Izinto ezithintela isigqibo somntwana osemncinci
(Ngeenjongo zeli nqaku, "ukutya kweebhotile" akubandakanyi ubisi lobisi olubonisiweyo.)
Xa intombazana ikhulelwe kwaye isigqibo sokuba ibhotile isondlo okanye ibele umntwana, kukho izinto ezininzi ezichaphazela eso sinqumo. Usenokuba neengcamango ezingalunganga malunga nokuncelisa kunye nokuba kunzima ukuphula. Ngokomzekelo, abaninzi abaselula abakubonayo ukufumana ukutya kweebhotile bakubone njengempilweni (kuba unokufunda izithako kwilebula) kunye nokulungeleka ngakumbi (kuba akudingeki ukuba "ujoyine-in-hip" nosana) .
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba amabele abo aya kugubha kwaye ukunyamezela "isikolo esikhulile." Amama omntwana, njengabantu abadala, bathatha ingqalelo kwizinto ezininzi xa bekhetha indlela bayondla ngayo umntwana wabo. Iingeniso kunye neentsilelo zilinganiswa kakhulu kuloo sigqibo.
Iimvakalelo malunga neendlela zokusondeza abantwana ziqala ukwenza kakuhle ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abatsha abakhulelweyo abakwenzanga ukwenza isigqibo sokuncelisa okanye ukufumana ukutya kwebhotile kuze kube sekupheleni kokukhulelwa kwabo, okanye ngamanye amaxesha emva kokuba bavelise umntwana wabo.
Ziziphi Iintsholongwane Ezenzeka Ngakumbi Ukuba Ubushushu?
Kukho ezinye iindlela ezibonakalayo kumaqela amabhinqa abakhetha ukondla, nawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ibhinqa liyakuncelisa xa ibele:
- Ngumhlophe okanye ngeSpeyin, xa kuthelekiswa ne-Afrika yaseMerika
- ngumdala omdala
- utshatile
- akahlali kwindlu enye kunye nonina
- wa yebele
- Uyazi okanye uchithe ixesha kunye nabasetyhini; unethuba lokuncelisa okanye ukufundisa abantwana (iiklasi, iincwadi)
Ukukhetha Ukondla Iibhola Emva kokusondeza
Sinokuphulaphula iinkcukacha malunga neentsha ezenza isigqibo sokubhengeza ukutya kwiibini ezihlukeneyo:
- Abasetyhini abakhetha ukondla ukutya emva kokuqwalasela ibele: Abaselula bahlala behlelelekile kwezoqoqosho. Bayeka isisombululo sabo sokutya kuze kube sekupheleni kokukhulelwa kwabo, okanye ngamanye amaxesha de emva kokuziswa. Okumangalisa kukuba, bayakhuthazwa ukuba bancelise ubuncinane abanye ababini ababalulekileyo kwaye banenene abahlobo abancelisayo. Ngelishwa, isininzi esenza isigqibo sineenkxaso ezincinane zentsapho.
- Iintsholongwane ezingazange zithobele iimbono zokuncelisa: Ezi zihlandlo zintsholongwane zenza isigqibo sodwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo banemizekelo engaphantsi kwembini ebomini babo abancinci, kunye nabangaphantsi kweebini ezibalulekileyo ababakhanyisela ngokuncelisa.
Enyanisweni, kukho intsha enabantu abancinane abantu abancedisayo abakhuthaza ukondla kwebhotile ngokwenene bakhethe ukutywala ukutya emva kokuqwalasela zombini ukhetho.
Izizathu Zamaama Abantwana Abancinane Ukukhetha Ukutya Kwebhodlela
Isizathu esivakalayo esinikwe ngabafana abasenza isigqibo sokubhalwa kwebhotile kukuba ukuncelisa ibele kuya kubangela ukubuyela esikolweni okanye ukusebenza kube nzima. Baphinde bacinge ngeentlungu zenyama, bakhathazeke ngokutya kwabo (abaninzi abanentsholongwane banokuziva bexhala lokuba bona okanye umntwana wabo uya kunqatha), kwaye abayithandi imithintelo yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ezinxulumene nokuncelisa. Ukongezelela, abaninzi abatsha banenkxalabo yokuba abayi kukwazi ukunyamezela, okanye ukuba abayi kukwazi ukuvelisa ubisi olwaneleyo ngokwanele umntwana wabo .
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukondla ibhotile ngokwenene ukhetho lokukhetha ukondla unina okanye umakhulu osemantwaneni, omnye ophawulekayo, kunye / okanye ugqirha.
Ukubaluleka kokufundisa oomama abasebasha ngokukhetha kwabo ukutya
Kubalulekile ukuba siqwalasele izinto ezithile xa sizama ukufundisa umama osemtsha.
Ngaphambi kokuba sihlasele ngolwazi, simele simkhange:
- Imeko yemali
- Isakhiwo senkxaso yentsapho
- Isikhathi sesigqibo
- Amava adlule ngokuncelisa
- Iimodeli zengqesho ezazisondeza
- Ukukhuthazwa kwamanye abantu abalulekileyo kwiindlela zokutya
- Izizathu zomdla wakhe ekunceliseni
Emva kokufaka ingcaciso kule nkcazelo, sinokuyilungisa "imfundo yokutya" kwinto eya kuba yinto enokwenene ngayo kunye nendlela yakhe yokuphila.
Abo bachaphazelekayo malunga nokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana usele nkcazelo efanelekileyo malunga neendlela zombini zokutya kufuneka abandakanye abantu abalulekileyo kuye, njengogqirha wakhe, onokucima nayiphi na ingxaki engayi kuba nayo.
Kubalulekile ukuba nabani na abafuna ukufundisa umama osemtsha ngokuphathelele ukondla kwakhe ukuqonda ukuba unokuba neengxaki eziphikisanayo ngokukhulelwa kwakhe. Inkqubo enika inkxaso yokuncedisa ulutsha olukhulelweyo ngokusebenzisa ezi zigqibo yi-WIC. Inkqubo ye-WIC iye yaba nempumelelo emangalisayo ekusebenzisaneni nentsha ecinga ngokuncelisa nokunyusa imithintelo yokuncelisa.
Imithombo:
I-Joffe A, i-Radius S. Isisu ngokubhekiselele kwibhotile: I-Correlates yeendlela zokusondeza iintsana ezisakhulayo. Iingcali zika-1987; 79 (5): 689- 695.
Riordan, J., kunye neWambach, K. Ukuncelisa kunye nokuLungiswa koLuntu lweNguqulelo yesine. UJones noBartlett Learning. 2014.
Ehlelwe nguDonna Murray