokugxila esikolweni.
Ukuba kukho naziphi iinguqu ezinzulu zobomi bomntwana ezifana nokuhamba okanye umntakwethu omtsha, abazali kufuneka banikele ingqwalasela ethile baze bajonge iimpawu zokubandezeleka kwengane. Nangona ungeke ukwazi ukugxininisa ingxaki ethile, umntwana wakho unokufumana uxinzelelo kwinto ethile esikolweni okanye kwezinye izinto ongaziqondiyo.
Gcina umkhondo weendlela zakhe zokuziphatha kunye nemizwa, kwaye ubukele nayiphi na imiqondiso yeengxaki. Buza uthisha malunga nendlela enza ngayo esikolweni kwaye uqaphele indlela asebenzisana ngayo nabahlobo namalungu entsapho.
Kwakulungele ukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga nokuba unokuva njani, nangona akanakho ukukwazi ukuchazwa "kwimimiselo". Unamathela kwimibandela malunga nokuba unokukhathazeka ngani okanye izinto ezingenakukwenza ukuba azive kakuhle. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abancinci abaziqondi ngokupheleleyo umxholo wamagama afana noxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalabisa.
Oko Abazali Bangayenza Ngokunyaniseka Kwabantwana
- Vumela abantwana bazi ukuba banokuthetha nawe.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba akhulume nawe malunga nayiphi na ingxaki anokuba nayo, kwaye uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakhe ngokuthe tye. Enye yezona ndlela ezibalulekileyo neendlela ezisebenzayo ezijongene nokuxinezeleka kukuthetha nomntu ngeengxaki zabo. Nangona umntwana wakho engakwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo oko akucaphukisayo, nje ukuba ucele kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba akhulume angenza umehluko. - Qiniseka ukuphulaphula umntwana wakho ngaphambi kokunika iziphakamiso.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungathanda ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye uncede unike izicwangciso, vumela ixesha lakhe ukubonisa ngokupheleleyo iingcamango zakhe neemvakalelo ngaphambi kokuba wenze imibono okanye uvakalise izimvo zakho.
- Cinga ukwenza umsebenzi xa uthetha.
Abanye abantwana banokuziva bekhululekile ukuthetha ngeengxaki zabo xa besenza umsebenzi nomzali. Yenza into endiyolisayo, njengokwenza uhambo, ukwenza ii-cookie, okanye ukudlala i-basketball kwinqanaba lokuhamba ngaphambi kokucela umntwana wakho ukuba axoxe ngengxaki enokuba nayo. (Uphando lubonise ukuba abafana, ngokukodwa, banokukhululeka ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zabo ukuba baqhuba umsebenzi wokwenyama xa bethetha.) - Yenza abantwana bafunde ukuphefumula.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aphefumle emoyeni "olungileyo" aze afake "umoya obi", kwaye umfanekise ukuba uthwale nayiphi na inkxalabo emzimbeni wakhe.
- Yenza i-yoga ibangela nezingane zakho.
I-Yoga elula ibonakala njengejaja elingaphantsi, i-cobra, nomthi zihle kakhulu kwiintsana. Nangona ukwenza oku nje embalwa imizuzu - uthi, kusasa ngaphambi kwesikolo okanye ngokuhlwa ngaphambi kokulala - ukuhlala ixesha elincinci kunye nawe kungenza umehluko omkhulu ngosuku lomntwana. - Zama ezinye iingcamango zokuncinciza ngokukhawuleza zezingane.
Oku kunokubandakanya imisebenzi emnandi onokuyonwabela kunye kunye nokudlala kunye nencwadi, ukusilalisa, okanye ukudlala umdlalo ozithandayo.