Into oyenzayo ibaluleke ngakumbi kunezinto othethayo.
Abantwana bahlala bebukela oko uyenzayo. Bona indlela ojongana ngayo noxinzelelo. Bajonga indlela ophatha ngayo abanye abantu. Bajonga indlela ojongana ngayo nemvakalelo yakho.
Bazama ukungena kuzo zonke iinkcukacha ezinjengeepongi ezincinane ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumzekelo omhle kumntwana wakho.
Xa wenza ngendlela ofuna ukuba umntwana wakho enze ngayo, uya kufunda ngokukujonga.
Ukuqaphela oko ulolu hlobo kungayinye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokufundisa umntwana wakho izakhono ezintsha.
I-Social Learning Theory
Ngokwe-Social Learning Theory, abantu bafunda ngokujonga abanye. Uvavanyo oludumileyo lweBo-Bo doll lubonise indlela abantwana abafunda ngayo ngokujonga abantu abadala. Emva kokufakazela umntu omdala waba nobudlova ngesidonsa esine-inflatable doll, abantwana bahlaselwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo akudingeki ukuba uvavanyo lwezesayensi luqaphele kodwa ukubonisa ukuba abantwana baxelisa abazali babo. Zingaphi izihlandlo ozibonayo amantombazana amancinci ebeka izithende zeenqanawa zawo kunye nokuzama ukubeka umlomo ukuze bajonge njengomama? Okanye bangaphi abafana abancinci bazenza ukuba bacebe ukuze babe njengotata? Abantwana baphinda oko bakuvileyo kwaye baxelisa oko bakubonayo.
Qaphela ukuba uModeli Wokuziphatha Ngengozi
Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali abangazi ukuba ziimpawu ezinobomi ezinganeni zabo. Emva koko, abantwana babo baqokelela kwezo ziphatha ezingekho emzimbeni.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:
- Unina utshela i-cashashi kwivenkile yokutyela yakhe unyana oneminyaka engama-12 ubudala kuphela 11 ngoko unokukwazi ukufumana isaphulelo kwi-buffet. Emva koko uyamemeza ngunyana wakhe kuba ulala xa uthi uyenze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo.
- Utata uchitha ubusuku bakhe abukela iTV kodwa utshele intombi yakhe eneminyaka eyi-14 ubudala ukuba ayifunde ngakumbi.
- Abazali baxelele abantwana babo ukuba baphathe bonke abantu ngenhlonipho kodwa bahlala bebeka iingcamango ezibukhali ngokubonakala kwabantu abavela kwiindaba.
- Isiqabane esivambileyo sichaza ngokubhekiselele kwimicimbi yokugcina kunye nokuvakasha kodwa ulindele ukuba abantwana bahlangane.
- Umama uxelela intombi yakhe ukuba ibe nomusa kwabanye kodwa uyamemeza kumgcini wesitolo xa ivenkile inqaba ukubuyisela into ayithembele ukuyifumana.
- Utata uxelele abantwana bakhe ukuba kufuneka badle ngokuphilileyo kodwa udibanisa i-dessert emva kokulala kwaye akawusebenzisi.
- Abazali bathetha abantwana babo ukuba bahlanganyele kwaye bavulele oko bangabandakanyekanga kuyo nayiphi na uhlobo lothando okanye umsebenzi wokuzithandela.
- Utata utshaya i-cigarettes kwaye ngelixa enesigarethi esandleni sakhe, uxelela abantwana bakhe ukuba ukutshaya kubi kwaye akufanele bathathe umkhuba ombi.
- Abazali bathetha abantwana babo ukuba bathathe uxanduva malunga nokuziphatha kwabo kodwa xa belibala malunga nokuqashwa kwamazinyo emntwaneni wabo, baphikisana nommkeli wamkela kwaye bamxelele ngokucacileyo ukuba wenza i-error program.
Landela iMithetho Yakho
Kunzima kakhulu ukubonakalisa ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kubantwana bakho lonke ixesha. Nangona kunjalo, unamathuba imihla ngemihla ukubonelela abantwana bakho ngamava okufunda ukuze bakwazi ukubona indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Nangona unako ukufumana amathuba ocinga ukuba afanele ukugoba imithetho encinane, abantwana abakwazi ukwenza oku. Umzekelo, ukuba uthetha "amanga amhlophe" ngokuxelela umngane wakho awukwazi ukumnceda ukuba ahambe ngenxa yokuba "unentloko" kodwa uya kwelinye inxaxheba ekuhlaleni, abantwana bakho baya kufunda ukuba ukuxoka kuyamkeleka.
Bonisa abantwana bakho indlela yokulandela imithetho yakho yasekhaya . Sebenzisa uqeqesho olufundisa izakhono zobomi kwaye uchaze indlela imithetho eya kubanceda ngayo kamva ebomini. Ukuba ubonisa abantwana ukuba uyayixabisa imithetho yekhaya , iya kwandisa ukuphumelela kwezicwangciso zakho zokuziphatha.
Izakhono ezintsha zeZakhono
Xa ufuna ukufundisa umntwana wakho into entsha, nokuba yintoni indlela yokwenza umbhede wakhe okanye ukubopha izicathulo zakhe, mbonise indlela oyenzayo ngayo. Emva koko, makabe esebenza ngokwabo. Ukubonisa, kunokuba uxelele, inokuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuba abantwana bafunde iindlela ezahlukeneyo zezakhono.