Ukuhamba Ngaphandle Nceda kwaye Ndiyabonga
Uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho ongasesikolweni akazange akhuliswe kwingqolowa kodwa uyayidlulisela njani na umntu odla naye? Ukuhlamba ngomlomo wakhe evulekile, ukutya kunye nezandla zakhe, ukugubha, uluhlu luqhubeka kwaye luqhubeke. Akumangalisi ukuba ixesha lokudla kwiindlu ezininzi apho umntwana oneminyaka engaphantsi kwemihlanu eba ngumcimbi ofanelwe ngumzali kubazali abaninzi. Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, ukufundisa imikhosi yakho yokufundela isikolo akusisisiluleko esinzima.
Ukulungele ukufunda kunye nokulangazelela ukukholisa, abaninzi abasesikolweni baya kwamkela ukuzisa imithebhile yeetrafti kwisidlo sabo sokutya. Isibalulekileyo sisendlela yakho. Gxininisa ekufundiseni indlela ethile ngexesha elinye ukuze umntwana wakho angadangali kwaye adideke.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ungumzekelo wakho omhle wokuba ngumntwana kwaye nantoni na into oyithethayo okanye yenzayo iyakuthi iphindwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Qiniseka ukuba uqhuba imilinganiselo emihle etafileni. Ngokubeka umzekelo omhle ngokwakho, isikolo sakho sokufundela ngokukhawuleza siza kubonisa ukuziphatha ngokuqinisekileyo ukwenza ukuba uEmily Post uziqhenye.
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Ukuba uthetha esikolweni sakho sokufunda ukuba ufuna ukuba enze imbeko xa edla, mhlawumbi akayi kukwazi oko uthethayo. Chaza ukuba imilinganiselo yindlela yokubonisa ububele kwabanye abantu etafileni, nokuba uyadla ekhaya, kwivenkile yokudlela okanye kwikhaya lomnye umntu.
Yithi imilinganiselo yimiyalelo yetafile kwaye yindlela yokubonisa wonke umntu, kuquka umama nobaba, yintoni inkunzi enkulu.
Ngaphambi kokuba kudle isidlo sesidlo
Ukuziphatha okulungileyo kuqala ngaphambi kokuba ufike kwitafile. Isinyathelo sokuqala- ukuhlamba . Xoxa nomntwana wakho ngokuhlamba izandla kunye nendlela ayenze ngayo ngaphambi kokutya kunye nokutya.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ungaphantsi kwe-5, le nto ingaba yinto ofuna ukubanceda ngayo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, abantwana kufuneka bahlambe ngesepha ngaphantsi kwamanzi afudumele malunga nemizuzwana engama-20 (bawabethele ii-ABC okanye "Happy Birthday" kabini). Ukuze ugxininise le ndlela yokuziphatha, qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho bakubona uhlamba izandla zakho ngaphambi kokuba udle. Enyanisweni, zibandakanye nabo kwisitya sokuhlambela ngaphambi kokuba uhlale phantsi.
Ukuba umthandazo okanye intsikelelo iyingxenye yesidlo sakho sokutya, xelela umntwana wakho oko wenzayo. Mxelele ukuba xa umthandazo usuphelile ke kuya kuba nexesha lokutya kodwa ngoxa uthandaza akuyi kuba no kuthetha okanye ukutya kwaye kufuneka ahlale ethule. Ukuba umntwana wakho unceda ukusho umthandazo, qiniseka ukuba uyenze kunye naye ngaphambi kwexesha.
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Kukho ixesha elininzi lokufundisa xa udla. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ufinyelela kwisibonda sakho kwiitatayi, tshela into enjengale, "Ndiyavuya ulambile, kodwa ixesha elizayo ukhumbula ukucela ukutya kwaye ndiya kuvuyela ukukudlulisela kuwe." Emva koko umzekelo wokuziphatha.
Xa uneminyaka engama-3 , umntwana wakho kufuneka adle ngefoloko, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abuye abuyele. Ngaphezulu, kudideka. Ezinye ukutya zilungile ukucinga-cinga ingqolowa kwi-cob, iinkukhu zeenkukhu okanye i-cheeseburgers-ngelixa ezinye zicacileyo "hayi" -iyayi-peas, ne-appleauce.
Ungacingi ukuba ufanele azi kakuhle, vele ubonise ngenyameko ukuba wenza iphutha. "Ubawo wenza umsebenzi omkhulu wokusebenzisa ummese kunye nefoloko, kutheni ungazami oko endaweni yoko? Kungaba lula kuwe."
Unokufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzise i-napkin endaweni yengubo yakhe okanye ihembe. Xa uneminyaka eyi-3, kufuneka uyenze ngebhasi kwaye uyakwazi ukusula izandla kunye nobuso, kodwa qiniseka ukuba umbonise naye.
Xa umntwana ephelile, qiniseka ukuba bahleli esihlalweni sabo de ukutsho ukuba kulungile. Kungenokuba nzima kumntu ukuba ahlale kuyo ade umntu aphelile ukutya, ngokokuba esidla ngokwaneleyo ukwaneliseka kwakho, mvumele ahambe enze enye into.
Mfundise ukuba athi "Ndiyabulela ngokuhlwa," kwaye umbonise indlela yokuzisa isitya sakhe, indebe, kunye nempahla kwisitya.
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Ezinye iziphatho kwietafile zesidlo akufanele zihlulwe nje ngokuba zingenalo imbeko-zihamba kakuhle! Ingxaki kukuba ezininzi zalezi zenzo nazo zininzi ziqwalasela kakhulu, ngoko qaphela njengoko uqeqesho . Yilungisa indlela yokuziphatha, ngakumbi ukuba enye ibonisiwe ngaphambili, kodwa qaphela ukuba umntwana wakho unokufuna nje ukusabela kuwe.
Ingaba kukho nantoni na yomngcwaba ukuya kwinqanaba lokufundela kunokugqithisa? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba avalile umlomo ngaphambi kokuba aqhube kwaye aqiniseke ukuba athi "ndixolele" emva koko. Esinye sezimbangela ze-burp kungenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho udla ngokukhawuleza. Qinisekisa ukuba ukutya kwakhe kunqunywe kwiinqununu ezincinci. Xa uneminyaka engama-5 ubudala, umntwana wakho ulungele ukusebenzisa ibhotile ibhotela. Mfundise indlela efanelekileyo yokubamba.
Ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukusebenzisa imfoloko kunye negazi ngokuchanekileyo kunokubathintela ukuba badlale ngokutya kwabo, ixesha elithandwayo lokutya lokutyhila. Nantoni na eyenzayo-ukuvuthela iibhulabisi ebisi lakhe, ukuvula i-peas kumntombazana wakhe umntwana-susa into embuzo kwaye umxelele ukuba uyayigcina ayiyi kusakwazi ukuhlala etafileni njengentombazana enkulu.
Omnye umzali ongeyithandayo xa abantwana behlafuna ngomlomo wabo ovulekile. Oku kunzima ukulungisa ngenxa yokuziphatha okufundiweyo. Ukuba emva kwezikhumbuzo ezimbalwa usenokubona oko umntwana wakho akudlayo, zama ukuzisa isibonakaliso sepokhethi kwitheyibhile uze ubonise umntwana wakho oko akwenzayo nendlela ibukeka ngayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha ngomlomo wakhe ukutya, isikhumbuzo esilula esithi "Chew uginye kuqala, uthethe," kufuneka wenze inkohliso.
Abanye abantwana baphosa ukutya kwabo, ingakumbi ukuba into ayithandiyo. Le enkulu enkulu-hayi. Tshela umntwana wakho xa ebeka into emlonyeni wakhe ukuba ahlabe kwaye awuginye ngokupheleleyo.
Utheni?
Imilinganiselo efanelekileyo ayikho nje ngokuthi "nceda" kwaye "siyabonga" (nangona iyingxenye enkulu yayo), kukwabelana ngokufundisa abantwana bakho into ongayithethi. Abantwana kule minyaka abanako ukuhlunga okufanelekileyo ukuthetha kunye noko kungenjalo, ngoko ke amathuba ukuba abayithandi into ebekwe phambi kwabo ukuba bayidle, baya kuba nezwi ngalo. Ngenhlanhla, ukukwazi ukucinga kuqala nokuthetha kamva kuza kubudala kunye nokusebenza. Mfundise i-adage, "Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha into enhle, ungathethi nantoni na." Chaza ukuba xa uthetha into ethile ithetha ngokutya okanye yenza ubuso obubi, kunokulimaza iimvakalelo zomntu ophekayo. Kunoko, bafundise ukuba badumise into ababeyithandayo ngokutya.
Ixesha lesidlo sakusihlwa lithuba elihle lokuqokelela wonke umntu ekupheleni komhla kwaye wabelane ngeziganeko ezizonwabisa kunye neendaba. Umfundi wakho wokufundela uya kuvuyela ukuthatha inxaxheba kulo mkhuba wemihla ngemihla kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kule nto inomdla kwintetho. Kubalulekile, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufunda ukulinda ithuba lokuthetha. Oku kunokuba yingxaki enzima kubantwana kule minyaka ukuqonda, ngoko kungathatha ixesha elithile. Yithi, "Ndifuna ukuba ulinde ngomzuzu omnye ngelixa udade uqedela ibali lakhe. Kuya kuba yithuba lakho." Umnye omnye kulo mgaqo ukuba ufuna ukuya kuhlambe.
Imithetho ebalulekileyo yokufundisa imilinganiselo yakho encinci kukuba kulungile ukuba wenza iiphoso. Ukufunda nokubonisa imbeko yinto ayenzayo ngaphezu kwexesha lokuphila kwakhe, ngokokuba ufundisa yena izakhono ezisisiseko kwaye usebenzela ukuphucula kubo, uya kuba nethemba kwiimeko zoluntu njengoko ekhula. Mhlawumbi ngolunye usuku uya kukubulela!