UCarl Jung wasebenzisa igama elithi "ngabanye" ngokubanzi emsebenzini wakhe wokuphuhlisa ubuntu. Xa kuxubusha ukuphuhliswa kwabantu, umntu ngamnye ubhekisela kwinkqubo yokwenza ubuntu obuzinzile. Njengomntu ngamnye umntu, uzuza umqondo ocacileyo wobuqu ohlukileyo kubazali bakhe nakwabanye abazungezile. I-egocentrism engama-adolescent ingavela ngenxa yenkqubo yomntu ngamnye.
Ubuntu buyenzeka kulo lonke ubomi, kodwa luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yecala, intsha kunye neminyaka yabantu abadala. Xa kuvela umntu, i-tweens kunye nentsha inokufuna ubuninzi bodwa . Ngeli xesha, abazali bafanele baqhelisele kwimbono yabantwana babo abafuna ukuchitha ixesha bodwa ezindlini zabo zokulala. Basenokungabi noluvulekile malunga nento eyenzeka ngexesha lomhla okanye kwisihlobo sabo. Basenokuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo okanye ukunyanyiswa ukuba bahlale bebodwa.
Ukongezelela ekufuneni ixesha elide kunye nobumfihlo, abantu abatsha abaqhuba kwinkqubo yokuzimela ngabanye bangabonakala bevukela abazali babo. Ukuba ngaba abazali babo bangamaKristu alondolozayo, umzekelo, umntwana angase aqale ukuhlakulela umdla kwiBuddha okanye ukuvakalisa umdla wabo ekukholelwa kuThixo. Umntwana angayinqaba i-conservatism ukuba yamkele ezopolitiko.
Abantwana ngeli xesha banokugqoka, indlela yabo yeenwele okanye ukuphulaphula umculo abazali babo abachasayo.
Abazali akufanele bathathe ezi zigqibo ngokwabo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ucheba intloko yakhe okanye adayise iinwele zakhe ezimnyama, khumbula oku kusenokwenzeka ukuba isigaba, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ekugqibeleni uza kuziqhelanisa.
Ukuyeka kuhambe
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bavumele abantwana ukuba bangene kwinkqubo yokuzimela ngabanye. Ngelixa abazali befuna ukuba abantwana baphile ngendlela efanayo nokuba benze okanye bavumelane neempawu ezifanayo abanalo, kufuneka baqaphele kwaye bahlonele into yokuba abantwana babo babantu abahlukile kunye neendlela zabo zobomi.
Emva kwakho konke, abantwana abangenakukwazi ukukwazi ukuzinyamekela, banokudandatheka njengabantu abadala okanye babe neengxaki ezikhoyo. Bangazibuza ukuba kungani bakhetha umsebenzi abawenzayo okanye iqabane ababenayo kwaye babuze ukuba ngaba babecinga ukuba baphile ngendlela ethile. Ngaba baye benza ezi zigqibo ngokugqithisileyo okanye baphulaphule oko abanye (okuba bazali babo) babatshele ukuba benze?
Ukuba unokholo kwizakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali kwaye unike umntwana wakho isiseko esihle sokuziphatha, yiba nethemba lokuba umntwana wakho uya kuhamba kakuhle, nokuba ngaba ubomi babo abufani nantoni na.
Xa ungenelela
I-Tweens kunye nentsha ziyaziwa ukuba zithatha ingozi njengoko zikhula zibe ngabantu abazimeleyo. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba abazali bahloniphe ukwahlukana phakathi koonyana babo kunye nabo, akusiyo into enhle ukunika umntwana wakho inkululeko enkulu ngeli xesha. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpawu zokuzama ukusebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala, musa ukuwukhahlela ukuya kumntu ngamnye. Ixesha lokungenelela.
Baxelele ukuba uyabahlonela into yokuba bayakhula baba ngabantu abadala kodwa ukuba ukungabi nantlupheko kwiminyaka yabo kunemiphumo yehlabathi yangempela enokubachaphazela bonke ubomi babo. Beka imida yabantwana, njengokuba bahamba kwinkqubo yomntu ngamnye.
Abantwana banokufumana ingqiqo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iziyobisi, utywala, ukuziphatha kakubi okanye ezinye izinto ezizibeka engozini.
> Umthombo:
Rathus, PhD, Spencer. I-Psychology: IiNkcazo kunye neeNxibelelwano, iNgcaciso emfutshane. Lwe-8. 2007. UBelmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.