Ngaba abantwana bakho banobungane obuhle babo? Okanye ngaba banako ukulwa kunokuba banandiphe inkampani yomnye?
Nantoni na ukungafani kwemibilini yabomntakwethu, iimpawu zobuntu okanye ubulili, inyaniso kukuba umgangatho wabakhonkco babo bazalwana unokubaluleka kakhulu. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba ubudlelwane babo bobazalwana bahlala badlala indima enkulu kwindlela esiya kusebenzisana ngayo nabanye ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo, amaqabane omthandane kunye nabanye emva koko ebomini.
Abazali banokudlala indima ephambili ekuncedeni ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obuhle babo kunye nokunciphisa ukuxabana nomntakwethu. Ngokukhuthaza imisebenzi ekhuthaza ukusebenzisana, ukubeka abantwana ukuze bahlekise kunye kunye nokunika abantwana izixhobo zokuvelisa iingxabano ngendlela eyakhayo nangenhlonipho, abazali banokunceda abantakwabo bahlakulele ubuhlobo obuhle obuya kubaphatha ubomi babo bonke ubomi.
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- Musa ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho komnye nomnye. Okokuqala kunye nangoko, zama ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Kutheni ungakuphulaphuli kunye nomntakwenu?" Okanye "Udade wakho akayi kubuyela kum." Ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho komnye nomlilo indlela yokucima imililo yomntakwabo kunye nokwakha intukuthelo.
- Zama ukuqonda oko kusemva kwemibango yabantwana. Ngaba abantwana bakho bavame ukuxhamla xa umntu ezama ukufumana enye ingqalelo? Ngaba bayakukhuphisana ixesha lakho kunye neengqalelo? Ngaba balwa ngakumbi xa bekhathele okanye benobuhlungu? Emva kokuba ubone iphethini engachaza le ndlela yokuziphatha, zama ukujongana nale miba ukunciphisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantwana. Ngokomzekelo, unokuzama ukuchitha ixesha elilodwa kunye nomntwana ngamnye okanye uzame ukukunceda umntwana wakho afumane iindlela ezingcono, ezingenanto zokufumana ingqalelo yomntakwabo.
- Bafundise ukuqonda ukungafani kwabo. Ingaba unomntwana omnye othanda ukuhlala nokufunda ngokuthula kunye nomnye ongathandi nto ngaphezu kweemidlalo ezinkulu kunye nemisebenzi eqhubekayo? Xa abantwana beneminqweno eyahlukileyo kunye neempembelelo, iingxabano ziyakwenzeka ngokusemthethweni.
Into ebalulekileyo kukufundisa abantwana ukuba bahlonele ezo ntlukwano kunye nendlela yokugcina iliso kwizinto ezibalulekileyo: Ukuthandana. Ngoko ukuba omnye umntwana ufuna ukukhetha umsebenzi weentsapho oquka into eninzi xa omnye umntwana efuna ukwenza into ekhulileyo kunye neyonto ephantsi, umzekelo, abazali bangasetha inkqubo apho banokusebenzisana ukucwangcisa indlela yokujika okanye fumana ezinye iimfuno eziqhelekileyo ezinokuzonwabisa ngabo bobabini.
- Benze basebenze kwimisebenzi okanye iprojekthi njengeqela. Enye yeendlela iinkampani zakha umqondo wokusebenzisana kunye nentsebenziswano phakathi kwabasebenzi babo kukuba abasebenzi bahlanganyele kwimisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi ekhuthaza ukusebenzisana kunye. Abazali banokwenza okufanayo kunye nabantwana babo, nokuba ngaba abantwana basebenza kunye kwiprojekthi okanye ngokuncedana ngemisebenzi .
Yiza kunye neprojekthi, njengopendela igumbi lokugcina okanye ukucoca igaraji, kwaye unabantwana basebenza kunye ukuze benze oko. Unako nokuba nezingane zithathe imisebenzi engcono kakhulu kwiminyaka yabo kunye nobuchule babo , njengokutshatyalaliswa okanye ukuncedisa ukulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye babalekele ngokuchasene nabantu abakhulile endlwini ukuze babone owenza imisebenzi yabo ngokukhawuleza. (Ukwenza iqela elinye iqela kunye nabanye abakhulileyo banokukhuthaza abantwana ukuba basebenzisane kunye nomgomo oqhelekileyo wokubetha umama noyise.) - Khuthaza izakhono zokuphulaphula kakuhle. Ukukwazi ukuphulaphula ngokwenene into ekuthethwa ngayo ngumntu obalulekileyo kubantwana ukuba bahlakulele, kwaye omnye owanceda bafunde ukuzivalana nabanye baze babone izinto kumbono womnye umntu. Yenza iphuzu lokuba nabantwana bakowenu baphulaphule baze bazame kunzima ukuqonda imibono kunye neengcamango zomnye nomnye.
- Bafundise ukuba bahlonelane. Ukuphulaphula yindlela enye yokubonisa intlonelo, kunye nokuhlonipha kubalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhle, nokuba ngaba phakathi kwabahlobo, amaqabane okanye abazalwana. Khumbuza abantwana ukuba bafanele baphathe abanye ngendlela abafuna ukuphathwa ngayo, ngobubele nokukhathazeka ngeemvakalelo zabo. Inhlonipho ingabandakanya ukuthetha omnye nomnye usebenzisa i-tone yegama elihle okanye elincinci elingathandekiyo, nangona kungavumelani; ukubeka phantsi imbono yomntakwabo; kunye nokukhumbula indawo yomntu kunye nezinto (ukungena kwigumbi lomntwana ngaphandle kwemvume okanye ukuthintela izinto zabo, umzekelo).
- Ba bonise indlela abangavumelani ngayo ngokuhlonipha. Abantu abathandanayo bangavumelani ngamanye amaxesha - yinto nje yobomi. Kodwa indlela esisingatha ngayo ukungavumelani okubalulekileyo. Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bangaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi izinto, kodwa ukuba bangabibizi amagama, vumela ukuba iingxabano zithinte ukusebenzisana kwazo, kwaye zininzi zazo, zibandakanye ukulwa ngokomzimba.
- Zijabulise kunye njengentsapho. Imindeni ehlekisayo kunye iya kuba nzima ukuba ibe neengxabano. Zama ukukhetha imidlalo kunye nemisebenzi enokuyithandwa yintsapho yonke, njengokuhamba ngeebhasiki okanye ukubukela i- movie entsha yezingane .
- Gxininisa intsingiselo yentsapho. Cacisa abantwana bakho kwaye ukhumbuze ngezihlandlo loo ntsapho, kwaye ngokukodwa abantakwabo, ingaba luhlobo lothando olungenakunqotshwa kunye nenkxaso engenakulinganiswa. Khumbulani abantwana bakho ukuba ngelixa behlala bekhetha inkampani yabahlobo phezu komzalwana okanye udade ngoku, baya kubaluleka ngakumbi xa bekhula. Ngelixa bengenakuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukubaluleka kobudlelwane bomntakwabo okwamanje, lo ngumyalezo obalulekile ukuphinda, kwaye omnye ekugqibeleni uya kukhula xa ekhula.