Ukusuka Kwintlungu Ukuhlambalaza Ukunciphisa ILibido
Ixesha elide ukuzama ukukhulelwa kunokuchaphazela kakubi impilo yakho yesondo. Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukukhulelwa, ubulili bekunomdla kwaye unethemba lokuba unomdla. Yayiyindlela yokudibanisa neqabane lakho . Ukuzama kwakho kwangaphambili ukukhulelwa kweentsuku kungahle kube kuhle. Emva kweminyaka yokusebenzisa ulawulo lokuzalwa , ukulala ngesondo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukukhulelwa kunokuvuyisa.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzama ukukhulelwa ixesha elide kunokutshintsha konke oku.
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho uvakalelwa kukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwesondo luye lwawohloka ngenxa yokungabi nantlungu, awuyedwa.
Ezi ezinye zeendlela ezininzi zokungabikho kwintsholongwane zingathinta isondo.
Ubundlobongela buba nzima
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba ngumthombo wokhathazeka xa uzama ukukhulelwa.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kuba yisikhumbuzo sento engasebenzi ngendlela efanele.
Sonke siyazi ukusuka kwinqanaba lezempilo le-high school ukuba isondo kukulungiselela abantwana. (Ukuba sasiyakholelwa ootitshala bethu beklasi lezempilo, sasikholelwa ukuba isondo - kanye kanye, nangaliphi na ixesha-singasenza abaselula abakhulelweyo.)
Bambalwa abantu abaye bacinga ngcamango yokuba isondo singenakho ukukhokelela ekukhulelweni ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Xa izinto 'zingasebenzi ngendlela efanelekileyo,' ubulili buya kuba ngumxhasi woxinzelelo kuba ngumdali ocinezelayo.
Amava anokuba nzima kakhulu.
Ukwabelana ngesondo luqala ukuvakalelwa njengeChore
Nikaze nisongane, "Masenze umntwana," ngaphambi kokulala ngesondo?
La magama angaba ngowokuqala ekuqaleni. Kodwa emva kweenyanga okanye iminyaka yokuzama ukukhulelwa, loo mazwi yinto yokugqibela ofuna ukuyiva.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuvakalelwa njengomsebenzi. Kungathi ufune into enokuyenza ukuze ufezekise injongo. Yaye loo njongo-yokwenza umntwana - uyakwazi ukufikelela.
Yongeza kwixinzelelo lexesha lokuvuthwa , okanye uxelelwe ugqirha wakho ukuba abe nesondo kwiintsuku ezithile, kwaye isondo sinokuvakalelwa njengomsebenzi wesikolo.
Zesondo kunye nohlazo
Ihlazo alikho umntu ongenalo ulwalambulo okanye isondo.
UDkt. Brene Brown uchaza intloni njengengxaki yokungafanelanga ukuthandwa nothando.
Ihlazo malunga nobulili linokubonakaliswa njengento engafanelekanga ukuba inomnye umntu.
Kubasetyhini, ukungabikho kwengqondo kunokubenza bazive bengaphantsi kowesifazane. Amabele kunye nomlenze bavame ukucingwa njengempawu zesondo zokuzala kunye nokutya kwabantwana. Ukungenzi nto kungathatha ezo ngcamango ngaphandle.
Umfazi akanakho ukuqonda indlela umlingane wakhe angamfumana ngayo, ngakumbi ukuba "uzimele" ngokungabikho.
Kubantu, ukungabikho kwintlungu kunokulimaza iimvakalelo zabo zobuntu.
Nangona abafazi banokukwazi ukulwa neengxaki zokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba ngexesha lokungabikho kwengqondo, amadoda anomzabalazo wokulwa nokungabikho komntu .
Amadoda angavakalelwa kukuba "angaphantsi kwindoda" ukuba ubunani babo besilisa buphantsi okanye abanako ukufumana umlingani wabo okhulelweyo, nokuba kukho naziphi na izizathu.
Basenokukhathazeka ukuba iqabane lawo liya kubashiya "indoda yangempela."
Xa ungaziva ufanelwe uthando, okanye ungaziva utyandane okanye ukhangele, ubuhlobo bakho bezesondo buya kubandezeleka.
Ukuxhalabisa, Ukuxinezeleka, kunye noThabano
Ukuxhalabisa nokuxinezeleka kuyaqhelekileyo kwizibini ezithintela ukungabikho kwengqondo, ngakumbi abafazi. Ngaloo ndlela, uxinzelelo kunye nokuxinezeleka kunokuchaphazela ukulalana kwakho ngesondo.
Umnqweno ongaphantsi wesondo luphawu oluqhelekileyo lokudandatheka.
Ukuxhalabisa kunokukhokelela ekuxhatheni ngokwesini. Ukuxhalabisa ngokukodwa malunga nesondo kuyaqhelekileyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo ezijongene nokungabikho.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kwabesetyhini kunye namadoda
Uphando lufumene ukuba abasetyhini kunye namadoda abangenabantwana abangenasifo banako ukufumana ukungasebenzi komzimba.
Ukungasebenzi kakubi ngokwesondo kubhekisela ekubeni neengxaki nayiphi na isigaba sesenzo sesondo, kuquka nomnqweno wokulala ngesondo, ukuvuswa ngexesha lesini, kunye ne- orgasm .
Akunzima ukucinga indlela iingxaki ezixoxwe ngayo ngasentla - iintloni, ukuxhalabisa, ukuxinezeleka kunye nokukhungatheka-kunokukhokelela ekusebenzisaneni ngokwesondo.
Uxinzelelo lokuqhuba lunokukhokelela ekusebenziseni ngokwesondo. Bobabini nababhinqa banokuziva ngeli xesha bezama ukukhulelwa.
Kubantu, ukuxhalabisa ukusebenza, i-ejaculation yexesha elide, kunye ne-erectile dysfunction ingenzeka.
Kwisifundo esithile, xa kuthelekiswa namadoda angenabantwana kunye neqela lokulawula labantu abavuthiweyo, phantse amadoda angama-kabini anesifo sokungabikho komzimba.
Kwesinye isifundo malunga nokungasebenzi komzimba ngokwesini, i-40% yabasetyhini abangenasifo bafunyanwe basengozini yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. Oku kufaniswa ne-25% yeqela lolawulo.
Inqaku eliphantsi kokuzama ukuqonda kunye nezesondo
Uxinzelelo lokuzama ukukhulelwa, kunye nokuxilongwa, ukuvavanya, kunye nokunyanga kokungabikho komntwana, kubangele ukuxhatshazwa kwintsebenziswano yesondo kubantu abaninzi.
Unokuvakalelwa kukuba unguye kunye namava akho. Usenokuze uzibuze ukuba lakho iqabane livakalelwa yinto efana neentloni kunye nokukhathazeka ozivelayo.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba wena, ngokude, kungekuphela.
Uphando luye lwabonisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ukungabikho kwengqondo kutshintsha indlela esizibona ngayo njengezilwanyana zesini. Itshintsha ubudlelwane bethu besondo.
Kodwa kufanele kube njalo ngonaphakade. Kukho isizathu sethemba.
Uphando olude lwexesha elide lamabhangqa abaye baphathwa ngonyango lwe-IVF babheka ukuba ubuhlobo besini kunye nolwasemtshatweni bachaphazeleka emva kweminyaka emva kokonyango. Bajonge ngokukodwa indlela amabini abini abenza ngayo iminyaka eyi-10 emva kokunyanga.
Kwiminyaka elishumi emva kokungabi nantoni, izibini zilinganise umgangatho wokwaneliseka lomtshato kunye nolwabelana ngesondo ngokuthi "lunelisekile" okanye "luninzi."
Oku kwakunyaniseki nokuba ngaba baphumelele ekukhutheni, baqhutyelwa ukuba bamkelwe, okanye bahlala bengenamntwana.
Nangona unokuba nzima ngoku ngoku, xa sele iphelile-kwaye kuya kuphelela ekugqibeleni - izinto ziya kuphucula.
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