Ukungenakunzima kunzima ukuhlala kunye. Oko kwathiwa, ngamanye amaxesha, senza izinto zibe nzima nakakhulu. Akunjalo ngenjongo okanye ngokuziqonda, ngokuqinisekileyo. Singazi ukuba ingaba nayiphi enye indlela. Okanye asiziqondi ukuba sizizihlasele.
Nazi ezinye izinto ofuna ukuyeka ukuzenza ukuba unomngeni onzima, ngoko uqala ukuhlala ubomi obubhetele, obusisigxina.
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Yeka ukuzigxekaMhlawumbi ulinde "ixesha elide" ukuqala ukwenza intsapho . Mhlawumbi into oyisiphukuphuku oyenzayo njengomfundi wekholeji uye yaphazamisa ukuzala kwakho. Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba loo nyaka unqwenele ukuhlala ngokutya okukhawulezileyo kwakungeyona ingcamango eqaqambileyo.
Okanye, mhlawumbi awukwazi ukuba yintoni ekhokelela ekukholeni kwakho okwenzekayo. Kodwa uqinisekile ukuba yinto ongayimisa ukuba wazi nje ngokubhetele.
Udinga ukuyeka ukuzigxeka.
Nangona ungayifumana indlela yokwenza "iphoso lakho," kufuneka uqhubeke uzigxeka.
Akuncedi. Kuphazamisa nje.
Ngaphezu koko, amaninzi amatyala okungafumanekiyo ayinakukhuselwa okanye akayi kuqikelela. Ngokuqinisekileyo awukwazi ukuba uyenzile into eyahlukileyo nokuba uya kuba yi-Myrtle eFultile okanye cha.
Ukulahla ityala, kwaye ugxininise kwizinto ezibalulekileyo ngoku ngoku- phambili kunye nokujongana nale ngxaki.
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Yeka "Ukulindela Ummangaliso"Ukuba uzama ukukhulelwa okungaphezulu konyaka (okanye ngaphezu kweenyanga ezintandathu, ukuba uneminyaka engaphezulu kwama-35 ), kwaye awuphumelelanga, lixesha lokubona ugqirha.
Ezinye izibini zithatha isigqibo sokuba le ngcebiso ayikho kubo, nangona kunjalo. Kungenxa yabanye abantu. Uyazi, abangenabantwana. Bakhetha ukuqhubeka bezama ngokwabo baze bathandazele ummangaliso.
Nantsi ingxaki ngokucinga ngale ndlela: Kukho izimbangela zokungabikho kwengxaki ezithintekayo ngexesha.
Ngelixa uthandazela ummangaliso wakho, amathuba akho anokusabalalisa ngokukhawuleza.
Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokugqiba ukuzama nokulinda unyango, nokuba wenze isigqibo sokuba ungayilandela unyango lokuzala .
Kodwa akufanele ugweme uvavanyo lokuvuna . Ubuncinane funda into engafanelekanga kunye nezinto ozenzayo.
Khangela i-check out out, wena kunye nomlingane wakho , kwaye uqinisekise ukuba nayiphi na into engalunganga inokulinda.
Emva koko, ukuba ufuna, misela "ixesha lokulinda". Thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokuba bacinga kangakanani ukuba ungazama ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ixesha elixabisekileyo.
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Yeka Ukuziva UkholoUkuxilongwa kokungabikho kwengqondo kunokuthintela umntu nzima. Ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima ukumbona iintsuku okanye iiveki ezilandelayo.
Unokuziva ungenathemba, uqiniseke ukuba awusoze wakhalelwa okanye ukuba ubomi bakho abuyi kuvuya.
Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kucinga, uya kuziva ungcono xa unako ukugcina iingcinga zakho zigxile kwiimeko ezintle. Izonyango ezisezantsi zisebenza kwiibini ezininzi . Amathuba akho okuphumelela angcono kunokuba ucinge. Thetha ugqirha wakho malunga nokuxela kwakho.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba ziphi iinjongo zakho zokuphela.
Ukuba awukwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana we-biological, mhlawumbi ungasebenzisa umnikeli wombungu, umnikezeli weqanda, okanye umnikeli wesilisa. Ukuba awukwazi ukusebenzisa i-gametes yabaxhasi, mhlawumbi unako ukumkela. Ukuba awukwazi ukuwamkela, khumbula ukuba abantu banokuhlala bengenamntwana kwaye banomdla oqhelekileyo.
Ukuze kucace, ezinye iimeko ezinokuthi zenze ukuba ubuhlungu buhambe. Uza kufuna ixesha lokulila nokuphulukiswa kwixhoba lokungabikho kwengqondo .
Nangona kunjalo, xa uqala ukuzibuza ukuba awusoze waba nomntwana, okanye xa uqala ukucinga ukuba ubomi bakho bonakalisiwe, zama konke okusemandleni akho ukubamba ubuncinane isibhengezo sethemba.
Kukho ubomi emva kokusweleka. Nceda ukhumbule ukuba.
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Yeka Ukuqhuba UncedoUninzi lwabatshatileyo luyasebenza kakhulu ekunakekeleni kwabo. Kodwa akubona wonke umntu oqonda ukuba ngaba ngabayizigqibo.
Kuzo izibini oogqirha babo bathi kubo " bancinci ," nangona bezama ngaphezu konyaka ...
Kuzo izibini ezithintela iiklinikhi zokuzala ukuba zizame i- IVF ngamaqanda azo ngenxa yokuba amathuba abo awakunzima , engazi ukuba iklinikhi ayifuni "ukuphazamisa" irekhodi labo engozini ...
Kuyabasetyhini ababenokuvavanya okanye abaphatha ngaphandle kokuba banciphise ubunzima , kodwa bayeke kubo ukuba baqonde indlela enokuyenza ngayo ...
Awunakunceda njengoko kubonakala.
Ukuba ugqirha obonayo wenqaba ukuqhuba uvavanyo, hamba ufumane ugqirha.
Ukuba iklinikhi ikuguqula ngenxa yokuba amathuba akho "aphantsi kakhulu," funa uluvo lwesibini.
Ukuba ugqirha wakho ekutshela ukuba ulahlekelwe isisindo, qiniseka ukuba bavavanye kwaye baphathe ukungalingani kwamanye ama-hormonal okungabangela ukunciphisa ubunzima, kwaye bacele ukuthunyelwa kwisondlo sokutya. Mhlawumbi uhambe ufumane umbono wesibini malunga nokuba ufuna ngokwenene ukulahlekelwa isisindo kuqala.
Unamandla amaninzi kunokuba uqaphele.
Musa ukoyika ukuzimela.
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Yeka Ubomi Bokuphila Kwizithuba ezimbini zeevekiLe yinto eyisisiseko kodwa ixhaphake kakhulu ilungele ukukhankanywa okhethekileyo.
Xa uzama ukukhulelwa, ubomi bakho bunokuwela ngokulula kwiiveki ezimbini. Iiveki ezimbini ulinde ukuvuthwa , zilandelwa ziiveki ezimbini ulindele ukuthatha uvavanyo lokukhulelwa .
Ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu ngale nto ayikho ikhefu; akukho xesha lokuxhalabisa.
Ngaba uxhalabile malunga ne- ovulating okanye uxhalabele malunga nokukhulelwa .
Le yindlela yokuphila!
Nangona kungenangqiqo ukucinga ukuba uya kukwazi ukulahla zonke izinto ezibuhlungu, kufuneka uzame ukuhlala ngaphaya kweveki ezimbini ulinde ukunyaniseka . Unokufuna inkxaso yabahlobo , iqela lokuxhasa , okanye umcebisi ukuba ufunde indlela. Kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Nangona uchitha iyure yosuku ngalunye ungacingi nge-ovulation okanye ukukhulelwa, oko kuya kuba kukuphucula okukhulu!
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Yeka Ukusekela Ukuzibhokoxa Kwakho Ngobubele BakhoUkungenzi nto kunokukwenza uzive ungenanto. Uphukile. Ihlazo. Le yonke imvakalelo eqhelekileyo, ehlangene namadoda nabasetyhini abahlala bengenasifo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuzama ukukhulelwa, ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele ukuba ubhekene nokungabikho kwengqondo, mhlawumbi uzive uhlukile ngokwawe-sinethemba lokuba unomdla.
Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba umdala ulapho. Awube ngumnye umntu xa ufumanisa ukuba unesifo .
Ukuba unomtsalane kwaye uyathandeka ngaphambi kokungapheli, uhamba nje kwaye uyayithanda emva.
Ukuba ungathandabuzeki oku, cinga ngezinto oza kuthetha kumhlobo othe wakuxelela ukuba banentloni kwaye bengenalucalulo ngenxa yokungabikho. Mhlawumbi awungeke uthi kubo, "Yep, ulungile, awunanto!" Akhondlela.
Uyazi ukuba akuyinyaniso ngomhlobo, kwaye kufuneka uqonde ukuba akunjalo.
Uninzi kakhulu kunokuzala kwakho.
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Yeka Ukujonga Ubomi Bakho Bokuziphatha Ngobulili njengomnye Umshini oCwengileko weConceptionUbundlobongela buya kusuka kwintshiseko ukuya kwindawo yokusebenza. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba isikhumbuzo sokungabikho kwengqondo xa unzima ukukhulelwa.
Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukukhulelwa, mhlawumbi ucinga ngesondo njengento engakumbi yokukhulelwa. Nangona kunjalo, ngandlela-thile, emva kokuba ulwa nomlenze, isondo siba ngumshini otyumkileyo wokukhulelwa.
Zonke izinto ezilungileyo ozilisebenzisayo-umonde, iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo, uxhumano-luya kutshabalala.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba ubomi bakho bobulili obuthile abugcini nje ngokuba nosana.
Cinga zonke izinto ozinandipha ngayo ngesondo ngaphambi kokuba uqale uhambo lwakho lokuzala. Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukubuyisela enye yayo kwigumbi lokulala.
Nangona kuya kuthatha umsebenzi othile, unokuphucula ubomi bakho ngokwesondo ngelixa uzama ukukhulelwa .
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Yeka ukulinda Ukuphila Ubomi Bakho NjengentsaphoUmbutho unenkcazelo encinane kakhulu yintoni eyenza intsapho ibe yintsapho yokwenene .
Ukuba sifanele sikholwe izibhengezo, udinga ubuncinane ubuncinane abantwana kunye nenja ngaphambi kokuba uqiniseke.
Inyaniso kukuba intsapho ichazwa ngeendlela ezininzi. Ayifuni ubudlelwane begazi okanye abantwana okanye inja ukuba bafaneleke.
Ngamanye amaxesha, isibini esinomdla esiza kuba nenzalo siya kulinda size sinezingane ukuba ziqale izithethe zentsapho okanye izithethe zeholide . Bakhumbula ukuba kwakunjani emakhayeni abo akhula kwaye bazive bengenakukwazi ukufumana ezo zithethe ezivuyisayo baze babe nabantwana babo.
Akunjalo.
Ukuba ulindele ukuhlala ubomi bakho njengentsapho, usenokuzisola ngexesha elilahlekileyo.
Qala uhlala njengentsapho ngoku .
Amapolisa asetshentshiweyo-yintsapho aya kungqongqoza emnyango wakho ukuba ungalindelanga iintsana ezimbini kunye nenja.
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Yeka ukulinda Ukuphila Ubomi Bakho njengomntu ngamnyeEwe, ubomi bakho buhamba ngaphezu kweentsapho zakho okanye iqabane lakho. Ubuye ube nobomi bakho. Imingeni yokunyamekela inokukwenza ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumfanekiso omkhulu.
Xa kuphakathi kokungabikho kwengqondo, kulula ukuyeka ukucinga ngemisebenzi yakho okanye imfundo yakho. Ukuxinezeleka kokungabikho kwengqondo kungenza kube nzima ukugxila emsebenzini, kwaye oko akuncedi xa kuziwa kwiinjongo zobugcisa.
Oku kuthetha, kukufanele uthathe isinyathelo emva kwaye ucinge ukuba yiziphi iinjongo zakho. Ngaba kukho izinto ozisebenzisayo ukuzama, kodwa uye wahamba okanye ukhohliwe?
Ubomi bakho bungaphezulu nje komsebenzi wakho.
Kukho izinto zakho zokuzilibazisa. Impilo yakho jikelele . Ubuhlobo bakho .
Yeka ukubeka konke ugxininiso lwakho ekukhutheni uze usasaze enye yalo mzamo. Ungalibali ukuhlala ubomi bakho bonke.
Iminyaka iya kudlula enoba uzama ukukhulelwa okanye kungenjalo, kwaye nokuba uya kugqithwa okanye hayi. Khumbula ukusebenzisa ixesha lakho apha eMhlabeni ngokuhlakanipha.
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Yeka Ukuhlupheka UbuthuleMhlawumbi akufanele uxelele wonke umntu malunga nemingeni yakho yokuzala (nangona oko kuyindlela yokuqwalasela.)
Kodwa ukuyigcina ngokufihlakeleyo akusiyo kuphela into engadingekile kodwa ibuhlungu kwengqondo.
Xa ugcina into efana nale mfihlelo, ifaka. Ihlazo malunga nemeko yakho ikhula kwaye ikhule. Ihlazo linjengobumba-lukhula ebumnyameni.
Ukucacisa imingeni yakho yokuzala ukuba omnye umhlobo uza kukhanya ngokukhawuleza aze anciphise ihlazo ozivelayo. Qaphela ngokucophelela abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho ocinga ukuba unokuncedisa kwaye uvumeleke kuphela.
Ukuba umntu othe wazenza kakubi, musa ukukuyeka. Zama omnye umntu de ufumane umntu oyedwa onokuthi uyinyani .
Kuya kuba lukhululo lokungayi kubamba ngaphakathi ngaphakathi.
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Yeka ukuzama ukwenza konke okuNangona uvakalelwa wedwa, nangona kubonakala ngathi nguyena oyedwa ongenabantwana phakathi kwabo bonke abahlobo bakho, awuyedwa kule hlabathi elikhulu.
Enye yeenkuba ezisibhozo zeengxaki zokuzala ngexesha elithile ebomini babo. Kukhona ithuba elihle umntu owaziyo uye wazama ukukhulelwa, kodwa njengawe, bayigcina imfihlo.
Yiba nesibindi uze uphule uxolo .
Unamathuba amaninzi enkxaso kunokuba uyayiqonda.
Unokujoyina i- RESOLVE group support support . Ungaba ilungu lesigqeba sokuzala. Unokuqala ibhulogi yokungenasifo kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwi-blogosphere enkulu kakhulu. Unokufumana umgqirha onokukunceda kwiimvakalelo ezinzima zokungapheli.
Qinisekisa ukuba ufuna inkxaso kwiqabane lakho.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba abantu ababini banokuhlala kunye kunye nokungena nentsapho njengobini isibini, kodwa bazama ukujamelana nayo yedwa.
Thetha omnye nomnye. Yabelana ngoloyiko kunye nomnye, kuquka neengxaki, njengengxakini enokuthi umlingane wakho akushiye ngenxa yokuba ungekhoyo. Ncike omnye komnye.
Ukuba ukungabikho kwintlungu kuye kwaphazamisa ulwalamano lwakho, jonga umphathiswa kunye kunye nokujongana nemiba.