Yintoni ongayithethayo kunye nendlela yokunikezela ngenkxaso kumhlobo okanye ilungu leentsapho
Ngoko, umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho lithembele kuwe ukuba banzima ukukhulelwa. Mhlawumbi usoloko ucinga ukuba bajongana nokungafumaneki, kwimeko apho oku akumangalisi. Okanye, mhlawumbi uyothuka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthathe njani iindaba, inyaniso yokuba bakuxelele into enkulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba bayakuthemba. Bacinga ukuba uya kubaxhasa.
Nangona kunjalo, ukwazi indlela okunika ngayo inkxaso leyo inokuba nzima, ingakumbi ukuba awuzange ufumane ukungenasifo.
Nantsi into onokuyenza.
Funda ngakumbi malunga nokungafihli
Funda phezulu ubuncinane ubunzulu bokungabikho komntwana ukuba ngumhlobo oncedisayo. Akunjalo ukuze unikele ngeengcebiso (okungekho nto ingavumelekanga), kodwa ke unokunika inkxaso xa ufuna ukuqonda imfashini.
Ukwazi i -IVF , umzekelo, kuya kwenza kube lula kumhlobo wakho ukuba akhulume ngomjikelezo wakhe. Awuyi kusabela ngothuswa ukuba kufuneka azinike ii-injections ezininzi. Uyakwazi kakade oko.
Esinye isizathu sokubhukuda kwizinto ezisisiseko kukuba awuzifumani ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ukuvelisa inselele kusetyenziselwa ukuva iingane. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kuba mnandi ukuba umntu athembele ekunikeni inkxaso-wena-awunakuba ngabanye balabo bantu abaphindaphindiweyo.
Buza Oko Bafuna
Ukucela umhlobo ukuba ufuna ntoni izandi elula.
Sekunjalo, bambalwa abantu benza njalo! Mhlawumbi kuba banamahloni ngokungazi ukuba benzeni, okanye mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba sikhathazeke oko kusenza sisekele ngaphantsi. (Ngaba sonke asiphupha ngabantu abazi izinto esizidingayo ngaphandle kokuba sichaze izinto?)
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abanobunzima badla ngokukhawuleza ukubuza oko bakufunayo.
Bengafuni ukuba "ngumthwalo." Ngamanye amaxesha, baxakeke kangangokuba ukucela uncedo akuze kwenzeke kubo.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ongazinikela ngoncedo:
Yiya kwi-aphoyintimenti ezinzima kunye nabo. Ingaba bayathanda ukuba uhlale nje kwigumbi lokulinda okanye ungene kwaye ubambe isandla.
Jonga abantwana babo abadala. Ukuba bajongana nokusweleka kwesibini , ukuya kubaqeshwa kwiklinikhi yokuzala kunokunyaniseka kunye nezingane ezindala ekhaya.
Ukunikezela ukuba ube ngumlingani womsebenzi, ukuba uyazi ukuba uzama ukunciphisa umzimba. Ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa (kunye namadoda) adinga ukunciphisa umzimba ukuze enze unyango luphumelele. Kulula kakhulu ukunciphisa umzimba xa unomhlobo osebenza kunye nawe. (Musa nje ukusikisela isicwangciso sokulahlekelwa kwesisindo ngokwakho. Funda apha ngezantsi malunga noko ungathethi.)
Yazi Oko Utsho
Xa ungaqinisekanga ukuba ungathini, unokufuna ukuzama enye yezi mpendulo:
- Uxolo ukuva oko.
- Yintoni endiyenza ukuze ndincede?
- Ngaba ufuna ukuthetha ngawo?
- Ndilapha ukuba ndiphulaphule, nanini na xa undifuna.
- Ndiyathanda ukuba ndiyazi ukuba ndingathini ukuze ndikuthuthuzele.
- Ndi nqwenela ukuba kukho into endiyenza okanye ndithetha oko kuya kwenza konke kube ngcono.
Yazi Oko Akutshoyo
Izinto ongazifanele zithi kumhlobo onzima umngeni uquka:
- Iziphakamiso ukuba zifanele "ziphumle," okanye "hambani eholide, kwaye kuya kwenzeka."
- Naliphi ibinzana eliqala "ubuncinane." (Njengoko, "Ubuncinane unayo inye yodwa," okanye, emva kokuphuma kwesisu, "Ubuncinane uyazi ukuba unokukhulelwa.")
- Naliphi iqela eliqala ngokuthi "Unako ukuhlala ..." (Njengokuba, "Unako ukwenza i-IVF rhoqo," okanye "Unokuhlala uhlala.")
- Naliphi na inkcazo ebonisa ukuba "inenhlanhla" ukuba ingaba nabantwana. Ewe, ukukhulelwa kunye nomzali akulula, kodwa akusiyo yonke into efunekayo yokuba nobomi. Ukungabi nabantwana xa ufuna ukuba bangenzi inhlanhla.
- Nayiphi na isitatimenti esinciphisa intlungu abaye bajamelana nayo, njengokuthi "Akusiyo into embi," okanye "Ubuncinane akusiyo umhlaza," okanye "Ngenye imini uya kukhangela emva koko uhlekise oku."
- Naluphi na ukuthetha ukuba abazami ukuzama ngokukhawuleza. Akunjalo bonke abalingani baya kufuna ukuya kwi-IVF , umzekelo. Ukuba oko kusebenza kumhlobo wakho, ukuxhasa isigqibo sabo kubalulekile.
Omnye u-hayi ubenzela ukuba benze utshintsho lwezinto zokuphila, nokuba ngaba ukulahleka kwesisindo okanye ezinye izinto ezikhulayo.
Awunayo ingcamango yokuba baye bazame okanye abanakho nokuba yiziphi izinto zabo zokuzala. Akunakukwazi nokuba ngaba bajongene nokungabikho kwamabhinqa , ukungabikho komntwana , kokubili, okanye izizathu ezingaziwa.
Yithemba ukuba ukuba umhlobo wakho uhlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo ukuba akhethe njengomhlobo nabo bahlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo ukuphanda le mibuzo ngokwabo.
Bandakanyeka kwiNgcaciso
Enye indlela yokubonisa inkxaso yakho kukubandakanyeka ekuveliseni ukuzala . Uninzi lwemizamo yokukhuthaza luvela kulabo bachaphazelekayo ngqo ngesifo okanye kukhutshwa. Iqela lesibini elisebenza kakhulu livela kubathandekayo abaziyo umntu olwabala.
Ungaba njani ummeli wokuzala?
- Xa uziva abantu besasaza iingcamango ezingalunganga malunga nokunyanga okanye ukunyanga, zithethe.
- Ukuba urhulumente wakho wasekhaya uzama ukudlulisa imithetho eya kubachaphazela kakubi abo bazala okanye abo bacinga ukumkelwa, yenza ilizwi lakho live. Bhala iileta, yenza umnxeba.
- Cinga ngokuya kwi-Day Advocacy . Esi siganeko sigqitywe yi-RESOLVE, apho nabani na onokuza baze bathethe nommeli wabo webandla ngokuphathelele iimfuno zentlalo yoluntu.
- Ayikwazi ukuya kwiSuku lokuBala Bhala ileta ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho linakho ukunikela xa liza / xa liya khona.
- Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiveki yokuqwashisa i-Inferability , ngokuqhelekileyo ngeveki yokugqibela ka-Ephreli kunyaka ngamnye.
- Yiya okanye uxhase ngemali i-Walk of Hope isiganeko.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ungase uthi ngephina into enokulimaza kwaye uqaphele umzuzwana kamva xa ubona ukubukeka ubuso babo okanye ukuphulaphulisa ukuthula okungenakukhathazeka phezu kwefowuni. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, khawuleza uxolise, kwaye uthi akusoloko uyayazi izinto ezifanelekileyo ukuthetha, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha uthetha izinto ezingalunganga.
Akukho mntu ulindela ukuba ube ngumntu ophezulu, kwaye ukubeka ithemba lakho kukukukhusela ukuba unganikeli inkxaso onokukunika. Uncedo olungapheliyo luhlala lungcono kunanto.
Ukuba uzimisele ukubuza umhlobo wakho ukuba ufuna ntoni, kwaye ufunde kwiimpazamo zakho, uya kuba ngumhlobo oxhasekileyo wakho umzala onzima umngeni wakho.