Izibonakaliso zokungabi Namaqhinga ziye zatshintsha ubomi bakho

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Iimpawu kunye neZibonakaliso zokungaxhatshazwa-nxu lumene nokuxhalabisa

Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba ubomi bakho bujolise ekungabikho komntwana? Ngaba uya kulala uvuke ucinge ngokukhulelwa ? Usenokuba noxinzelelo olunxulumene nentlungu okanye uxhalaba.

Ukungabi naluphi na ukungafihlisi ubomi bakho.

Ukungabi nantoni kunokwakheka emoyeni kwaye kukhangela umzimba. Ucwaningo luye lwafumanisa ukuba ukuxinezeleka kwengqondo kwabasetyhini abanobunzima bokujongana nokungapheliyo kufana nomdlavuza kunye nezigulane zentliziyo . Ukuvuna inselele kunokwenzeka ukuba banokudandatheka.

Kodwa nje kuba ngumzabalazo womzwelo wokungabikho kwintsholongwane akuqhelekanga ukuba akufanele uthethelele.

Akuthethi ukuba akukho enye indlela okanye ukuba ufanele uzinikezele ukuba uzive ngale ndlela.

Oku kulandelayo uluhlu lweempawu ezili-15 zokudakumba okanye ukuxhalabisa.

I sekelwe kwi-American Society yoLuhlu lwezoNyango lweMithi yezilwanyana onokuyifumana kwiingcebiso .

(Ukuba le miqondiso 15 isebenza kuwe, ewe, ndiyathemba ukuba uya kuqwalasela ngokucebisana.)

Njengoko ujikeleza, qwalasela ukuba ngaba le nto inzima. Unokufuna ukuhlawula amanqaku ukuwabelana nodokotela wakho.

Ekupheleni kwoluhlu, ndinika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuphumelela ubomi bakho emva kokungabikho komntwana.

Ngenxa yokuba unokuyibuyisela . Ndiyakholwa ukuba uya.

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Ucinga Ngento Yokungafihli Nsuku Zonke

Cinga mhlawumbi ucinga, "Ndingazicingela njani ukungabi nantoni na?"

Ngokukodwa phakathi kwonyango okanye ukuvavanywa , kuyinto evamile ukuba ungenasifo esingaphambi kwengqondo yakho.

Ukuba uthayibhisa ubushushu bomzimba wakho , usenokuza kuvelisa ingqondo xa uvuka.

Ukuba uzinika iilenki kwaye ungena kwi-ultrasounds , kwakhona, akumangalisi ukuba iingcamango zakho ziza kugxininiswa kunyango.

Nangona kunjalo, oku kwahlukileyo kunokuba uzive ungenalo intswela yinto kuphela enokucinga ngayo ... nangona xa ungekho phakathi komjikelezo okhuselekileyo wonyango.

Xa uphume kunye nabahlobo, ngaba ufumanisa iingcamango zakho ezikhukhulayo kwi-fertility yakho?

Ngaba unzima ukufumana izinto ukuthetha ngazo kunye nomlingane wakho (okanye ngabahlobo) ngaphandle kokungabikho kwengqondo?

Xa uzama ukugxila okanye uzonwabele ezinye iindawo zobomi bakho, ngaba uzivakalelwa kukuba ukungabi nantoni kuhlale ulungele ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye udibanise uxinzelelo lwakho?

Le ngxaki.

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Uxhaswa Ngetyala

Masibe kucace: ityala liyimvakalelo enokuthi lilinganiselwe kulabo abaye benza into engalunganga.

Izigwenxa, umzekelo. Ba netyala lolwaphulo-mthetho.

Ukuthotywa akufanele kuhambe kunye nesifo sezonyango.

Unokuziva unetyala ...

• ngenxa yokungaqalanga ukuba nosapho ngaphambili
• ngenxa yokungafumani iqabane ngaphambili
• ngenxa yokuba ungabinqanda amaqanda akho ... nangona kungekho ndlela oyaziyo ukuba uya kuyidinga

Unokuziva unetyala ngenxa yokuba unesifo sesifo esithathelwana ngesondo esiye sabangela iingxaki zakho zokuzala.

Unokuziva unetyala - kodwa awufanelekile .

Ukunyaniseka kubonisa ukuba uyazi kwaye uyaqonda ukuba izenzo zakho ziphosakeleyo , ukuba uyazi ukuba imiphumo iya kuba yintoni, kwaye wenza njalo.

Ndikulungele ukubheja ukuba akunjalo.

Kukho iimeko ezimbalwa apho ukhetho olungalunganga xa lufika ekuveleni. Ukulinda ukuba nezingane akukho phoso. Akukho ulwaphulo-mthetho.

Ukuba uvakalelwa unetyala elikhulu okanye uzigxeka, unokufumana inzuzo ekucebiseni.

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Uziva ungenanto okanye uhlazekile

Ngaba ukhathazeka kukuba abantu baya kukuthanda ngaphantsi (okanye kungekhona nantoni na) ukuba babengazi ukuba unganasiphelo?

Ingaba uxhalabele iqabane lakho liya kukushiya ngenxa yeengxaki zakho zokuzala?

Ngaba uyazibona uphukile? Iingxaki?

Ukuba uphendule ewe kunoma yiyiphi enye ngasentla, unzima nemvakalelo yokungabi nantloni kunye neentloni.

Uvumela ukungabi nabantwana ukuba kuchaze wena njengomntu.

Kodwa uninzi kakhulu kunokuba ungenakuzala. Ukucebisa kunokukunceda ubone oko.

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Unemiva yokunyamezela

Usizi luyimpendulo evamile kwiziganeko ezibuhlungu. Ukuba ufumana iinyembezi xa unyango luphela, uvavanyo lokuzala lubuyele kwimiphumo emibi, okanye ukuvavanywa kokuvuthwa kakubi , okuqhelekileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ...

• Ukudabuka kwakho kubonakala kungekho nto
• ufumanisa iintsuku zakho ziyimvifu ngaphezu kwelanga
• Uziva uhlungu ngenxa yeveki neeveki

... unokusingatha uxinzelelo.

Uphando lubonisa ukuba izibini ezingenamntwana ziyakwazi ukulwa noxinzelelo .

Ukudandatheka kukuchazwa ngokungaqhelekanga njengokuba buhlungu ukuba awukwazi ukugubha, uhlala ixesha elide, kwaye uphazamise ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

Ukuba uziva uhlungu kakhulu ixesha - nangona ungaqondi kakuhle ukuba kutheni uziva uhlungu - unokuba ujongane nokudabuka okuqhelekileyo.

• Ukudakumba nokungahambi kakuhle 101
• Indlela Yokuba Nomhle, Ukukhala Ukuphulukisa
• Ndiziva Ndixinezelekile. Yintoni endiyenzayo ngoku?

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Uziva Uhlala Kwintlalo

Ukuphepha abafazi abakhulelweyo , imvula yamanzi, okanye abo banabantwana abancinci i-100% eqhelekileyo xa bejamelana nokungazinzi.

Ukuphepha ezi meko kunokuba nokuba yindlela yokuzinyamekela.

Kodwa, ukuba u ...

• ukuziva ukhululekile kakhulu ixesha
• ukuphepha abahlobo kunye nosapho kwiimeko ezininzi
• ukuhlala ekhaya kunye neentlangano zentlalo owake wazinandipha
• uvakalelwa yedwa naxa unabanye

... usenokubandezeleka ngeemvakalelo zokuzihlalisa.

Oku kungaba ngumphumo wokudakumba kunye / okanye ukuhlazeka.

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Awunakuvuyela phambili imisebenzi eyenziwe Ngayo

Ngaba zikhona izinto owake wathanda ukuba awunakonwaba ngoku?

Oku akufani nokuba nje ukhetha i-hobby entsha, kunjalo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho izinto ezithandwayo, abahlobo, okanye indawo owake wathanda, kwaye awukwazi ukuzithokozisa kwakhona (nangona ufuna ukuba unako), ukudakumba ngenxa yokungabikho komntwana kungabonakalisa imibala yakho yobomi.

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Uziva Uvakalelwa Ngokukhawuleza okanye Ulwaphulo Lweentlungu

Ukungabi naluphi na ukonakala kunokuvelisa into embi yokwesaba. Ezinye zezo zilindeleke.

Ukuba neengxaki malunga neemvavanyo eziza kuzaliswa (ikakhulukazi ezingenayo), elinde iziphumo, kunye nokukhathazeka malunga nemiphumo emibi yonyango kunye neziphumo zinokubangela ukuba iimbilini zakho zibe nzima.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumana ...

• ukukhathazeka kuhamba endleleni yobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla
• ukwethuka kungabonakali ukuvumela emva kwexesha loxinzelelo
• uziva uziva uxhala ngenxa yesizathu esithile
• uzifumana uhlaselwa ngumsindo

... usenokujongana nento engaphezu kwesantya. Unokuba noxinzelelo olunxulumene nentlungu.

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Ngokukhawuleza Uba Nomsindo okanye Uthukuthele

Ukuxhalabisa kunye nokuxinezeleka kunokubangela ukuphazamiseka ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo, kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumonde wakho lula.

Intukuthelo nokukhungatheka ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqondo kunokunokuphulukiswa kakubi kulabo abakujikelezile. Unokuzifumana udibana nabasebenzi okanye amalungu omndeni ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba oko benzayo kwakubi kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uvakalelwa ngumsindo kwaye udidekile ngaphakathi.

Unokuzifumana uziva unomsindo kubafazi abakhulelweyo abangenanto okanye abo baneentsana ezincinci. Mhlawumbi nabantu obaziyo.

Umtshi wam wandixelele ukuba umsindo uyimali echaseneyo yokudabuka. Nomaphi apho kukho umsindo, kukho ukudabuka ekhwela ngaphesheya.

Ukucebisa kunokukunceda ukuba usebenze iimvakalelo zomsindo, ngoko abasebenzi bakho kunye nabathandekayo abazibandakanyeki.

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Unenkxalabo enzima okanye Ukukhumbula izinto

Ezinye iziyobisi zonyango zingabangela iingxaki zokuxininisa .

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumana oko ...

• "uninzi" ixesha elininzi
• awukwazi ukugxila kumsebenzi wakho
• awukwazi ukugxila kwimisebenzi enandiphayo, njengokufunda incwadi

... ungafuna ukuqwalasela ukucebisa.

Ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalabisa kunokukwenza ukuba ingcinezelo ilukhuni, njengokuba unokucinga malunga nokungapheli 24/7.

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Ubuhlobo Bakho Ubunzima

Ukungabi naluphi uhlobo lubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kwiqela elithile. Ezinye izibini zitshatile, ngelixa abanye bacinga ukuba bayahlukana.

Uxinzelelo lwezezimali lokungabikho komntwana lungaphinda lufike phakathi kwezibini.

• Ngaba ufumana ingxabano malunga nezigqibo zokunyanga ukuzala?
• Ngaba ukhathazeka ukuba iqabane lakho liya kukushiya ngenxa yokungabi nantlungu?
• Ngaba ukhohliwe indlela yokuzonwabisa kunye?

Ukuba uziva ulwalamano lwakho lubandezeleka, ukubona umcebisi kunye kunye nokuba yinto efanelekileyo.

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Ulwa neNtsebenzo yoSondo okanye Ukuzonwabisa

Xa uzama ukukhulelwa, kufuneka ulala ngesondo xa ungazivakalelwa.

Oku kunokutshintsha indlela isibini esivumelana nesondo nangona ukuba "ayifuni" ukuba sibe nayo.

Kwakhona, ukuthotywa kwehlazo kunokukhokelela ekuboneni ubomi bakho bobulili njengowomshini owenziwe ngumntwana. "Unokulibala ukuba isondo singaphezu kokwenza iintsana.

Oku kunokuchaphazela kakhulu impilo yakho yesondo.

Iingxaki ezinye iibini ezenzekayo ziquka ...

• Ukunciphisa isifiso sesondo
• Ukuxhalaba komsebenzi okanye ukungasebenzi kwe-erectile
• Ukuzonwabisa okwehla kwesondo

Ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalaba kunokunyusa ngakumbi impilo yakho yesondo.

Kwakhona, ukungalingani kwamanye ama-hormonal (okubangela ukungabikho kwengqondo) kunokuchaphazela impilo yakho yesondo. Isondo sinokuba buhlungu ngenxa yezifo zokuzala, njenge-endometriosis. Oku kunokunokulimaza ubomi bakho bobulili.

Ukuba uhlangabezana nobunzima bezesondo, kubalulekile ukuba awuqwalasele kuphela ukucebisa kodwa uvumele ugqirha wakho ozala.

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Uguqula izidakamizwa okanye utywala ngokuthe rhoqo

Uyazi ukuba akufanele uphuze xa uzama ukukhulelwa.

Kodwa mhlawumbi uxinzelelekile , kwaye ufumanisa ukuba uphuze ukulala ebusuku.

Enye iglasi yewayini rhoqo ngamaxesha akuyona ingxaki.

Kodwa, ukuba ...

• ufumana utywala ukwenzela ukuba utyhafise iimvakalelo zakho
• ufihle ukusela kwakho kumlingane wakho
• ukusela kuphazamisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla

... lixesha lokufikelela uncedo.

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Ufuna Ukutya Yonke Ixesha okanye Akunjalo

Ukutya kunokuba sisiza.

Ngaba uziva udla ukuze udibanise iimvakalelo zakho? Ngaba utywala kwaye uzive unetyala ngokutya okuninzi?

Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokunyanga ngokukhawuleza. Ukwahlula phakathi kokutya komoya kwaye ujabule unyango luyinto yokuzonwabisa.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntu esidla kunzima ukuvakalelwa, umntu uziva ngakumbi - kwaye kungcono - emva kokuzikhukhumeza.

Ngenye indlela, abanye abantu balahlekelwa ukutya kwabo ngexesha loxinzelelo olubi.

Utshintsho kwiipatheni zakho zokutya, kwakunye neenguqu ekutheni ulinge, unokuba yimpawu zokudandatheka.

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Unzima Ukulala

Ukuxinezeleka nokuxhalabisa kunokuphazamisa ubuthongo.

Uya...

• Fumana ulala kakhulu?
• Unenkathazo yokulala ebusuku?
• Ngaba kunzima ukulala?
• Fumana ulala kuzo zonke iiyure ezingafanelekanga?

Ezi zibonakalisa iimpawu zokudakumba okanye ukuxhalabisa.

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ezinye iziyobisi zenzalo zingaphazamisa iindlela zakho zokulala. Thetha ugqirha ukuba iingxaki zakho zokulala ziqala xa uthatha imithi ethile okanye iziyobisi.

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Ufumana Iingcamango Zakho Ukujika Ekufeni okanye Ukuzibulala

Ukuba ufumana ucinga ukuba uya kuba ngcono xa ufile, okanye ucinga ngokuzibulala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufune ukucebisa.

Iingcamango zokuzibulala ziwuphawu lokuxinezeleka okukhulu. Ngokukhawuleza ufumana uncedo, kungekudala uzakukwazi ukuziva ungcono ngokuphila kwakho kwakhona.

Ngaba unengxaki yokuzibulala ngoku? Ngaba uyika ukuba unokuzilimaza?

Nceda ubize umnxeba wokuzibulala okanye uzenzele kwigumbi eliphuthumayo elisondeleyo.

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Ukuzibulala sisigqibo esisigxina esisekelwe kwiimvakalelo zesikhashana. Nceda uphumelele uncedo.

• Iingcebiso zokujongana neengcinga zokuzibulala

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Akufanele Uve Le ndlela ...

Ukungabi nantoni kunokuba buhlungu. Ukuqhutyelwa uvavanyo kunye nonyango kunokukhawuleza. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuya kudala ukuxakeka kunye nobushushu ngamanye amaxesha.

Kodwa ukungabikho kwengqondo akudingeki kuthathe ubomi bakho.

Ngelixa kunokuba kuqhelekile kubantu abanenkinga yokudandatheka okanye ukuxhalaba, oko akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka.

Akufanele uhlupheke. Kukho uncedo ngaphandle apho.

• Ngaba Ucinga Ukuba Unokuxinezeleka? Nazi izinto ezi-5 ezenza ngoku ngoku

> Imithombo:

> Arthur L. Greil, 1 Kathleen Slauson-Blevins, 2 noJulia McQuillan2. "Ubume bokungenzi lutho: Ukuhlaziywa kweeNcwadi zoNje ." I- Sociol Health Illn . 2010 uJan; 32 (1): 140-162. Ishicilelwe kwi-intanethi ngo-2009 uDis 9. inyathelo: 10.1111 / j.1467-9566.2009.01213.x

> Ukunxiliswa kweNgeniso kunye nenkxaso: Ukungena nini na ukuyifumana. Umbutho waseMelika weMithi yokuzala.