Yiyiphi Ukukhawuleza kokuKholiswa?
Ukukhawuleza ukunyaniseka kubhekisela kumandla okuyeka ukufumana umvuzo ngokukhawuleza ukuze ufumane umvuzo olungcono kamva. I-kati yakho ikhulile ngokwaneleyo ukwazi okanye ukuqonda ukuba ukulibazisa ukuxhaswa kunokuba nzima, kodwa ukuba kukho umvuzo wokukwazi kwakhe. Nakhu okufuneka abazali bazi malunga nokulibaziseka kokuxhaswa kunye nokukhula kwabo kunye nokukhula kwabo.
Umzekelo Wokubambezeleka kokuxhaswa
Ukukhawuleza kokuthokoza kubhekisela kumandla okuyeka ukufumana umvuzo ukuze ufumane umvuzo olungcono kamva. Ngokomzekelo, zithi i-middle phakathi kufuneka isebenze kwiprojekthi yokugqibela yeklasi yee-social class. Abazali bakhe bathethe ukuba xa efumana yonke i-B kunye no-Klasini, baya kuthatha umfundi wabo ukuba badle isidlo kwivenkile yokutyela ukuze badle kunye nosapho . Kodwa ngobu busuku imiboniso yeTV yakuthandayo kwaye umfundi ufuna ukuwubukela. Uyazi ukuba xa ebukela umboniso weTV, iphrojekthi yakhe iya kubandezeleka. Ingaba umfundi uthatha umvuzo ngokukhawuleza (ukubukela umboniso) okanye ukhetha ukhetha ukusebenza kulo msebenzi namhlanje ebusuku ukuze afumane isidlo kwixesha elizayo? Lo ngumbuzo wobuchule bomntwana bokusingatha ukulibaziseka kokuxhaswa.
Omnye umzekelo wokubambezeleka kokugcoba yinto esetyenziswayo ngoku okanye ulondoloze emva kwexesha elibi.
Umzekelo, umntwana wakho unokufuna ibhasiki elitsha. Unayo imali eyaneleyo egciniweyo ukuthenga ibhasikizi engabizi ukuba akuyiyo into ayifunayo. Okanye, i-middle yakho ingakwazi ukuqhubeka igcina ukufumana ibhayisikili abayifunayo .
Ukukhawuleza ukunyaniseka kukuphucula ngokususela kwiminyaka yobuntwana ukuya ebusheni.
Abantu ngokuqhelekileyo abafaki ukulibaziseka kokuxhaswa kwaze kwaba ngumntwana okanye kamva. Ngamanye amazwi, abantwana kunye nezifo zifuna izikhokelo zangaphandle ukubanceda ukuba bakhethe umva kamva, umvuzo olungcono kumvuzo omncinane, omncinci. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukulawulwa kwabazali ngomsebenzi wesikolo kunye neminye impendulo yokubambezeleka kubalulekile ngexesha lobuncinci kunye neminyaka emibini.
Abazali Banganceda Njani Ukukhuthaza Umntwana Ukuyeka Ukuthotywa?
Njengomzali, unokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba angalibazise ukuthotyiswa ngamacebiso ambalwa. Kubaqalayo, ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzele injongo yakhe kunye nesicwangciso sesinyathelo nesinyathelo. Ukuba i-kati yakho isebenza kwiprojekthi enkulu kunye nesithembiso sesidlo esihle emva kokuba sigqityiwe, ncedise imephu yakhe isicwangciso sokufikelela kumgca wokugqibela. Unokuphuhlisa ikhalenda yomntwana wakho ukuhlaziya okanye ukusekela iinjongo ezibhalwa phantsi kwaye zingahlaziywa. Ukukhuthazwa kokunikezela njengoko i-kati yakho iqhubela phambili ngeprojekthi kwaye ikhuthaze umfundi wakho njengoko esondela kwaye esondelene nomgomo.
Qinisekisa ukuba uyaphumelela nasiphi na isithembiso osenzile sakho. Ukuba uthembise umntwana wakho ukuba uya ku-movie emva kokuba ephakamisa ibanga lesibalo, qiniseka ukuba wenza kakuhle kwisithembiso sakho xa umntwana wakho efezekise injongo.
Ekugqibeleni, umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uya kufunda ukuba izigqibo esizenzayo ziza nemiphumo. Ukukhawuleza ukunyaniseka kunokuncedisa ukuba phakathi kwakho kuseke iisayithi zakhe kwiinjongo ezinkulu, kwaye usebenze ekufezeni.
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