Ngaba uye wakha wazibuza ukuba ngaba phakathi kwakho ucinga ukuba ihlabathi lijikeleze kuye? Akunakuba kude ne nyaniso.
I-teenage teen egocentrism yintsholongwane yabaselula kunye nabadala abadala ukuba abanye banamathele ngokuziphatha kwabo nokubonakala kwabo. Okokuthi, abantwana abaselula bayakholelwa ukuba onke amehlo ahlala kuwo onke amaxesha. I-egocentrism ye-Adolescent isingqinisiso esiqhelekileyo sokuphuhliswa kwengqondo .
Ngamanye amazwi, intsha kunye nama-tweens asebekhulile abakwazi ukuyeka ukuzigcina bengabantwana abangakwazi ukulungisa ukukwazi kwabo ukuthetha. I-egocentrism engumntwana osemncinci ibonakala ijikeleze malunga neminyaka eyi-11 okanye eyi-12 ubudala kwaye ikhupha iminyaka engama-15 okanye-16.
Nangona kunokuba nzima ukuba ngumzali ophakathi phakathi kwabo bacinga ukuba onke amehlo ayenaye , abazali kufuneka babe nesineke baze baqonde ukubona umntwana wabo kwisigaba sokuphila ngokuxhasa nokuqonda.
I-egocentrism ye-Adolescent ixhomekeke kwiintlobo ezininzi eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abaselula bahlala bechitha iiyure baziqhelisa ngenxa yokuba bacinga, "wonke umntu uya kubona ukuba andibukeka kakuhle." Bakhathazeka kakhulu xa befumana intloni encinci, njengokuba behla i-tray yabo kwindawo yokutya, kuba bacinga ukuba, "wonke umntu uyakubona kwaye uya kukukhumbula ngonaphakade!"
I-teenage egocentrism ekhulayo yenza ukuba iinkolelo ezimbini ezinxulumene nazo zibonwe kwiminyaka emibini kunye nentsha: " abaphulaphuli abanokucinga " kunye " neengqiqo ."
Ingqiqo ye-teenage egocentrism yathethwa kuqala ngumbhali weengqondo uDavid Elkind.
Ngaba i-Egocentrism ingxaki?
Njengoko kunomsindo njengoko kunokwenzeka ukufaka ubungqina, i-egocentrism yakho yeyona nto ayiyona nje into eqhelekileyo yophuhliso, kuyimfuneko. Ewe, zonke izinto ezizimeleyo ziba yinto enhle. Bonke abafana nabaselula abanomdla bafumana ubuncinane be-egocentrism njengengxenye yentuthuko yabo yokuqonda.
Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba yi-egocentric inokuxhasa ukuphuhliswa kobuqu kunye nokukhula. Ukucinga ngokuzikhethela kungakhuthaza ulutsha ukuba luyeke kwiintsapho zabo kwaye lube nolwazi olulodwa , inkqubo ebizwa ngokuba ngabanye. Oku kubalulekile kuba umntu ngamnye ngumnye weenjongo eziphambili - ukuba awuyiyo injongo ephambili - yobutsha.
Umvuzo wePhasi
Njengoko ubona ubungqina bakho beshumi eliqhubekayo ukuziphatheka, ukugqiba nokwenza konke malunga nabo, ukuchaza izinto abazikhethayo ngaphandle kokubuzwa, nokuvukela nantoni na engayifanelekanga kwizicwangciso zabo, jonga ukuziphatha kwabo njengokudala iprogram. Akukho ndawo yokungabonakali ekwakheni isakhiwo. Ukuba ungumyili wezakhiwo, kufuneka ucace malunga nazo zonke iinkcukacha zesakhiwo. Ngenxa yokuba ubuntwaba lixesha apho i-tween yakho ihamba ukusuka kwinqanaba ukuya kubulumko-bulumko, vumela ukuba basebenze imibala yeempawu zabo phantsi kolawulo lwakho ngaphandle kokunciphisa kakhulu. Nangona kungabonakali, zonke ziyazilungiselela ukuba zikhulile kwaye zijongene nehlabathi zodwa.
Izixhobo ze-Egocentrism
Iingcamango ezizimeleyo zikhuthaza abantu ngabanye ngamacandelo amabini egocentrism: inyaniso kunye nabaphulaphuli.
Inkolelo eyona nto inkolelo yokuba umntwana uyingqayizivele kwaye uyingqayizivele. Inceda umntu ngamnye ngokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba azicabangele njengento ehlukeneyo esikhundleni sokuba ilungu leyunithi yentsapho. Abaphulaphuli bacinga ukuba umntwana akholwe ukuba oontanga bakhe bahlolisisa kwaye bathetha ngayo yonke into. Njengengqiqo, le nto yokwenza ukuba umntwana azivelele njengento ekhethekileyo yokuzimela . Kwakhona kunceda umntu ngokubamba ingqalelo kwiintsebenziswano zoluntu ezingabandakanyi intsapho-nangona ininzi yale "ntsebenziswano" ingqondweni yengqondo yomntwana!
I-Egocentrism kunye nangaphandle
Kungabi mnandi ukuba nomntwana osemncinci wendlu yakho. Emva koko, ngubani ofuna ukuhlala kunye nomntu ocinga ukuba ungokoqobo kwaye uyabukela? Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ubuntu bomntwana wakho mhlawumbi buya kuba ngcono kuyo. Okokuthi, qaphela ukuba iingxaki zengxaki zivela kwiingcamango ezizimeleyo-kuquka ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi , ukuthatha ingozi, ukuphazamiseka kokutya, izinto zokuzithemba, kunye nokutshabalalisa - kwaye ulungele ukungenelela xa kuyimfuneko, kwaye ube ngumzali wakho ukuba ube.
Umthombo:
Elkind, Ph.D., David. I-Egocentrism kwi-Adolescence. Uphuhliso lwabantwana. 1967. 38: 1025-1034.
Vartanian, Lesa Rae. Ukuhlaziywa kwabaphulaphuli abacatshulwayo kunye neengqiqo ezithembekileyo ezakhiweyo ze-egocentrism yeselula: Ukuphononongwa ngcamango. Ubutsha. (2000). 35 (140): 639-661.