Iintsomi zivela kwi-egocentrism ye-adolescence
Umntwana wakho uya kuhamba kwiinqanaba ezininzi ngelixa esesendleleni yokuya emva. Akuqhelekanga kubafundi bezikolo eziphakathi kunye nabafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo ukuba bahlakulele "inyaniso". Inkolelo enjalo yintsholongwane efana nentsha kunye nengaphezulu emininzi yeenkolelo ezivela kwi- teenager egocentrism , eqhubeka phakathi kweminyaka eyi-11 no-13.
Inkolelo eyona nto inkolelo yentsholongwane yokuba uyona ikhethekileyo kwaye ayifani nawuphi na umntu owake wahamba emhlabeni.
Ngobuqu, abo bantu baziwa ngokuthi "iinqwelo zekhephu ezikhethekileyo." Ngamanye amazwi, umfana ucinga ukuba kuba abanye bacaciswe ngokucacileyo nguye (u-teenager egocentrism), kufuneka abe ngumntu oyingqayizivele (inyaniso).
Funda kabanzi malunga nokuphuhliswa kwezazisi kunye neempembelelo ezinokubangela ukuhlaziywa kwefable.
Iingcali Zakho Ziqhelekileyo
Ukuba uyakrokreka ukuba phakathi kwakho okanye umntwana osemva uye wahlakulela intsomi yakhe, ungakhathazeki ukuba umntwana wakho uya kukhula ukuba abe yindiskritist okanye ozimeleyo. Ukukholelwa kwintsikelelo eyintsikelelo yintlupheko eqhelekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo . Ngelishwa, inkolelo ingaba nemiphumo emibi.
Ngokukodwa, inyaniso iyinto enokubangela ukuba phakathi okanye intombazana ikholelwe ukuba akukho nto embi inokwenzeka kumntu ogqithiseleyo njengoko ngokwakhe. Ngamanye amagama, ekubeni ekhethekileyo, kufuneka abe ngumngcipheko.
Olunye uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba inkolelo kwizinto ezithembekileyo kunye nokuxhatshazwa komntu ngokuxhomekeke ngqo kwizinto eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha ezinjengobunqunu okanye ukungavumelekanga ngokwesondo, ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye iziyobisi ezingekho mthethweni, kunye nezenzo eziyingozi, ezifana nokuqhuba ngaphandle kwelayisenisi okanye ukuqhuba ngokungakhathali okanye ngexesha lokuxiliswa.
Unokudinga ukubonisana nomcebisi, ugqirha okanye omnye umqeqeshi wempilo yengqondo ukulwa nalezi ziphatho. Okona kuncinci, wena kunye neqela lakho kufuneka ube neengxoxo ezininzi ngeengozi kunye nokukhuseleko.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iifayili zobuqu zibuye zenze ukuba abantu abathathu nabaselula bakholelwe ukuba banamandla onke, okanye banamandla amakhulu, abangenalo kwabanye. Le nkolelo inokuphucula indlela umntwana aguqula ngayo utshintsho okanye iingxaki ebomini kwaye unokuphuculula ukuzixabisa.
Ukwahlukana phakathi kweeNkohlakalo zobuqu kunye nokuzimela
Ukukholelwa kwintsimi efanelekileyo akufanele kudideke nokuba ne- self-esteem . AmaTweens okanye abatsha abanokuzithoba bahlala benesibindi somntu ongeyakho. Enyanisweni, banokuqonda ukuba zabo izigwebo ezibalulekileyo njengokuba "ubungqina" babo obukhethekileyo-akukho mntu ucinga ngokucokisekileyo njengoko benzayo. Ngamanye amazwi, bonke abantwana abaselula bayakholelwa ukuba bazodwa, nokuba ngaba abayicingi ukuba "bahle".
Imvelaphi yeSigxina seNkcazo
Isazi seengqondo uDavid Elkind wayengowokuqala ukuchaza into eyenziwa ngumntwana osemtsha eyaziwa ngokuba yinkohlakalo. U-Elkind waqulunqa le ngxelo kwi-1967 ethi "I-Egocentrism kwi-Adolescence."
Udidi lukaElkind lwelo lizwe ulutsha lwakhiwa kwiingcamango zikaPiaget zokuphuhliswa kwentsha. Le ngqungquthela ibonisa indlela abafana abangafani ngayo phakathi kwabo nabanye, kubakhokelela ukuba bacinge ukuba abanye bafana nabo njengokuba baxhamle nabo. UPiaget wafumanisa ukuba isimo sengqondo esasengumntwana esisishumi esasengumntwana asixhomekeke kwinyani. KUNCEDA le nto engqondweni, uElkind wasebenzisa eli lizwi eliyimfihlelo ekuchazeni amabali angamanga abaselula bathetha ngokuphathelele indawo yabo kwihlabathi.
Umthombo:
> Elkind D. I-Egocentrism kwi-Adolescence. Uphuhliso lwabantwana. 1967. 38: 1025-1034.