Uninzi lwabazali bayazi ukuba abafana nabaselula baya kuthatha isenzo, okungenani ngamanye amaxesha. Ezi ziphatha ezimbi ziyaziwa njengezigqithiso zokuziphatha. Ziziphi iimpawu zokuziphatha ngaphandle? Ngamafutshane, zizenzo ezihambisa amandla engxaki ngaphandle. Funda ukujonga iziphathamandla ezinjalo ngemimiselo elandelayo kwaye ufumane iingcebiso ngendlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nokuziphatha okunjalo kuma-teen and teen with this review.
Ukuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo akunakukukhokelela kuphela abantu abaselula ukuba bangene kwiimeko ezintle kodwa bangashiya imiphumo emide ebomini babo.
Ukucacisa ukuxhaswa kwezilwanyana kunye nemizekelo
Umntwana okanye umntu omdala obonisa ukuziphatha ngaphandle kweendlela aziphathe kakubi kwabanye ngokuchasene nokuziqhayisa (oko kwaziwa ngokuba ngabaziphatha ngokuziphatha ). Ukuziphatha okugqithisileyo kubandakanya ukunyanzelisa, ukuxhaphaza ngamazwi, ulwalamano olusenyongweni , ukunyaniseka, ukweba, nokuchithwa.
I-Tweens ibonisa iimpawu ezininzi ezingaphandle, ngakumbi xa zixakeke okanye zineminye imingeni eqhubekayo ebomini babo. Abafana banamathuba amaninzi kunamantombazana okubonakalisa ukuziphatha okugqithiseleyo ngaphandle kokuziphatha kakubi, njengento yokuxhaphaza ngokwenyama, kodwa ngokubanzi, amanqanaba okugonyana afanayo phakathi kwezesondo.
I-Adolescents Extremable to Externalizing and Internalizing Behaviors
Ixesha elininzi, i-tweens kunye nentsha ibonisa ukuphuma ngaphandle kokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kwangaphakathi.
Iintsholongwane zingaphahlalisa ipropati (ukuziphatha kwangaphandle) esikolweni ngelixa kusetyenziswa iziyobisi okanye utywala (ukuziphatha kwangaphakathi). Abazali banokuba nomntwana omnye othembela ekugqithiseni iziphathamandla ukuhlangabezana kunye nomnye othembela ekuziphatheni ngokuziphatha. Nangona umntwana wangaphambili angathathwa njengengxaki yomntwana, bobabini abantwana bafuna uncedo kunye nokungenelela ngaphambi kokuba bazilimaze ngokwabo okanye kwabanye.
Iziphumo
Abantwana ababonisa ukuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo bangajongana nemiphumo emininzi yokuziphatha kwabo. Kwinqanaba elincinci, oku kungabandakanya amanqaku athunyelwe ekhaya ukusuka kootitshala abachaphazelekayo ngokuziphatha kokuphazamiseka kwentsha eklasini. Oku kunokunyuka ukuya ekugcinweni kwesikolo, ukumiswa okanye ukugxothwa. Ezinye izikolo zinemigaqo-nkqubo yokunyamezela okubandakanya ukusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuxhatshazwa okanye izixhobo. Ngoko ke, abantwana ababandakanya ukuziphatha okugqithiseleyo basebenzisa ezi ndlela bangakufumana bekhishwe esikolweni.
Okubi nakakhulu, abantwana abazenzayo esikhundleni sokungena ngaphakathi (ukuziphatha ngendlela yokuziphatha) bangabanjwa bebanjelwe ukweba, ukuchithwa okanye ukuhlaselwa, okanye banokujamelana nemiphumo esikolweni ezifana nokuxoshwa. Oku kunokuphawula ukuqala kohambo olude kwinkqubo yobulungisa bobugebengu ukuba ukuziphatha akulungiswa.
Isizathu sokuba abantwana babonise ukunyusa amaxabiso
Abantwana bangenza izinto ngeendlela ezilimaza abanye ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Basenokuba maxhoba ngokuphatheka kakubi ngokomzimba, ngokwesondo nangokomzwelo. Basenokulahlekelwa ngumzali okanye omnye osondeleyo osondeleyo ekufeni okanye abanokuqhawula umtshato, ukushiya abazali okanye ezinye iimeko ezibuhlungu, ezifana nobudlova basekhaya, ukuvalelwa komzali okanye ingxaki yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi zomzali.
Abanye abantwana abazenzayo ezindleleni eziwonakalisayo banokugula ngenxa yokugula ngengqondo okanye ukuphazamiseka komntu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abaninzi abantwana abanokukhubazeka ukufunda bazama ukugqithisa ingqwalasela kwinto yokuba bafumana ubunzima bokufunda. Ukukhishwa ngaphandle kweklasi kunokubonakala kubethanda kubo kunokuba ukukhubazeka kwabo ukufunda kuvezwe.
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu sokuba abantwana bahlanganyele ekukhuliseni ukuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuba bafumane uncedo nokungenelela. Oku kungaquka ukucebisa, unyango okanye ukuvavanya ukukhubazeka kokufunda okanye ingxaki. Thetha notitshala womntwana okanye umlawuli malunga nokufumana uncedo okanye uqhagamshelane neengcali zonyango.
Umthombo:
IiNqanaba, uVicky. Ukuqonda i-Psychology engaqhelekanga yabantwana, u-Ishicilelo lwesiBini. 2008. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Son.