Ukugcina Umtshato Wakho / Ubudlelwane Bomelele Xa Uzama Ukuqonda
Njengoko ukungabikho kwengqondo kubangela ukuba uxinzelelo lwengqondo kumntu, lukwachaphazela ubudlelwane-ngakumbi ngakumbi, ulwalamano lwakho lomtshato.
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kunokudala ukuxabana kunye nokuxhatshazwa, kodwa kunokusondeza kunye. Iyakwenza kokubili ngokukhawuleza!
Nazi ezinye zeengxaki ezinxulumene nobudlelwane obukhutshwe ngabangenangqondo, ezilandelwa ngamanyathelo osebenzayo onokuthatha ukuze uphulukise kwaye ukhule ukusuka kumava.
Phawula kwiphando: ininzi (ukuba ingeyo yonke into) yezifundo ezibini kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo yokungenzi nentsholongwane zenzelwe ngabafazi nabasetyhini abasetyhini.
Kufuneka uphando olongezelelweyo, ngakumbi ezo ziquka iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwano. Kuze kube ngoko, sinokusebenzisa oko sifunda kumphando womtshato, kwaye ubuncinane sisebenzise ezo ziphumo kwezinye iindidi zobudlelwano bobuhlobo.
Ukuxinezeleka Ngezesondo Xa Uzama Ukuqonda
Ubomi bakho bobulili lungaba yixhoba lokuqala lokuzama ukukhulelwa kwengcinezelo .
Ekuqaleni, ukuhlekisana, "Makhe senze umntwana" unokuguquka. Emva kwemizuzu yokuzama, yinto yokugqibela enoba ufuna ukuthetha okanye ukuva.
Ukuxinezeleka kwintsebenziswano yesondo kuyaqheleke ngakumbi kubini abalingani abazama ukulala ngexesha lokuvuna. Uphando lufumene ukwanda kwintsebenziswano yesondo-kokubili amadoda nabasetyhini-xa ixesha elidlulileyo lomzimba lisetyenziselwa ukukhulelwa.
Ngenxa yokuba isondo sinendlela yokuziva ufuphi ngakumbi nomlingane wakho, uxinzelelo ebomini bakho obusondeleyo lunokubangela ukuba uxhatshazo lubuhlobo bakho.
Ukungavumelani ngexesha lokufuna Uncedo
Ufanele ufumane nini uncedo? Ewe, kumbono wakho ugqirha, lo ngumbuzo ocacileyo.
Ukuba uzama ukukhulelwa unyaka omnye, kufuneka ubone ugqirha wakho . Ukuba uneminyaka engama-35 okanye ngaphezulu , kufuneka ufune uncedo emva kweenyanga ezintandathu. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na impawu okanye umngcipheko wokungabikho kwengqondo , khuluma nodokotela wakho ngokukhawuleza.
Ezinye izibini azikho iingxabano malunga nokufuna uncedo xa kufika ixesha.
Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka ntoni xa omnye wenu ufuna ukufumana uncedo ngoku, kwaye omnye ufuna ukulinda ? Oku kunokukhokelela ekuxabaneni.
Ukungavumelani malunga nokuba uthethe abanye abantu malunga nokulwa
Ngaphandle kwamabhinqa angatshatanga (okanye amadoda) azama ukuba nomntwana onobudoda okanye umxhasi weqanda , ukungabikho kwengxaki kubakho ingxaki yesibini.
Ukuthetha ngomzabalazo nabanye abantu yisigqibo oya kuyidinga ukuyenza kunye.
Ukuba uyavuma ukuba ngubani na ukuba uthethe, mkhulu!
Ukuba akunjalo, izinto zingaba nzima.
Umlingane ongafuni ukwabelana naye unokufumana ihlazo okanye intloni . Bangavakalelwa kukuba ukungabikho komntwana kubangasese ngesihloko.
Lowo ofuna ukuthetha nabanye malunga nemingeni yokuzala inokuziva ekhulile kwaye engenakho inkxaso yoluntu. Oku kunokukhokelela enkathazweni eninzi ukuhlangabezana nokungazinzi ngokwayo, imizwa yokucaphuka komlingani ofuna ukugcina izinto eziyimfihlelo, kunye nokunyuka kobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Uloyiko lokuba Ukuba "Iphutha Lakho," Umlingani Wakho Uya Kuhamba
"Ndikoyika ukuba uya kuhamba naye ngenxa yokuba ndingumntwana ongenasiphelo. Ndiyayika ukuba baya kundishiya kumntu onokubanika umntwana. "
Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo kunye noluntu oluninzi lwabantu abangabonakaliyo kumthandi wabo.
Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luneqinileyo, ukungabi nantlungu akunakwenzeka ukukuphulaphula. Indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana noloyiko? Beka apho. Thetha nomlingane wakho malunga noyiko lwakho.
Inqaku lesibini elinomdla: uphando luye lwafumanisa ukuba abo batyelela ukuzitshintsha nokugxeka - yiphoso yam, ndizisele le nto-ndizenzele ukuba zinamazinga aphezulu okunyanzeliswa kwengqondo.
Abaphandi bacetyisa ukuba amanye amadoda namabhinqa bakhetha ukuzimela njengendlela yokususa uxinzelelo kwiqabane lawo. Ngamanye amagama, ngokuthi, "Yonke into endiyiyo," banethemba lokunciphisa intlungu yomzwelo wabo othandekayo.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonise ukuba olu hlobo lokucinga lubuhlungu ubudlelwane.
Akukho nzuzo kunoma ubani kwaye akayi kuthatha okanye akhuphe ukukhathazeka komnye umlingane.
Uxinzelelo kunye nentukuthelo ngaphezu kokuba ngubani "onobungozi"
Ngubani unobungozi ngakumbi, lowo othotyelwe kwiinkqubo ezininzi? Okanye umntu ongenasiphene (ukuba ngaba omnye kuphela), ngoko ke unomthwalo wemvakalelo weemvakalelo?
Ngubani obenzima ngakumbi? Lowo unesicingo sokuvavanya , okanye lowo kufuneka angene egumbini yedwa, kwikliniki yokuzala, kunye ne- masturbate kwiimfuneko ?
Ezinye izibini, le micimbi ibangela ukucaphuka.
Iimidlalo ze-Olimpiki zobuhlungu azikhethekanga kwizibini. Oku kwenzeka phakathi kobutyebi benkwenkwela kunye noontanga , kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo bangaphandle kwintlalo engaphelelanga.
Ukungaqondani ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuxhathisa
Wonke umntu uhlangabezana noxinzelelo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukungalingani ngokwesini ngendlela abantu abanokujamelana ngayo nokungabikho komntwana. Ezi ntlukwano zingakhokelela ekungaqondani.
Ngokomzekelo, elinye iqabane lingamangalela omnye "ongenakhathalela ngokwaneleyo" ukuba isitayela sabo sokuthintela siyanqotshwa. Kwiphepha le-flip, elinye iqabane lingamangalela elinye "lokunyusa."
Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba abafazi banako ukufumana uxinzelelo lomtshato kunamadoda, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ebangela ukungabikho. Oku akuthethi ukuba amadoda akhathaleli. Kuphela ukuba ulwalamano lwabo lobudlelwane phakathi kobuhlwempu buphantsi.
Uxinzelelo lwezeMali lokungafihli
Iingxabano malunga nemali azikhethi zodwa kwizibini ezingenamntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kuba ukungabi nantoni kunokuba kubiza kakhulu , ukuxhatshazwa ngokwemali kuqhelekileyo.
Ukuhlawula iirhafu, uvavanyo lwezityalo kunye neyeza ezingakhange zihlanganiswe ne-inshorensi, ukuya kwiiiklinikhi zokuzala , ukulahleka ixesha lokusebenza ngenxa yeenkqubo kunye nokuqeshwa-zonke ezi zikhokelela ekumanyeni kwemali.
Uninzi lwezibini aziyi kufuna unyango lwe-IVF . Kwabo benzayo, kunokukhokelela kwimithwalo yemali ende.
Phantse zonke izibini ezithatha i-IVF kufuneka ziboleke imali. Oku kunokuthetha iminyaka yetyala.
Nangona ukungafumaneki okanye i-IVF ingemva kwakho, uxinzelelo lwezemali lokungabikho kwengqondo lunokulandela ixesha elide.
Eminye imithombo enokubakho yoxinzelelo lwemali iquka ...
- ukungavumelani malunga nokuba uphankanye unyango (ngenxa yeendleko)
- nokuba ingabaleka njani imali
- ingaba ungafuni ukucela abahlobo kunye nosapho ngoncedo lwezemali (njenge- crowdfunding )
- nokuba unqabile unyango kwaye uhambe ngokuthe ngqo ukuya kumkelwa (okuye kubiza)
Ulwahlulo lweNgqiqo malunga nokuqhubela phambili okanye izenzo ezilandelayo
Ezinye izibini zingavumelani malunga nokuba ziphandle unyango lwe-IVF okanye nayiphi na unyango lwenzala . Lezo zingavumelani zinganxulumana namatyala kunye neengxowa-mali, kodwa zingaphinde zenzeke ngokunyanga ngamanyango ngokwabo.
Amaqabane angavumelaniyo malunga nokuba uthathe ikhefu elifutshane ekuvavanyeni nasonyango . Abangavumelaniyo nokuba bayaqhubeka bezama okanye baqhubela phambili. Abangavumelaniyo nokuba ngaba baphumelele ukuthotyelwa okanye baphile ubomi obungabantwana.
Xa umbuzo wokusebenzisa umniki-mali okanye ukuxhaswa , ukuyenza izigqibo kuba nzima nakakhulu. Yingakho phantse zonke iiklinikhi zokuzala zifuna imibhangqwana ukuba ithethe nomcebisi wezityalo ngaphambi kokuba ulandele umxhasi okanye unyango lokuzala.
Yintoni Ongayenza Ukunciphisa Ubunzima Bogxininiso?
Nangona uphando oluthe lwafumanisa ukuba amadoda nabasetyhini babhekana nokungabikho kwengqondo banokuthi banokuziva benganelisekanga kunye nemitshato yabo, ezinye iingcaphephe zifumene ukuba zinokubambisana.
Oku akubangenxa yokuba ezi zibini zivunguzela ngenxa yokungabikho komzimba kwaye azikhangeli.
Ngokuchasene noko, ngokubhekiselele kuphando, ngumzabalazo-kunye nemfuno yabo yokuxhasana-okukhokelela ekuxhaseni okukhuselekileyo.
Nazi iindlela zokunciphisa ukunyanzelana kunye nokujongana kangcono njengesiqabane.
Ukuthetha : Thetha omnye nomnye. Yabelana nokwesaba. Musa ukuhamba ngokukrakra lakho iqabane lingashiya kwaye ungalokothi utsho nantoni na.
Ngelixa kunokusongela ukukhupha, uya kukhululeka xa iqabane lakho likuqinisekisa ukuba ukungabi nantoni akuyi kubathumela.
Ukuthetha malunga nokungabikho kwengxaki kunokuba yingxaki ukuba inkqubo yokubamba iqhosha lomlingani omnye kukugwema isihloko ngokupheleleyo. Inokuthi ibe ngumthombo wokuxhatshazwa ukuba omnye umlingane uthetha ngokusweleka "sonke ixesha."
Isitshixo sifumana ibhalansi.
Yiba nokulungele ukuthetha, okanye uzimisele ukuthetha ngawo ngaphantsi, kuxhomekeke kwicala lini lwemali owela kuyo.
Fumana iindlela zokudibanisa ezingahambelani nokungabikho komntwana : Ukuthetha ngokulinganisela, kubalulekile ukuba ukungabikho kwengqondo akuthathi yonke inxibelelwano yakho.
Ngokukodwa phakathi kokuvavanya ukunyanga nokunyanga, ukungabi nantoni kunokusibekela yonke into ebomini bakho. Ungeke ukhumbule oko uthethayo ngaphambi kokuba umngcipheko wakho wenzalo uthinte.
Yenza umgudu wokudibanisa ngezinye iindlela. Ewe, oku kuya kufuna umzamo owenziwe.
Cinga emva kwento oyenzayo ngexesha lakho lokuthandana. Okanye, landela umdlalo omtsha okanye umsebenzi kunye. Hlala phantsi uze wenze uluhlu lwezinto zokwenza kunye.
Ukuthetha ngoxhumo, ungayigxothi impilo yakho yesondo ! Buyiselwa kwakhona kwi-infertility, kwaye wenze ngokusondelana nokuthanda kwakhona. Oku, kuya kuthatha inzame.
Vumela ukwahlukana ngamava: Wonke umntu uphatha ngokuhlukileyo. Awukwazi ukugweba ukuba umntu unomdla kangakanani ngamava ngokubheka okanye mhlawumbi nangezenzo zabo.
Akuyena wonke umntu obeka iimvakalelo zabo kwimikhono yabo. Ngexesha elifanayo, oko kubonakala ngathi kukugqithiseleyo kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kubo.
Oku kwazisa kwakhona umba weeMidlalo zeOlimpiki.
Kuza kuhlala kukho umntu ehlabathini eli "libi kakhulu" okanye "lingcono" kunawe. Loo mntu unako okanye angaba ngumlingani wakho.
Ayinamsebenzi lonto.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liphule ingalo yakhe, kwaye uyaphula inzwane yakho encinci, ingabe inzwane yakho ibuhlungu kancinci ngenxa yokuba ingalo yakhe ephukile "yimbi?" Akunjalo.
Intlungu yomzweleko yintlungu. Ukunikezela ngenkxaso-ngaphandle kwemimiselo okanye ukuthelekiswa-yindlela yokuthula.
Fumana ukuxhaswa kwezenhlalakahle : Nceda ungazami ukujamelana nokunyanzeliswa yedwa.
Ihlazo lugcina abantu abaninzi kunye nezibini ezivela ekuphumeni ukufumana inkxaso. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lufumene ukuba iibini ezifumana inkxaso yentlalo ziye zaphucula ubudlelwane.
Inkxaso yentlalo sele ifunyenwe yinto ebalulekileyo yabasetyhini abajongene nokungabikho komntwana.
Awunayo "ukuxelela ihlabathi," ukuthetha. Unokwenza isigqibo sokuba ukwabelana ngolwazi kunye nabahlobo abathile okanye amalungu omndeni. Musa nje ukuzama ukwenza konke wena ngokwakho.
Hlala phantsi wenze icebo kunye : Uphando lufumene ukuba ukudibanisa isicwangciso senkqubo esicwangcisekileyo kunceda ukunyaniseka komtshato, ngakumbi kubantu.
Ngandlela-thile, ukungabikho kobuchule akuyiyo inceba. Akunakukwazi ukuba umzabalazo wakho uza kuba lide kangakanani okanye uza kufunwa phi unyango okanye unyango.
Nangona kunjalo, unako ukwenza izicwangciso zexesha elifutshane. Unako ukwenza izicwangciso eziguquguqukayo.
Kulungile ukuthetha ngento oya kuyenza xa ufuna i-IVF, nokuba i-IVF ayikho kwi-radar. Kwaye kulungile ukwenza ezo zicwangciso, ukwazi ukuba usenokutshintsha iingqondo zakho kamva.
Ukuhlanganisa izicwangciso zezemali-ngokukodwa isicwangciso sokulondoloza-kukukhetha ngokufanelekileyo. Kungekudala uqala ukubeka imali ngaphandle, ngcono. Ukuba awuyidingi ukunyanga iindleko zonyango okanye ukwamkelwa kweendleko, ungayisebenzisa enye into. Akukho nzakalo eyenziwe.
Ukuxhatshazwa : Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingxabano malunga nokuba ngubani ozakuxelela okanye indlela yokuhlawula umjikelo wonyango, thintela ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe kwaye ujonge ukuphazamisa.
Ngaba omnye wenu ufuna ukuxelela abanye malunga nokungabikho komntwana, ngelixa elinye lifuna ukuligcina liyimfihlo? Gqiba kunye ndawonye kwiqela elikhethiweyo labantu abanokuba ngabaxhasi bezentlalo.
Omnye wenu ufuna ukuyeka ukulungela, ngelixa elinye lifuna ukuqhubeka? Ukungqinelana ngokuthatha ikhefu lexeshana endaweni yoko, kunye nezicwangciso zokuxoxa ngokuhambela phambili xa kuphelile.
Cinga ngcebiso : Ngamanye amaxesha, awuyi kukwazi ukufikelela kwiingxaki kuphela. Umcebisi unokukunceda ukuba uqhagamshelane kwaye ufikelele kwizivumelwano.
Unokucinga ukuba ukucetyiswa kuphela ngabantu abacinga ngokuqhawula umtshato, okanye imeko yexinzelelo okanye ukuxhalabisa .
Le ngqungquthela.
Ukucebisa kukuba wonke umntu onokusebenzisa uncedo olongezelelweyo ngokuxinezeleka okanye imeko enzima.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubona umgqirha njengomntu, okanye njengesiqabane, kunokukunceda. Xa uziva uxhaswe, uza kuba ngcono ukuhlala ulwalamano lwakho.
Khumbula ukuba ukungabi nantlungu akuhlali ngonaphakade : Unako okanye unganabantwana ngolunye usuku. Kodwa awuyi kuba nzima ukukhulelwa ngonaphakade.
Uphando lufumene ukuba iimvakalelo zokudandatheka kunye nokuxhalaba zixinzelele kwiminyaka emithathu emva kokungabikho kwengqondo yokuxilonga.
Nangona kunjalo, iminyaka emithandathu emva kokuxilongwa, izibini ziziva zomelele, kwaye ukunyanzeliswa kunye neempawu ezixhalabileyo zinciphisa.
Ulwalamano lwakho luyakwazi ukusinda kule ngxaki-kodwa inzima. Ngexesha, kwaye mhlawumbi isiluleko, ukuzama kwakho ukukhulelwa iminyaka kunokusondeza kunye.
Ekugqibeleni, uya kuba nomntwana okanye uyeke ukuzama ukukhulelwa. Kodwa kukho ubomi emva kokusweleka.
Gcina kwilo themba.
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