Indlela yokufumana i-Aunthood kunye nokwenza umehluko kuBomi boMntwana
Unokuba ngu-Auntie oyingozi. Ukwamkela indima yakho njengoMantshi - nokuba ngumtshini we-biological okanye umtshana okanye kumntwana osenyongweni womntwana - yindlela enye yokubandakanyeka ebomini bomntwana . Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba kwaye nini xa unabantwana bakho, unako ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wakho we-Awesomee indima. Abantwana bakho baya kuba nabazala abasondeleyo okanye "i-Mini-Aunties" (kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabo) ukuba bakhule kunye.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuvuma indima ka-anti akusoloko kulula. Uninzi lweemvakalelo kunye neengxaki zokungabikho komntwana zingangena endleleni.
Nantsi indlela yokudlulela abo kunye nokunyathela ezicathulweni zakho ze-Awesome Aunt.
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Ukuvumela ukuhamba ngomona kufuna ukuza kuqala. Inokuba yinto inomqobo inombandela yokuvelisa inselele kufuneka inqobe.
Ngubani ongayi kuba nomona xa abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho bekhulelwa ngokulula? Ngokukodwa xa kubonakala ukuba wonke umntu ojikeleze wena ukhulelwe okanye unakekele usana olusandula ...
Ukuba uziva ubunzima obukhulu esifubeni sakho xa udade wakho ebiza kwaye uthi uyalindela kwakhona, awuyedwa. Kuqhelekile.
Ukuziva umona, okanye ukuphazamiseka, xa ufunda nje ngokukhulelwa okusha kulungile.
Musa nje ukubambelela kuyo.
Ungavumeli ukuba ungene endleleni yobudlelwane bakho nodade wakho, umhlobo okanye umntwana omtsha.
Thatha ukuphefumula okumbalwa, mhlawumbi iveki yokubaluleka kwayo, uze uvumele intlungu ihambe.
Ukuba awukwazi, awuyi kukwazi ngokupheleleyo ukufumana inxaxheba yakho ye-Auntie.
Xelela udade wakho okanye uMhlobo ofuna ukubandakanywa
Ngokukhawuleza, nangona ngexesha lokukhulelwa, vumela udade wakho okanye umhlobo wazi ukuba unethemba elingakanani lokubandakanyeka kumntwana omtsha okanye umntakwabo.
Kuchaphazeleka njani, kwaye kungekudala, kuya kuxhomekeka kwinqanaba lakho lokuthuthuzela kunye nodade wakho okanye umhlobo wakho.
Udade wakho angathanda ukuba umntu abe nesandla sakhe ngexesha lokuvavanya ukukhulelwa, kodwa xa ufumana amava entlungu, zinike ixesha elingakumbi. (Khangela ingxaki yomona ngaphezulu.)
Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukuba udade wakho unokuziva ukuba ukhulelwe ubucala kwaye akafuni ukubandakanyeka kwakho. Kufuneka uhloniphe eso sifiso.
Omama abatsha bava kwiintaka kunye nentsapho yonke ixesha abanokuyithanda, kodwa xa umntwana efika, akukho mntu ubiza. Umama uziva kakubi ethatha uncedo okanye angafuni ukucela.
Ukuba ufuna ukubandakanyeka, qiniseka ukubiza nokubonisa. Bazise nabo isidlo. Ukunikela ukuza kunye nokunyamekela umntwana ngelixa umama elala. Cela iimifanekiso zentsana ukuba zibonise kubahlobo bakho.
Kucacile ukuba uthatha indima yakho kuMninci. Awufuni ukuba udade wakho okanye umhlobo abe nomuzwa wokuba unomthwalo ngokucela uncedo okanye ngokuwamkela uncedo lwakho. Bazise ixesha kunye nosana lwabo luyintsikelelo enkulu.
Ukuba bayazi malunga nemingeni yakho yokuzala, qhubela phambili kwaye ubatshele njalo indlela othanda ngayo umntwana wakho. Bayakwazi ukuqonda oko.
Khumbulani ukuzalwa kwaye ube khona kwiZenzo ezikhethekileyo
Xa u-Anti Awesome, ufumana ukujonga izitolo zokudlala kunye nokuthenga iintsuku zeentsuku kunye neeholide kumntwana wakho okanye umntakwabo.
Ngokungafani noMama noTata, nangona kunjalo, ukuphuma ukuthenga izipho kuya kuba lula. Uza kuba nexesha elide lokukhangela izitolo ezahlukeneyo kwaye ubeke intliziyo ethile kwizipho ozithengayo.
Ungase uzimisele ngakumbi ukuthenga amathoyizi amathoyizi ayenayo abantwana kodwa abazali banganqikazi ukunikela ngezingane zabo, njengeepende kunye neeseti zesitampu. Ukuba umama noTata baxhomekeke kumathoyizi ahlaselayo, unokuzivolontiya ukugcina iityshi kwindawo yakho xa umntakwabo okanye umtshana wakho efika ukuba adlale.
Imihla yokuzalwa kunye neholide akuyona yodwa ixesha elibalulekileyo kwi-Awesome Outings.
Ukuba umntakwabo okanye umntakwabo unomdlalo wezemidlalo okanye i-konsathi yeholide esikolweni, banokuthanda umama wakhe omangalisayo okanye uMalume ukuba abe ngabaphulaphuli kubo.
Ukuba babandakanyeka kwiiskrini, unokukwazi ukuzithandela kwiqela labo kwaye uncedise ngeenkampu kunye nemisebenzi.
Sebenzisa ixesha elikhethekileyo kunye
Imihla yokuzalwa, iholide, kunye nomdlalo webhola lebhola maxesha onke amahle ukuchitha kunye nomntakwabo okanye umntakwabo, kodwa ungalibali ngokuchitha ixesha kunye "nje ngokuba."
Unokuthabatha u-ice cream ngeSonto ntambama ngelixa abazali babo befumana ixesha elilodwa ekhaya. Unokuzizisa kwi-zoo, kwiifilimu, okanye kwintengiso yeyakho.
Ukuba uhlala kude nomntakwabo okanye umntakwabo, musa ukuvumela ukuba iikhilomitha zifike endleleni. Ungabiza kwifowuni okanye kwi-Skype okanye Facetime kunye. Ixesha lomntu lilungele. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukuba khona emzimbeni, ubuncinane uzame ukuba khona emoyeni.
Abantwana bazizwa bebathandwa xa abantu ba) banika izipho, kwaye b) bachithe ixesha kunye nabo. Ixesha lakho liyisipho esixabisekileyo, mhlawumbi lixabiseke ngakumbi kunomdlalo wevidiyo.
Yiba Nabanye Abakholelwa Kuzo
Izingane zidinga umntu onokubelana ngazo iingxaki zabo - njengenkwenkwe abayichithayo abangayi kubapha ixesha lemihla - kwaye ukwabelana ngezinto ezinjalo nabazali babo banokuvakalelwa. Abanye abantwana bangabelana ngezi ntlobo zezinto kunye nabazali babo, kodwa ininzi abantwana abayithandi.
Unokuba ngumntu omdala othembekileyo oziva bekhululekile ukuthetha naye.
Ndiyathemba ukuba, nayiphi na into abakhetha ukuyixolela yona iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo yobuntwana. Kwimeko apho banemfihlo enkulu yokwabelana - uhlobo olufanele lwabelwane nabo nabazali babo okanye abasemagunyeni - uya kuba khona ukuliva kwaye ubancedise ngexesha elinzima.
Oluthe xaxa malunga nokuhlangabezana nabahlobo kunye nosapho xa uzama ukukhulelwa: