Indlela Ukucebisa Ngezandla Kunokukunceda njani Ukujongana nokuCwangcisa Khetha zakho
Kukho izizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo zokufuna umgqirha ukuba usebenze ngemingeni yakho yokungabikho. Kungenzeka ukuba i- endocrinologist yakho yokuzala izancoma okanye ifuna ukuba ubone umcebisi phambi kwezonyango ezithile, njengaxa uthatha isigqibo sokusebenzisa isidoda okanye umnikeli weqanda . I-egg kunye nabanikeli besidoda ngokwabo kufuneka babone umcebisi ngempilo yengqondo ngaphambi kokuba bavunyelwe ukunikela.
Okanye, usenokuba ucinga ukuba ukubona umgqirha kunokukunceda ukuba ujamelane nomzabalazo womzwelo wokungapheli .
Uphando lubonisa ukuba iintlungu zentlungu ezithatyathwa ngabafazi xa zityhutyana zifana nezo zijongene nomdlavuza, i-HIV kunye nentlungu engapheliyo. Ukujamelana nokungazinzi kunzima , kwaye ukufuna uncedo ngama-100 ekhulwini aqhelekileyo.
U-Penny Joss Fletcher ngumtshato kunye nosapho lweengcali eziseTustin, eCalifornia, ngokugqithiseleyo ukungabikho komntwana kunye nokucebisa abantwana. Uyakuqonda ukungabikho komsebenzi kungekhona kuphela kwimbono yobugcisa, kodwa kunye nomntu ngamnye. Emva kweminyaka emihlanu yokunyanga kokungapheli, kuquka ukuhluleka kwe- IVF unyango , yena nomyeni wakhe banquma ukuwamkela.
Nantsi into ekuthethileyo malunga nokucebisa uncedo.
Isizathu # 1: Xa ukungabikho kobungakanani kubandakanya ubomi bakho
Njengoko kuchaziwe ngasentla, ukungabi nantoni kunokukunqanda. Nangona ukungabikho kwengqondo akulula kumntu, abanye bajamelana nabo ngokufanelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukungabikho kwengqondo kuthatha ubomi bakho, unokucinga ngokucebisa.
"Ukuba usizi lwakho, ukuxinezeleka , ukukhathazeka, okanye uxhalaba kuqhubeka kwaye kuthintela kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, ke kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe," kuchaza uFletcher. "Ugqirha unokukufundisa ukukwazi ukujamelana nezocwangciso kunye nokucwangcisa ukuba nethemba lokunciphisa uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo."
Kwakhona, amayeza okuxhalabisa okanye ukuxinezeleka kunokunceda, into enokuthi incedise.
Amanye amayeza avunyelwe nangona xa ezama ukukhulelwa, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uhlolisise oku kunye nodokotela wakho, "kutsho uFletcher.
Isizathu # 2: Xa ukungenakunqanda kukuphazamisa ubuhlobo bakho
Ulwalamano lwethu luphantsi koxinzelelo olunzulu xa usweleka. Yiyo uhlobo loxinzelelo olungakusondeza kunye ngamaxesha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unokukrazula. Impembelelo yokungabi nantoni inokuthi ibe nayo ebomini bakho yobomi iphinde idibanise ulwalamano.
Ngaphezulu kwako konke oku, ukungaqondi kakuhle phakathi komnye kunokwenza izinto zibe nzima. "Ngokuqhelekileyo imibhangqwana ibamba uxinzelelo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo," kuchaza uFletcher. "Abafazi basichazela ngokukhululekile iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bafuna ukuthetha iingcamango zabo. Amadoda athile agxininise ekuxazululeni iingxaki kwaye angazivumeli bazive belahlekelwa yintlungu nganye."
Ukungabi nalukhuni kunzima, kodwa kunzima xa ungenayo inkxaso yeqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, iqabane lakho liphela lingaziqonda ngokwenene oko uhambayo. Ukucebisa kunokukunceda uqonde ngakumbi kwaye uxhasane.
Isizathu # 3: Xa Ungeke Uqiniseke Oko Ukwenza
Umcebisi oqeqeshwe ngokukodwa ekusebenzisaneni nezibini ezinokungabikho kwengqondo kunokukunceda uhlele ngokukhetha kwakho.
Umcebisi angakunceda wenze ukhetho oluchanileyo kwaye uncede uqwalasele okokukhethwa kukho unyango lwakho, kubandakanywa uxinzelelo lwezezimali kunye nomoya walezo zigqibo.
"Ndicinga ukuba naliphi na ixesha isibini esivumelwaneni ngokwezonyango zonyango, kunokuba luncedo ukuthetha ngengcali yezempilo yengqondo," kutsho uFletcher. "Ngokukodwa xa kukho ukungavumelani malunga nento yokwenza okulandelayo, ukuba nenjongo yesithathu inokukunceda."
Ukuqala kwonyango lwe-IVF lixesha eliqhelekileyo lokuba imibhangqwana idinga uncedo. Enyanisweni, ezinye i-endocrinologist zokuzala zikhuthaza izigulane ukuba zibone umcebisi ngaphambi okanye ngexesha lokunyanga.
Abantu abaninzi abakulungele ukuxinezeleka okongezelelekileyo okuqhelekileyo ukufumana i-IVF, "kuchaza uFletcher. "Ukuthetha nomgqirha ngaphambi kokuba uqale umjikelezo we-IVF unokuvelisa."
Isizathu # 4: Xa sicinga ngeminikelo yeGamete, i-Surrogacy, okanye i-Adoption
"Ixesha elibaluleke kakhulu lokufumana intsebenziswano kunye nomgqirha oqhelana nemibandela yokungabikho kwengxaki xa umntu okanye umntu ecinga ukuvelisa umntu okanye ukuzitholwa kwamalungu omntu ukuba adale intsapho yabo," kuchaza uFletcher.
Ngokukodwa xa sicinga ukusebenzisa umxhasi weqanda , umnikeli wesidoda, okanye umnikelo wombindi, ukucetyiswa kuyimfuneko kwaye kuyadingeka rhoqo ngaphambi kokuba unyango. Okufanayo kuya kwi-surrogacy kunye nokwamkelwa. Iimpembelelo zemoya zokwenza izigqibo ezinjengezi zinto zinokubaluleka, into enokubangela ukuba izibini ezithandanayo zinganyaniseki.
"Kukho ilahleko ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka zivunywe kwaye zibuhlungu xa usuka kwi-IVF usebenzisa i-gametes yakho kubaxhasi benkampani yangaphandle, ukuxhaswa okanye ukutholwa," kutsho uFletcher.
Xa uthetha ngeminikelo yegetete okanye u-surrogacy, ezinye izihloko umcebisi uya kuthetha nawe kunye nomlingane wakho ngokubandakanya:
- Ukucacisa ukuba kutheni ukhetha.
- Ukuqinisekisa ukuba isigqibo esidibeneyo, into enye kunye neqabane lakho uyavumelana.
- Ukuthetha malunga nokuba uya kubaxelela abahlobo kunye nosapho malunga nesigqibo sakho, kwaye ukuba ngaba kunjalo, njani kwaye ungakwenza njani.
- Ukuthetha ngesiphumo somnikelo ebuhlotsheni bakho nomnikeli, ukuba uyazi umnikeli.
- Ukuqwalasela oko kuthetha ntoni kuwe nakumntwana wakho wesikhathi esizayo ukuba ukhetha ukuvunywa okuvaliweyo okanye okuvulekileyo okanye umnikelo we-gamete. (Ngamanye amagama, ngaba umnikeli uya kunxibelelana nentsapho yakho kamva, okanye akunjalo?)
- Ukuba umnikeli okanye umntu ongenamkhethe akakhethiweyo, ingxoxo yeendlela ocinga ngazo kumnikeli, kwaye kutheni.
- Ukuqwalasela nini, njani, kwaye nokuba uya kubaxelela nayiphi na into eyenza umntwana abonwe ngoncedo kunye nomntu wesithathu. (Kuninzi bonke abaqeqeshi bayincoma ukuxelela umntwana. Kodwa njani kwaye nini ukwenza njalo akukona nje ukucaca.)
I-Fletch ichaza, "Ngokubanzi, ndibheka le ngcebiso njengenye enye inxalenye 'yemvume enolwazi' ukuba isibini sibuzwa ukuba sinikezele ukuqhuba unyango lwangaphandle. phambili yilexesha lokuvuma nokusebenza naluphi na usizi, ukwesaba, okanye uhlazo ekuveleni intsapho ngale ndlela. "
Isizathu # 5: Xa sicinga ngobomi obungabaniki Bantwana
Ingaba kuza emva kweminyaka yonyango, okanye ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphele ukuba ezikhethiweyo ezikhethiweyo azilungele wena, uqaphele ukuba awuyi kuba nezingane ezinzima kakhulu. Kwabanye, ukucebisa kunokunceda ekusebenziseni iimvakalelo eziza kukuqonda.
Ukwenza isigqibo esona singabantwana singasifanelanga nokuthatha isigqibo sokuba "ungathinteli kodwa ungazami" ukuba unomntwana. (Ngamanye amagama, ukugqiba ukungaxhasi imithi yokuzala okanye ixesha lokulala ngesondo, kodwa ungasebenzisi naluphi na uhlobo lokukhulelwa komzimba.) Akwafani nokokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuthatha inxaxheba "ngexesha elizayo." Okanye ukhetha ukuba "ungaphinda uzame unyango kwakhona ngolunye usuku."
Nangona kukho indawo yazo zonke le mizila, abavumeli ukuvalwa. Ubunako bokuba nomntwana usekhona kwiingcamango zesibini. Oku kwenza kube nzima ukulilalisa ilahleko zabo.
"Xa isibini esivakalelwa ukuba siphelile kwindlela yokwenza unyango, zinokukhetha ezimbini-zihlala zikhululekile okanye zingamkeli. Akukho sigqibo esilula, "kutsho uFletcher. "Ndicinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba bafike kwisigqibo esithile sokuba baphile ngaphandle komntwana kwaye bangavumeli ukuba ixesha lidlule ngaphandle kokwenza unyango okanye ukwamkela. Kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kunika amandla, isigqibo. "
Isizathu # 6: Ngenxa yokuba Unokwinkxaso engaphezulu
Mhlawumbi awuve ukhululekile ngokukodwa okanye uxhalabile, kwaye awuwa phantsi kweyiphi na maqela angentla. Kodwa uvakalelwa ukuba unokusebenzisa inkxaso engakumbi, umntu othetha naye, onokukunika izixhobo ezininzi zokujamelana. Ukucebisa kungakukhetha okulungileyo kuwe, nawe.
Akudingeki ukuba ube nesizathu, ngesinye. Awunakuze ulinde uze uzive ukhululekile kukuba unene uxinzelelo kwaye uhlaselwa ngumxhala.
Ngelishwa, ukubona umcebisi wempilo yengqondo kuthathwa njengento ebuthathaka kwabanye abantu. Ukucinga kukuthi ukuba nje unamandla okwaneleyo (nantoni na ithetha), ngoko awuyi kufuna uncedo ekujonganeni.
Oku akunjalo. Abantu abanamandla bayazi xa befuna uncedo olungakumbi. Ukubona umgqirha akuyinto yokuba neentloni. Enyanisweni, ukuba nesibindi sokucela uncedo kukubonakalisa amandla.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukucetyiswa ngenyameko kunokuba luncedo ngeendlela ezininzi-kukuncedisa ukukhetha ngokukhetha kwakho ukukunceda ukujamelana noxinzelelo lokungabikho kwengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ufuna udokotela oqhelana nobunzima bokungakhulelwa kunye nokukhetha unyango. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba uzama ukuhlunga ngeendlela ozikhethayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba nomthengululi "ingcali" kwimingeni yokuzala ininzi ibhonasi ngaphezu kwemfuneko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ufuna inkxaso kwiingxaki zomzwelo, nawuphi na umcebisi onobuchule, onobubele unokunceda.
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu sakho, okanye kungengona isizathu, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba akudingeki ukuba uhambe uhambo olungenasifo kwaye ungancedi. Abacebisi ngaphandle apho baqeqeshwe ukukunceda. Kwaye ukuba ungasebenzisa inkxaso eyongezelelweyo, jongela kuyo.
> Umthombo:
> Fletcher, Penny. I-intanethi.
> Nagy, E. kunye no-Nagy, B. "Ukujongana nokungabikho komntwana: Ukuthelekiswa kweendlela kunye nokukwazi ukuzivivinya ngengqondo kwiintandane ezivuthiweyo ezingenasweleko. "I- Journal of Health Pathology. 2016; 21 (8): 1799-1808.