Zininzi iindlela zokuzama ukuqonda iingxaki ezibangela ukukhathazeka
Ukuba unzima ukujamelana nobunzima, awuyedwa. Uphando lubonisile ukuba uxinzelelo lwengqondo olujongene nabasetyhini lufana nolwabafazi abajongene nezifo ezifana nomhlaza, i-HIV kunye nentlungu engapheliyo. Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba amadoda asemngciphekweni wokuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, ukufumana iintlungu zomzimba kunye neentlungu ezinxulumene nokuxinzezeleka kwengqondo, ukungasebenzi kwezesondo kunye nokunciphisa ukuzithemba.
Ezi mpawu zengqondo zingenzeka kungakhathaliseki ukuba "ngubani" ongenasiphelo, nokuba ngaba isibini sibhekene nokungabikho komntu, ukungabikho komntwana , ukungabikho kwindoda kunye nabasetyhini abangabonakaliyo .
Ukungenzi nto akuyona imeko elula ukujongana nayo. Unokuva uxinzelelo loluntu ukuba ube nezingane okanye uzive ugwebo oluvela kwizihlobo ezinentsingiselo, amalungu omndeni, okanye abantu abangaziwa. Abanye bangabonelela ngeengcebiso ezingenakuncedo okanye ezibonisa ukuba ukuxhalaba kwakho ngandlela-thile ukubeka ityala (kungekhona inyaniso).
Ngaphezu koko, unokuba uvakalelwa kukungafaneleki, ukungabikho nto, okanye ukungaphumeleli okuphazamisana nomgangatho wakho wobomi kunye nomgangatho wobudlelwane bakho.
Enye indlela yokuzinceda kukuba uvume iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uchaze izinto ezikubangela uxinzelelo. Ngokwenza njalo, unokuqala ukwakha izicwangciso zokujamelana nokuphumelela ukuphumeza kangcono le mvakalelo.
Impembelelo Emotional of Infertility
Iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nokungabikho kwengqondo zivela ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Kwiindawo ezininzi, imfuno yokuba nabantwana ifakwe kwintshukumo encinci, ngokuqhelekileyo ngengqondo yokuphuthuma kulabo abaya kukukhumbuza ukuba "iwashi ithetha."
Xa ubhekene nohlobo loxinzelelo lwangokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa iimvakalelo kunye nokulindela okuye kwaxhaswa kuwe kwizinto ozibekelele kuzo.
Omnye udlala kwixesha elilandelayo. Ngokomzekelo, isibini sinokuzithelekisa ngokwabo ontanga abaye bafumana abantwana. Oku kunokubangela iimvakalelo zokuzithemba nokukhathazeka .
Nangona ezinye izibini zithandana kunye njengoko zijongana nokungabikho komntwana, abanye bazifumana behlukana. Ukubandezeleka komtshato kuyaqhelana nokungazinzi kwaye kungakhokelela ekubonweni okungengqiqo ukuba yonke into iya kuba yinto enyanisekileyo ukuba kukho umntwana kwaye yonke into iya kuphutha xa kungekho.
Ulwalamano lunokuthi lube luqhutywe yinkqubo eyiyo yokuzama ukukhulelwa. Ukucwangcisa ngesondo ngenxa ye-ovulation kungenza ulwalamano olusondeleyo lunjenge-chore-like. Uphando lufumene ixesha lokulala ngesini ukukhulelwa kungaholela kwiingxaki zesenzo sezesondo, kubantu, kunye nokunciphisa ukwaneliseka ngokwesini, kubabhinqa nabasetyhini.
Ukuba kukho ukuthatha unyango lwezityalo, iindleko zingaphinda zigqithise umqondo wokungaphumeleli komntu, ukuba ngaba iindleko zibeka le mbini ibe yimingcipheko yemali. Iindleko zonyango zivela kwiinkulungwane zamaDola ukuya kumawaka amawaka eedola, kwaye ukuzama ukuhlawula loo mabhili-okanye ukuzama ukugqiba ukuba ngaba uya kubatyala-kunokubangela uxinzelelo kwiintlobo zombini.
Ukuchonga iimvakalelo zakho
Ngokugqithiseleyo kunoko, iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nokungabikho kwengqondo azibangelwa nto enye kunye nento enye yodwa.
Bahlala bexakeke kulindeleke ukusuka ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Ukunqoba oku kufuna ukuba ufumanise kwaye ubize iimvakalelo onokuvakalelwa ngazo. Ezi ziquka:
- Iimvakalelo zokungaphumeleli okanye ukungaphumeleli
- Imiva yokulahleka
- Uziva unetyala
- Imiva yokugwetywa
- Imiva yehlazo
- Umona okanye umsindo
- Ukwesaba ukukhishwa okanye ukushiywa
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzithemba
- Uxinzelelo lwemali
Emva kokuba ufumene iimvakalelo zakho, qwalasela ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezikuyo, apho zivela khona, kwaye ezo zizo zikhokelwa kuyo.
Yinto enye, umzekelo, ukuziva unetyala. Kodwa netyala malunga nantoni na? Ngaba iimvakalelo zakho okanye iimvakalelo ezisekelwe kulindeleke kwabanye?
Uziva unetyala kuni? Lakho qabane? Usapho lwakho? Ixesha elizayo owazicingela lona?
Ngokuzibuza le mibuzo, unokukwazi ukuqala ukuqonda le mvakalelo kwaye wabelane ngayo nomntu onokukunceda.
Kuphi ukufumana inkxaso
Uphando lufumene ukuba ukuvuleka ngokungazinzi nokufuna inkxaso evela ngaphandle kungabancedisa amadoda namabhinqa ukujamelana nokuxinzezeleka kwengqondo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, indawo efanelekileyo yokufumana inkxaso ngumlingane wakho, kodwa oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uxinzelelo oluqokelelwayo unokuvakalelwa lunokukwenza kube nzima ukulungisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye. Ukufuna inkxaso evela ngaphandle kobudlelwane kunokuba luncedo kuwe bobabini.
Qinisekisa ukufikelela kubahlobo nakwiintsapho , kodwa qaphela xa ukhetha . Unokufumanisa ukuba umthombo weemvakalelo zakho ezibi zingabakho kwalabo abasondeleyo kuwe. Amaqela enkxaso anokunceda, ukuvumela ukuba uveze iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango ongazange ukwazi ukwabelana ngazo kwenye indawo, kwaye ufumane ingqiqo kulabo abaye bahlala khona.
Ungesabi ukufumana uncedo lwezakhono kumcebisi . Uyakubona umphathiswa ngokwazo okanye ndawonye ndawonye, ngokuxhomekeka kwiimfuno zakho. Nangona akudingeki ukuba ubone ngokugqithiseleyo umgqirha oqhelana nobunzima, kunokunceda (kunye nokuba ufuna) ukuba ufuna uncedo ukwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ucingisisa nge- egg donor IVF okanye i- surrogacy , iklinikhi yakho inokufuna inani leeseshoni zokucebisa ngaphambi kokuqhubela phambili.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ekugqibeleni, injongo kukufumana ukwamkelwa kweemvakalelo zakho kunye neqabane lakho. Ukungabi nalutho akulula. Zama ukubonisa imfesane nawe kunye nomlingane wakho njengoko ujongene nale mngeni mngeni.
Nantoni na eyenzekayo, ungavumeli ukungabi nantoni kuthatha ubomi bakho. Kwezinye iimeko, unokuba ufuna ukucinga ukuthatha ikhefu ekuzameni ukukhulelwa . Ikhefu lingakunika ixesha lokukhumbula ukuba ungubani ngaphaya kobubele bakho, kukunika ukuhlaziywa koxinzelelo lokuzama ngamandla, kwaye unikeze indawo yokufunda izicwangciso zokulwa.
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba ungenayo ixesha lokuthatha ikhefu (kuba ukuzala kunciphisa ubuncinane ), xela ugqirha wakho. Unokwenene ukwazi ukuthatha inyathelo emva koko kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, kwaye oku kungenza umehluko omkhulu kwimpumelelo yakho yemvakalelo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, yazi ukuba eli xesha linzima liya kudlula. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba u-infertility yakho isombulula njani-kwaye ekugqibeleni ukhawuleza kwaye unomntwana, ukwamkela, okanye unokuphila okungenamntwana-izinto ziya kuba ngcono. Ixesha, ukululekwa kunye nenkxaso evela kubahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kuya kunceda.
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