Ukuvutha komoya kuyisigaba esenza bonke abantwana baqhube
Abazali bomntwana omtsha bachithe unyaka wokuqala wobomi babo bomntwana beza bazi izimo zakhe. Kodwa ngokuzungeze ukuzalwa kwabo kokuqala, iintsana ziqala ukuba zilungele ukuxhamla , ezinokubamba ngisho nomzali obalaseleyo. Umxholo womntwana unokukhawuleza uqukumbele ngokugcwele njengokuba utshintshiweyo.
Phakathi kokumemeza, kubalulekile ukuba umzali ahlale ethule, nangona kunokuba nzima.
Ingcambu yeentlungu ezininzi zikhungathekile. Kungathatha ixesha lomntwana omncinane ukuba afunde indlela yokuziveza ngayo, kwaye ukuxhuma phakathi kokufunayo kunye noko bazama ukukusho ngokuqhelekileyo kuyindawo apho kuqalisa ukuqhuma.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba uyamkhathalela ngeemfuno zakhe, ngoko ngexesha lezidanga zenza okusemandleni akho ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha ugcina imida yokuziphatha enempilo yengane yakho.
Ngethuba lokudabuka, ingcali yomzali, u- Elizabeth Pantley uncoma ukuba abazali baqale baqwalasele ukuba ingqungquthela yintoni impawu yento enye, njengokhathala okanye indlala . Amaxesha amaninzi iintsana ezixhasayo ziza kusebenza, kuba ziziva ziphazamiseke.
Indlela Yokuthintela Iimantrum
Isitshixo sokuthintela izidumbu kukukhumbula izidingo zomntwana wakho kwaye ulindele. Kwakhona, masigxininise ukuba oku akulula, kwaye ukuba umama okanye utata ukhathele kwaye udidekile ngokunjalo, kunzima nakakhulu.
Indlela evivinyayo neyinyaniso yokuthintela utywala obangelwa kukukhungatheka kukugcina umntwana wakho ngendlela eqikelelweyo. Isikhathi sokuvuka, ixesha lesidlo sasekuseni, ixesha le-nap, ixesha lokulala, njl., Kufuneka ulandele iipateni ezifanayo kaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Oku kuqikelela kubanika abantwana abancinci ingqiqo yokhuseleko, ekhuthaza kakhulu.
Ngeentsuku xa uyazi ukuba isimiso siya kuphazamiseka (inzala kunye nogogo bayaziphazamisa, nangona iinjongo zabo zihlala zilungile), zama ukucwangcisa ngokufanelekileyo, nokuba oko kuthetha umvuzo owongezelelekileyo wokuziphatha kakuhle , okanye u-impromptu nap ukuba umntwana ekhangele .
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho ndlela yokungaziphathi kakuhle ukuqinisekisa ukuziphatha okugqibeleleyo ngamaxesha onke, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuhlangabezana nexhala ngexesha elithile, kungakhathaliseki ukuba usebenza nzima kangakanani ukukhusela. Abantwana banamaqhina angenanto yokuba baphonononge ukukhwaza kwabo kwivenkile okanye kwindawo yokutyela. Khawukhumbule ukuba xa usabela ngokuxhalabile, ukukhungatheka, okanye umsindo, uphethilo oluthe xaxa uya kufakwa emlilweni. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuhlala uzolile, uthetha ngelizwi eliqinileyo kodwa elithobileyo. Ukuchukumisa ngomnene kunokunceda ukunceda umsindo. Khumbula kule minyaka, umntwana wakho uya kufuna uncedo ukuhlalisa. Akulona isakhono ayenalo okwangoku.
Enye into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule: Musa ukuvumela umntwana osemdala okanye umntwana osemncinci ukuba asebenze ngokugqithiseleyo okanye ukuziphatha okungavumelekanga ukuba athole oko akufunayo. Ukuba uyangena kwaye uthenge le nto yokudlala ukuyeka ukukhala okufanelekileyo, uya kugxininisa ukuziphatha okungalunganga. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unxungulo kwaye unomda wokungaphaya kokulawula, okanye kuthatha ixesha elide ukumnciphisa, le nto ingaba yinto enokuxoxa ngayo nodokotela wezilwanyana , ukuqinisekisa ukuba ayikho inkalo enkulu enxulumene nempilo. .
Gcina Ipholile Yakho (Nangona ingaba yinto eqinekileyo)
Ukongezelela, i-mindset yakho inokukunceda njani ukuba usabele njani. Yiba nokulindela okufanelekileyo ukuphuhliswa kwengane yakho. Yiba nesineke nomntwana wakho xa esesimweni esitsha okanye nabantu abatsha. Sebenzisana nomntwana wakho njengoko efunda izakhono ezintsha kwaye akwazi ukuphazamiseka.
Qinisekisa ukuba uzenze ikhefu, kwakhona; Abazali abaninzi, ngokukhethekileyo abazali bokuqala, bazigxeka okanye bacinge ukuba iphoso labo xa umntwana wabo ekhupha. Isigaba esiqhelekileyo sokuphuhliswa komntwana ngamnye, kwaye asihlali ngonaphakade (nangona ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi akupheli).
Ngokugcina intloko epholileyo kwaye ubonise umntwana wakho onokukhathalela ngeemfuno zakhe, uya kufudukela kwiminyaka yokudabuka.