Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba wakho uqala ukutshata
Imiphumo yokuthandana kwangaphambi kwexesha elineshumi elinesibini ayizange ifundwe kakuhle, ngokuyininzi ngenxa yokuba "ukuthandana" phambi kwe-13 yayisetyenziselwa ukuthetha kuphela ukuhamba kwimini yeqela okanye "ukuphuma" ngaphandle kwenene. Le ntsuku, nangona kunjalo, i-tweigh isenza ngaphezulu nangakumbi njengabantwana abaselula, ukwenza enye-nye enye phakathi kokuthandana ngokuqhelekileyo. Nantsi yintoni uphando olusitshela ngalo ngemiphumo emibi yokuthandana nomntwana omnye; ezi ziphumo zingenza abazali baqonde indlela abajamelene nayo xa bethola, kunye nendlela abazali abangabancedisa ngayo kwaye baholele kwiminyaka yokudana.
Iingcali ezininzi zophuhliso lwabantwana ziyavuma ukuba ukuqala kokuthandana kuqala, kungaba yingozi ngakumbi, ngoko abazali bafanele benze oko banako, ngenxa yezizathu, ukuyeka ukutshatisa intando kunye nokukhuthaza ukuba bafumane ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuzaliseka ngemisebenzi yamanye amazwe, iimfuno kunye nobuhlobo.
Ulwalamano olusondeleyo ngoMeyi luyakwandisa ukuxinezeleka nokunyameka
Ukufumana ubuntwaba bukhuni ngokwaneleyo, kwaye ukuthandana kunokukwenza kube nzima nakakhulu. Iintsholongwane ezithandanayo zothando zivame ukuba nemiba eninzi kunezinto eziselula. Okokuqala, ukuguquka kwemizwelo kubonakala kunzima kakhulu kubafundi abathandanayo kunye nentsha ebuhlotsheni babo. Okwesibini, iimpawu zokudakumba zixhaphake phakathi kokuthandana nentsha kunabanye abangenalo ukuthandana. Iimpawu ezinxunguphako ziyakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ukuba zenzeke i-break-ups ezijikelezayo. Enyanisweni, phakathi kwabaselula abahlakulela ingxaki enkulu yokudandatheka, ikhefu-yintsibano yinto eqhelekileyo ekhupha ingxaki.
I-Pween Deating May ingenza iingxabano
Uninzi lwabazali bayazi ukuba iminyaka engama-20 ubudala iya kuba yimpikiswano emininzi, kwaye ukutshata kungenza kube nzima nakakhulu. Iintsholongwane ezinxulumene nothando zithetha ukuba ziphikisana ngakumbi ebomini babo kunokuba zitshatile zontanga. Ezi ngxabano zenzeka zombini phakathi kobudlelwane kwaye zijikeleze ubudlelwane.
Iintsholongwane zivame ukungavumelani nabazali ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo. Abahlobo nabo banokukhungatheka malunga nesixa sithuba esichithwa kunye nezinye ezibalulekileyo.
Ukuthandana kwangaphambili kweeMeyi kungabakhokelela kwixesha elide kunye nabahlobo
Xa abafana kunye nentsha ibandakanyeka ekuthandaneni, basoloko bebalahla ubungane babo. Kuye kwafunyanwa ukuba njengabantwana abaselula bayabandakanyeka ekuthandeni, bahlala bengabandakanyekanga nabahlobo, bathengise ixesha kunye nomnye. Enyanisweni, i-70% yabantombazana abaselula kwibudlelwane bachithe ixesha elincinci nomhlobo wabo omhle kunokuba babe nekhwenkwe yabo. Iintsholongwane ezithandanayo zingaphuthelwa kukuphuhliswa kwentlalo kunye nentlalo eyenzekayo kwimeko yesini nesini kunye nobudlelwane obungenalo uthando .
Ulwalamano oluPhakathi luyandisa Ubungqina Bokuziphatha Ngezesondo
Mhlawumbi ngokucacileyo, abafana kunye nabaselula abasemabambeni banakho amathuba okubandakanya izenzo zesondo kunezoontanga zabo. Ukuhlangana kwezesondo kubonakala ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abaselula abasondeleyo ubudlelwane xa befaniswa nabaselula abasemngciphekweni wobudlelwane obungasondelanga. Kuqheleke ngakumbi kwiintsholongwane ezithatha ubusuku bokuqala . Ngenxa yokunyuka kwengozi yokuthengisa ii-STI kunye / okanye ukhulelwe, ukwandiswa komsebenzi wesondo akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Qinisekisa ukuba phakathi kwakho uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni ukuziphatha kwakhe, kwaye unike umntwana wakho izixhobo afunekayo ukuze enze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo malunga nemizimba yazo.
Ukuthandana kwangaphambili kwe-Meyi kungena kunye nezinye iingxaki
Izifundo ezininzi ziye zafumanisa ukuba phakathi kunye nolutsha lokutshata ludibana nenani leempembelelo ezinobungozi . Enye, abantwana abaselula banxulumana nokusebenzisa utywala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye baninzi kunokuba babo baontanga. Enyanisweni, kufunyenwe ukuba njengokuba abantwana bebandakanyeka ekuthandeni, ukusetyenziswa kwabo kotywala kunokunyuka ngexesha elinye. Okwesibini, ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsha kuhlanganiswe nokuziphatha kakubi kubandakanya ukuba, ukutshabalalisa impahla kunye nokukhohlisa.
Ekugqibeleni, imiba yezemfundo ibonakala ibe mkhulu phakathi kwabantwana abancinci kunye nabaselula abanobudlelwane kunabo abangekho. Ingaba ezi ngxaki ziziphatha ngenxa yokuthandana okanye ziza kunye nomntwana osemtshatweni uhlala exutyushwa.
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