Jen R. Uthetha Nge-Egg Donation, Ukususela kwiSigqibo sokuCoca
Ukuba uqwalasela umnikelo weqanda njengendlela yokwakha intsapho yakho , unokuzibuza ukuba kuya kuba njani. Ukhetha njani umnikeli weqanda ? Uza kuziva njani malunga nomntwana wakho okhulelwe ngeqanda?
UJen R. wanikela ukuxelela ibali lakhe kunye nabafundi beNtsapho yaseThewell. Uthetha ngokuba kutheni ukhetha ukunikezelwa kweqanda, yintoni inqubo efana nayo, nendlela evakalelwa ngayo kubantwana bakhe kunye nomnikeli weqanda.
Leli bali lakhe.
Iindaba Zakho zokungabi Naluphi uhlobo?
Ndafunyaniswa ukuba ndine -failure ye-ovarian failure (POF) xa ndandineminyaka engama-29 ubudala, emva kweenyanga ezintathu emva kokuzala unyana wam. Kwandithatha phantse umnyaka ukuba ndikhulelwe ngunyana wam, njengoko ndandingenaso ixesha kwaye ndingeke ndibone isizathu.
Ndandivakalelwa kukuba into ethile yayingalunganga kwaye ngokwenene yayinomzuzwana apho ndazi ukuba andinakho nabantwana. Yibize ukuboniswa, ukuqonda, isisitho somzimba-kodwa ndazi.
Ukhe Wenza Njani Ukunikezela Ngomsi?
Emva kweenyanga zokucebisa , ukukhala , nokubuhlungu ukulahlekelwa kwam amandla okuba nabantwana, mna nomyeni wam sathetha malunga nokukhetha kwethu.
Ngaba kufuneka sibe nezingane ezininzi? Ngaba le si cwangciso sikaThixo sokuba sibe nesinye?
Uba ngumntwana kuphela, kwaye ndiziva ukuba uphumelele, ngoko mhlawumbi sinokuba ngumntwana omnye. Kodwa ke nda khumbula xa abazali bakhe befa, kwaye wayengenalo mntu ukuba aphendule. Akukho bani ukwabelana naye ngeenkumbulo zakhe.
Oku, nasiphi na isizathu, samxabela kunye nam nomyeni wam, kwaye ndatshitshiswa ngeenxa yokunikela ngeqanda kunye nokwamkelwa.
Siye saqikelela ekubeni sasivele sinomntwana we-biological, umnikeli weqanda unokufaneleka ukuzama, kuba ndiyazi ukuba ukuthwala umntwana kwakungekho mbandela wam. Kwakungenxa yokusilela kwam amaqanda .
Inkqubo yoKhetho lwaBaniki?
Sakhangela kubanikeli beqanda, kunye nawow! Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ndiza kuba naloo mkhukula xa ndiqala lohambo.
Ukuhamba ngeenkcukacha zabaxhasi kunye nemifanekiso yabo yinkqubo engaqhelekanga. Ukucinga ukuba unako "ukukhetha" umama wengwenya yomntwana unzima kakhulu.
Kwam, inxalenye eyona nzima kunokuba ndifunde ukuba andiyi kufumana "umxhasi ophelele". (Uhlobo olufana nokufumana umntu ogqibeleleyo!)
Ndiyi-5'10 ", i-blonde, i-eyed blue.
Ngoko ke ndagqiba kwelokuba ndihambe kwinqanaba lam. Emva kokuba ndilungile kakuhle, ndamfumana umniki-mzuzwana kwangoko.
Inomzuzu ndavula ifolda yakhe, ndazi. Ngokukhawuleza. Ngaloo mzuzwana, ndazi nje ukuba nguye, kwaye andinakukwazi ukuchaza isizathu. Ndiyifunde iphrofayili yakhe ukuqinisekisa ukuba kulungile, kwaye kwakunjalo. Wayengumfundi wekholeji. I-Smart, ilungile, ichaza, kwaye iyimidlalo.
Emva kokuba ndenze isigqibo sam, andizange ndikholelwe ukuba yonke into yawela. Wayekhona ukuqala inkqubo ngokukhawuleza .
Ngoko ngegosa lethu, ikliniki yokungabikho kolwazi kunye neklinikhi yokunikela ngeqanda, sahlela yonke into kwaye saqhubeka phambili.
Leyo yayiyinxalenye nzima. Ndaye kwiofisi yegqirha kathathu ngeveki. Ndandifumana iimvavanyo zegazi, ndikhangele i-uterine yarner, ndiyifake ingcamango yam, okanye enye into. Ndicinga ukuba unyana wam wayecinga ukuba le nto yayiyindlu yakhe yesibili!
Yintoni i-IVF eneNkqubo yokuNikwa kwe-Egg?
Ngokwenyama, le yinkqubo enzima.
Ndineenaliti ezintathu ezihamba emzimbeni wam imihla ngemihla. Enye yayiyinto ye-estrogen, enye yeprogesterone, kwaye andinakukhumbuza into yesithathu!
Ngenxa yokuba ndingenawo umjikelo wokuya esikhathini , udokotela wagqiba "ukudala" omnye ngokusebenzisa iziyobisi. Kwafuneka ndivumelane nomnikeli wam. Emva kokuba kulungisiwe, kwafuneka ndilungele xa ekhupha , kwaye emva kweentsuku ezintlanu emva kokutshintshwa . Le yinkqubo enzima.
Ndaqhubeka ndiyethemba kwaye ndithandazela ukuba uza kuvelisa amaqanda anele oku kusebenza. Wenza. Wavelisa amaqanda angama-18! Ndavuya gqitha.
Umyeni wam wangena waza wanyamekela inxalenye yakhe, kwaye iintsuku ezintlanu kamva ndafumana umnxeba wokungena.
Ukuxelelwa umgangatho weembryos kuluhlaza. Bakuxelela "ibanga labo" kunye nababani abangena kulo.
Bayibeka emibini, ndaza ndaya ekhaya ndaxelelwa ukuba ndiphumle iintsuku ezimbini. Ndenze, kwaye mbulela uThixo ngenxa yam nabahlobo bam abancedisayo ngeli xesha . Baye bancedisa nonyana wam kunye nendlu yam, ngoko ndandingakwazi ukuphumla.
Ndandivakalelwa kukuba ii-embrasi zathatha, kwaye zenza. Ndathatha uvavanyo lokuqala ndafumana ukuba ndikhulelwe. Amawele!
Ndandinelisekile kakhulu ukuba yonke into isebenze, kwaye ndibenempilo, amantombazana amnandi emva kweenyanga ezili-8. (Bazalwa ngeveki ezi-7.)
Uziva Njani Nge-Donor Conceive Children?
Emva kokuba bezalwe, andizange ndihluke. Ndisoloko ndijonga umfanekiso wesibonelelo kwaye uzama ukubona ukuba babonakala ngathi. Enye yamantombazana ibonakala ngokufanayo. Iwele layo libukeka njengendoda yam.
Intsapho yam kunye nabahlobo bayazi ukuba [yiphumo lo] umnikeli, kwaye akukho mntu ubaphatha ngokungafaniyo.
Ndiziva ngathi bangabantwana bam, kuba ndiyazi ukuba zikhona. Bayazi nokuba beyisipho esivela kwelinye ibhinqa elandincedayo. Oku akusiyo imfihlo kubo, njengoko ndifuna ukuba bahlale beyazi inyaniso.
Uvakalelwa njani Ngomntu onikelayo?
Nanini na xa ndikhangele umfanekiso wesibonelelo sethu, ndicinga kakhulu ngaye. Ndihlala ndimomotheka xa ndicinga ngesipho asinike ngayo intsapho yam. Ndiyazi ukuba ndihlawule le nto , kodwa ke isipho sam intombazana yam ixabiso. Ndivuyiswa kukuba umnikeli wethu wakhetha ukunikela.
Ndicinga kwakhona ngomngcipheko awawuthathayo ukunikela amaqanda akhe kunye nendlela enokumlimaza amathuba akhe okuba nabantwana. Ndiyathandaza ukuba akaze ayenze kwaye enqwenela impilo yakhe enhle.
Ngamanye amaxesha ndinomdla wokumfumana nokumbuza imibuzo yakhe. (Umnikelo wethu uvaliwe). Ndiyakuthanda ukuhamba ndimkhangele ukuba ambone indlela yakhe, indlela athetha ngayo, indlela ahamba ngayo. Ndiyakuthanda ukubona ukuba ngaba ezinye zeentombi zam zithatha.
Isibongo asinamandla ngokwaneleyo-mhlawumbi kuninzi kwindalo yam okanye inqwenela. Ndiyazi ukuba ngaba ngamantombazana nam.
Uninzi Kangakanani Uhlawula I-Egg Donor IVF Cycle?
Ukuba imemori isebenza ngokufanelekileyo, imali yokunikela ngeqanda yayiyi-$ 10,000 kwaye i-IVF yayingama-18,000 .
Yiyiphi Icebiso Ongayinika Abasetyhini Ngokuqwalasela i-IVF nge-Egg Donation?
Ukuba uqwalasela umnikeli weqanda, qiniseka ukuba uphonononge zonke iinketho. Ngaba oku kulungile kunye nawe kunye neqabane lakho? Kuthiwani ngeenkolelo zakho zonqulo ?
Qinisekisa ukufumana iingcebiso ukukunceda ngenkqubo. Unokucinga ukuba awudingi ukululekwa, kodwa ndithembisa wena, uya kuthi. Abahlobo kunye nosapho bakho baya kuba luncedo, kodwa abayi kuqonda ngokwenene.
Iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuba phezu kwebhodi ukusuka kwintononkqo ukungaqiniseki, kunye nokuba i-hormone izakukwenza udibanise. Ngethuba le nkqubo yonke, cela imibuzo eninzi.
Qinisekisa ukuba uyazi yonke into oyifumanayo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba unama-100 ekhulwini ngokufanelekileyo kunye nenyathelo ngalinye lwenkqubo.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Inkqubo yokwenza isigqibo sokusebenzisa nokukhetha umnikeli weqanda iyingqayizivele kwaye yedwa kumntu ngamnye. Ibali likaJen lilapha linye nje indlela. Njengoko uhlolisisa ukhetho lokwakha intsapho, zifundise kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwinkqubo. Thetha namanye amadoda nabasetyhini abaye bathetha ukusebenzisa umnikeli weqanda ukuba babe nezingane, kwaye uzama ukufunda kumava abo.
Awunayo-kwaye akufanelekile! -ukukwenza oko ngokwakho. Funa iqela lenkxaso yendawo okanye udibane nabantu abakwi-intanethi. Abazali Nge-Egg Donation inesayithi elimangalisayo. Iiklinikhi ezininzi zokuzala zifuna ukuba ufune ukucebisa ngaphambi kokuba uqale i-IVF yeqanda , kodwa xa bengekho, jonga umcebisi wezityalo. Xa uyazi ngakumbi, unikwe amandla ngakumbi ukuba uya kuziva ukuba wenze izigqibo ezilungileyo kuwe.