Isigqibo sokutshintsha oogqirha okanye ababelethisi akukaze kube lula, ngakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kuvela iphuzu xa uqaphela ukuba wena okanye utyholo lwakho awuhlali ujabule kwaye kufuneka ufumane umntu onokukunika unonophelo olufunekayo kwaye ufanelwe ukukhulelwa.
Izizathu Zokuba Abafazi abakhulelweyo banokuthi batshintshe ugqirha wabo
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ungenza isigqibo sokuba ufuna udokotela ohlukile.
Ezinye zezizathu ezenziwa ngabasetyhini ziquka:
- Umceli akaphulaphuli (ucoceko olubi)
- Awuthandi ukuba uphathwa njani
- Oogqirha abaninzi kakhulu kulo mkhuba
- Akukho xesha elaneleyo elichithwa kunye nawe
- Iifilosofi ezahlukeneyo zokuzalwa
- Ufumene omnye ugqirha oyithandayo kangcono
- Ukungavumelani kwimisebenzi yokonyango
- Imiba kunye nabasebenzi baseofisi okanye i-inshurensi
- Kude kakhulu kulinde ukuqeshwa
- Iingcali zakho zishiya isenzo okanye zisekho ukuzalwa
Indlela yokutshintsha ugqirha wakho
Into yokuqala omele uzame ukuyenza ukulungisa umba kunye nombeleki wakho okanye ugqirha. Cacisa ingxaki kwaye uphendule isisombululo kunye. Oku akunakwenzeka njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ubona umntu oye waba yi-GYN emangalisayo iminyaka, kodwa ufumanisa ukuba ufuna into ehlukile kwi-OB. Ukuba uzifumana kwindawo apho uzame khona kwaye izinto ezingasebenzi, lixesha lokutshintsha.
- Udliwano-ndlebe nabanye oogqirha. Buyela kuluhlu lwakho lwangaphambili lwemibandela uze ufumane abanye uxoxiswano. Mhlawumbi unokhetho lwesibili xa ukhethe okokuqala ugqirha. Ukuba sele usuvele udliwano-ndlebe nabo, unokhe ukhethe nje ukuwayeka. Ukuba ungenalo uluhlu oludlulileyo, qalisa enye. Thetha koomama abaye bafumana amava afana nani enethemba lokuba nawo kwaye uqale apho. Khumbula ukubuza imibuzo ethile, kungekhona "Ngaba uthanda ugqirha okanye umbelethisi?" Yiyo ephantsi. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukwazi into enjenge: "Ziziphi oogqirha kule ndawo baxhasa ukuzalwa kwemvelo ?" "Ziziphi iindlela abafazi bonke?"
- Yenza isigqibo malunga nokuba uya kukhetha bani . Nceda ukuba ukhangele ukuba umgangatho ukwamkela izigulane ezintsha kwaye uthatha i-inshorensi yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, ekupheleni kokukhulelwa, unokufumana ixesha elinzima lokuguqula iinkqubo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungangena ukuba uthetha kumphathi weofisi okanye ugqirha kwaye uchaze imeko.
- Yazisa wakho umdala. Xa usukulungele ukuhamba, kuya kufuneka uxelele umkhuba wakho omdala. Unokwenza ngoku kubhala okanye ngefowuni. Qinisekisa ukuba ukhansele nayiphi na amanyathelo okhethwe ngaphambili ngaphambili ngokwaneleyo ukukhusela iimali zokuqeshwa ezingekho phantsi.
- Fumana ikopi yamarekhodi akho eyeza. Uya kufuneka ucele, ngokubhaliweyo, ikopi yeirekhodi zakho zonyango. Unokukhetha ukuphatha ukugcina ezi rekhodi okanye ukuba zihanjiswe ngokuthe ngqo kumsebenzi wakho omtsha. Imithetho kaRhulumente ingahluka kancinci kodwa ayinakukunqanda iirekhodi zakho, kodwa ke, unokuyihlawulisa ngenxa yazo. Le nto idla imali encinci yokukopisha kwaye ezininzi zithi ikhophi yokuqala ikhululekile. Oku kunokwenziwa ngomntu okanye kuba nefeksi, i-imeyile, okanye ukuthumela ifom efuna ukuba uzalise.
- Qala ukubona ugqirha wakho omtsha. Qinisekisa ukuba wenze ukuqeshana nomsebenzi omtsha. Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela ekude ngayo ekukhulelweni kwakho, ixesha lingahle lilungele ukuba lisebenza nawe.
Unakho okanye unganakugqiba ukuvumela ukuba umsebenzi wakho omdala wazi ukuba kutheni ushiye iinkonzo zabo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uya kuziva ungcono okanye ukuba uya kufunda kuyo, unako ukugqiba ekubeni ubathumele ileta. Abasetyhini abaninzi abazange baphinde bavale kwizenzo zabo zangaphambili.
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha baya kufumana ileta okanye umnxeba. Qinisekisa kwangaphambili ukuba uza kuyisingatha njani kwaye uyilungiselele, xa kwenzeka.
Ngoxa ukutshintsha oogqirha akusoloko kulula, amaninzi amaninzi akwenzile ngaphambili kwaye ayavuya gqitha ukuba akwenzile. Omnye umama wathi wayecinga ukulinda kude kube ngumntwana wakhe ozayo kodwa wazibuza, "Ngaba lo mntwana akafanelanga ukulungelelanisa?"