Kungabangela uxinzelelo ukubukela umntwana wakho ekujongeni ukulahlwa. Nangona ufuna ukuza kubakhusela, kule minyaka yobudala, kubalulekile ukuba ubanike izixhobo zokusingatha ukwahlulelwa kwentlalo ngokwabo. Nazi izicwangciso onokuzithatha ukuze uncede umntwana wakho asebenze ngokuchaswa kwakhe.
1. Khuthaza Umntwana Wakho Ukucinga Ngokugatywa
Ukulahlwa kwezenhlalakahle kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba ihlasela ezinye iimfuno ezingundoqo zengqondo kule nqanaba lokuphuhlisa.
Iintlungu zokuqala zokulahlwa zidla ngokudlulayo, nangona kunjalo, xa umntwana ebonakalisa imeko, banokufumana kulula ukulawula. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuphatha ukuchaswa ngokukhuthaza lo mfanekiso. Okokuqala, yenza umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ukuba ngubani owenzile ukukhanyela: ngaba ngumntu oyinyaniso, umhlobo wesikhathi eside okanye umhlobo nje owaziwayo? Okwesibini, khuthaza uhlangothi lwakho ukuba ucinge ukuba kutheni ukukhanyeka kwenzeke: ngaba umntwana wakho wenza ngokusemthethweni into engalunganga, okanye ngaba ontanga bakhe ngamagama ngamabomu okanye ngokunyanisekileyo bamlinganisa umntwana wakho. Amanyathelo alandelayo aya kuxhomekeka kwimpendulo ethile kule mibuzo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zeziphi iimpendulo, nangona kunjalo, isenzo nje sokubonakalisa sinokukunceda umntwana ukuba angaphaya kweentlungu zokuqala zengxowankulu kwindawo ephilileyo yengqondo.
2. Fundisa ukungafani phakathi kokugxeka okwakhiwa kunye nokuphathwa kakubi komlomo
Ngenxa yesidingo esikhethekileyo sokuba i-tweven iyakwamukelwa kwintlalo, ingaba novelwano lokungavumiyo okungaqinisekisiwe.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana wakho okokugxekwa okubalulekileyo kubonakala ngathi ukuhlukunyezwa ngamagama. Cacisa ukubaluleka kokufunda injongo yokulimaza okanye injongo yokunceda phakathi kwakho. Bafundise ukuba babuze imibuzo efana nale, kutheni nitsho oko, uthini na loo nto, uzama ukundinceda njani, njl. Ngokubafundisa ukuba bacele ukucacisa imibuzo, banokuqonda ngakumbi xa ukugxeka okwakhiwe kubo .
Ngokufanayo, bafundise ukuba ukuxhaphazwa ngomlomo kubonakala ngathi kukuhlekisa, ukuhlazisa abantu kunye nokunyanzelisa. Ngokubonisa umntwana wakho indlela yokutshutshisa ngamagama, banokukhetha abahlobo babo kunye nabahlobo babo, kunye nokufunda ukunika uxeka.
3. I-Bolster I-Skills Social Skills
Ukwenqatshelwa kwezenhlalakahle kungahle kwenzeke kwi-catty, izizathu ezingenasisiseko okanye ngenxa yezizathu ezingahambelani nomntwana othile . Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, izakhono zoluntu ezihluphekileyo zentlalo zingabangela ityala. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, unokugxila ekufundiseni umntwana wakho ukuba afunde kangcono iimpawu zoluntu-njengokuba umntu ezama ukuphelisa intetho okanye xa umntu exakeke kakhulu ukuthetha. Ungakhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba agweme ngaphezu kweenkcukacha zomntu kunye nokuba ngumphulaphuli ongcono. Ungakwazi ukufundisa ezi ziphatha ngokuzifanisa. Ungaphinda ukhombe iziganeko xa umntwana wakho enza okungaphantsi kweentlalo ezinqwenelekayo, ngelixa edibeneyo kumdumisa ngenxa yexesha eliziphatha ngayo. Uninzi lwabantwana abaye bafumana i-ostracism baya kuvuleka kakhulu kwezi zifundo. Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana bavame ukuba baqaphele ngokwemvelo malunga neentlalo emva kokuba benqatshiwe.
4. Nciphise ukuboniswa komntwana wakho kwiiNkcazo ezibuhlungu
Nangona amanxeba angokwenyama aphilisa ngokukhawuleza, intlungu yengqondo yokuchaswa kwentlalo inokuhlala ixesha elide.
Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba intlungu yengqondo inokuziva ihlambulukile ngexesha ngalinye ukukhanyelwa kwengqondo, kuxhomekeke kwizifundo zengqondo. Imiba ephathelele ukugatywa ingakhuthaza ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka agwenywe xa kunokwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba oontanga abaye baxosha umntwana wakho babebalandeli abakhulu beqela lomculo othile, unokuphepha ukuxoxa ngaleyo qela okanye ukudlala umculo xa umntwana wakho emotweni. Ungakhokelela ukuba ungabuzi imibuzo malunga nabahlobo abambisene nabo bobabini umntanakho kunye noontanga owenzayo. Kakade, awukwazi ukukhusela umntwana wakho kuzo zonke izikhombo; ukuba wayenqatshelwe esikolweni, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufuneka akhuthazele ukuhamba ngezo ngcango zonke iintsuku.
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5. Cinga ukuCetyiswa okanye ezinye iifom zeNkxaso
Thatha ixesha lokuqwalasela ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa okanye ubonise iimpawu zokudakumba okanye ukuziphatha okuphazamiseka kwentlalo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga , qhagamshelana neengcali zempilo yengqondo, kwaye uhlele iseshoni yokucebisa ukuba kukho isizathu sokukhathazeka. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, uchwepheshe unokuncedisa ukutshintsha kwakho phakathi kwendlela ejongene nokulahlwa kwentlalo. Ngenxa yoko, umntwanakho angenakukwazi ukukhusela intlungu yesifo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwakhona fumana iindlela zokuxhasa ukuphuhliswa kwentlalo yomntwana wakho ngokuxhasa iinjongo zabo ukwenza izinto ezithile zentlalo, njengokungena kwizenzakalo kunye nabahlobo, ukuthatha isigaba somdaniso omtsha, okanye ukufunda ukudlala umculo. Into ebalulekileyo ukuba uyikhumbule ukuba ibe khona kwaye ifumaneke kumntwana wakho ngelixesha elibuhlungu ekuphuhliseni kwabo. Ukuba unako ukubenza bahlale bethetha, uzuze isiqingatha semfazwe.
Umthombo
UWilliam, uPikling D., kunye noNida, uStep A. Ukwaziswa: Iziphumo kunye nokuxhathisa. Izikhokelo zangoku kwiSayensi zeNzululwazi. 2011. 20 (2): 71-75.