Kukho bobabini inzuzo kunye neqhayiya ekubeni neempawu ezinamandla "zokuvumelana".
Ukungqinelana ngenye yezinto ezintlanu ezisisiseko, okanye iimpawu, zobuntu ngokuphathelele "i-Big Five" yombono wobuntu. Ezinye iindlela ezine ziquka:
- Ukongezwa: Abantu abongezelelweyo banamandla amakhulu, banonxibelelwano, kwaye banokuthintana.
- Ukuvumelanisa: Abantu abanamkeleko baneempawu ezifana nobubele , ukuthembela, kunye nokunyaniseka.
- Unembeza: Impawu zobunono ziquka ukulawulwa ngamandla , kugxila kwiinjongo, ukuthembeka kunye nokugcina ixesha.
- I-Neuroticism: Abantu abane-neurotic abanomzwelo, bexhala, bahlaziyekile kwaye banomsindo.
- Ukuvuleka: Ukucinga , ukuqonda, kunye neminqweno emininzi yonke inxalenye yalo mfanelo wobuntu.
Umntu onamanqatha aqinileyo ekuvunyelweneyo nguye ojoliswe ngabantu. Uya kuba nobunzulu bezentlalo, ujonge ubudlelwane beqela, ubonise uthando ngokulula, kwaye ufumene kulula ukusebenzisana nabanye . Abo bantu abaphawula kule mpawu bakuthola kunzima ukusebenzisana kakuhle nabanye, bagweme ukuxhasana ngamaqela, bavame ukungathembeli kwabanye, kwaye banezakhono zentlalo ezihluphekileyo . Uninzi lwabantu luwela ngapha phakathi kwezinto ezimbini ezigqithiseleyo.
Ukuvumelanisa kuthatha ukwandisa ngokukhawuleza kude kube ngumdala. Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba abantwana kunye nentsha bafikelele kwixesha lokuvumelanisa okuphantsi, njengokuba ngexesha lokutshatyalaliswa. Nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ezinye i-tweens ziza kuba zivumelekile ngakumbi kunabanye xa zijongene nezinguqu kwimimandla yazo kunye neengcinezelo kwindawo yazo.
Ngaba Kukulungele Ukuba Kuyamkeleka?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ihlala ihlanganiswe ukuba ibe namandla okusebenzisana, ukuhlalisana, nokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye. Kwaye abantu "abathandekayo" banokukwenza kakuhle kwiindawo apho ezi zakhono zibalulekile. Ezinye izinto zibandakanya:
- Ukuthengisa kunye nobudlelwane boluntu
- Ezengqesho
- Ukuxhaswa kwemali
- Ezinye iintlobo zokuthengisa
- Kwezopolitiko
- Ulawulo lweMicimbi
- Fundisa
Ukuvumelanisa, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba neengxaki. Abantu abathandekayo, umzekelo, banokufumana kunzima ukusebenza bodwa, bahlalutye ubuqiniso beengxabano, benze izigqibo ezinzima, okanye banike iindaba ezimbi. Ngenxa yoko, izinga eliphantsi lokuvumelana lingenza kube lula ukuphumelela kwizinto ezifana nale:
- Mayeza
- Wamajoni
- Sayensi
- Itheyetha okanye iCritic Critic
- Ulawulo oluphezulu
- U shishino
Ngaba Abantu Bangaba Ngakumbi okanye Abavumelekanga?
Iqondo apho umntu anika khona iimpawu ezithile zixhomekeke kubuntu obungenangqondo, kodwa kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwiimeko. Nangona umntu ovumelekileyo kakhulu unokungavumi kakhulu xa ejongene nokuncintisana ngokuthe ngqo kumthombo obalulekileyo okanye amathuba abalulekileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uphando lubonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukwandisa ukuvumelana ngoku:
- Ukuboniswa kwimizekelo emihle
- Ukuqwalaselwa (umntu obukeleyo unokuvunywa kakhulu)
- Ukufikelela okulula kumathuba okuziphatha ngendlela engenakuzikhethela
Kwakhona kuyinto eyamangalisa kukuba abantwana abancinane kakhulu, ngokubanzi, banokuzimela ngakumbi kunabantu abadala. Kungenzeka ukuba amava abantu abadala kunye neentsikelelo zobomi benza ukuba babe novelwano olukhulu kwabanye intlungu.
Kungakho nokuba imfundo okanye imfundiso yenkolo inempembelelo enkulu ekuvumelaneni. Ingcaciso yesithathu ingaba kukuba sifunda, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuba abantu abaninzi banakho ukufaka izicelo zethu xa siqala ukwakha ubudlelwane obuthembayo.
> Umthombo:
Rathus, PhD, Spencer. I-Psychology: IiNkcazo kunye neeNxibelelwano, iNgcaciso emfutshane. Lwe-8. 2007. UBelmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.