Ukuthetha Ngokungabi Naluphi Ulwalamano Nabangane NamaNtsapho
Ngaba ulungele ukuxelela abanye malunga nobunzima bakho bokungapheli? Oku kunokuba ngumzuzwana. Ukufihlakele ukungabikho kwengqondo kunokunyusa uhlazo lwakho kunye neemeko zangaphandle.
Ukuthetha ngokusweleka kunokunceda uhlazise umnyango, kwaye unike abantu ukuba bathembele xa ufuna inkxaso.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kusenokuba nokuxhobisa amandla, kunokuba nokuxhalabisa.
Kwaye kungenakuhamba ngokukhawuleza njengoko uthanda.
Nazi ezinye izinto oza kuziqwalasela xa uphuma kwi-closetless infertility.
Cinga ngeMvakalelo Yomlingani wakho
Ngaphandle kokuba ungowesifazane ongatshatanga uzama ukukhulelwa, mhlawumbi unomlingane ojongene nokungazinzi nawe.
Bangakwazi okanye bangakulungeli ukuphuma xa ukhona.
Ukuba abayilungele, thatha ixesha lokuthetha ngezizathu zakho zokufuna ukuyeka ukufihla, kwaye uve (phulaphulaphula) ukukhathazeka kwabo kunye nokwesaba ngokuphuma.
Unokwazi ukuvumelana malunga nenani elinganiselwe labantu onokuphuma kulo. Okanye mhlawumbi yena ukhetha ukwabelana ngolwazi olunqamlekileyo xa uthetha ngokungazalanga.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuvuma malunga nendlela yokusingatha le meko, qwa lasela ukucebisa ngamabini.
Ukucebisa ngokwenene yinjongo efanelekileyo kuyo nayiphi na isibini esithatha inzala, kwaye iya kunceda ngexesha elide.
Khumbula ukuba awuyi kuphuma kuzo zonke iinkcukacha
Xa utshela abantu ojongene nokungabikho komntwana, lindela ukuba abanye baqale ukubuza imibuzo-yakho-eyakho.
Enye yeyona mibuzo engakumbi?
"Ngoko ngubani na ophosakeleyo?"
Yazi oku: awunayo ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha ezingaphezulu kunokuba ufuna. Kwaye akumelwe uphendule lo mbuzo.
Awunanto yokuba wabelane ngani kutheni unzima. Awunanto yokuba wabelane ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zesicwangciso sakho sokwakha intsapho. Awunanto yokwabelana nantoni na ongayifunayo.
Akunakufuneka uphendule imibuzo engabonakaliyo, njengokuthi "Kutheni ungazange uzame abantwana ngaphambili?"
Ukuxelela abantu ongenakho ukungabikho kokusweleka akusiyo isimemo kwiirekhodi zakho zonyango kunye nembali yobomi. Kwaye nabanye abantu bangenza ngendlela efana nayo.
Ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho liqala ukubuza imibuzo awukhululekile ukuthetha, yithetha njalo.
"Andifuni ukungena kwiinkcukacha. Kodwa ndiyayixabisa inkxaso yakho. "
Cinga kabini malunga nokwabelana ngeBlogs engaziwa kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho
Ukuza kubahlobo bakho kunye nosapho akuthethi ukuba kufuneka okanye ufune ukwabelana ngeblogi engaziwa nabo.
Kukho, eneneni, izizathu ezininzi zokungabelani iblogi yakho yokuzala .
Ibhulogi yakho ingaba yindawo yakho yokuzulazula kwaye ufumane inkxaso evela kulabo bangaphakathi kwintlalo engaphelelanga. Ukuba ubelana ngesiqhagamshelo sebhulogi nomama wakho, kwenzekani xa ufuna ukubhala ngengxoxo engenakukhathazeka ngokumalunga nokungabikho kobubele?
Okwenzeka ntoni xa umhlobo wakho ebonisa ukuba nguye othetha malunga neenyanga ezine ezedlulileyo? (Okanye umhlobo wakho uthatha ukuba nguwe owaye uthetha ngaye!)
Ngoku, oku kucinga kwam. Mhlawumbi ukwabelana ngeblogi yakho kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho yinto enokuthanda ukuyenza. Mhlawumbi ugcine ukuzalela iiforam okanye kwiingxoxo zomntu.
Kodwa yinto enokuyicabangela ngenyameko.
Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nendawo
Uninzi lwezibongozo zonakaliswe ngawe ngesibhengezo esingakhuphanga sokukhulelwa . Ngoko mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba lo Mbulelo, unqwenela ukuphuma malunga nokungafumaneki.
Oku kunokwenzeka okanye akubikho isicwangciso esihle. Kuninzi kuxhomekeka kwintsapho yakho.
Ngaba umama wakho uya kukhubeka wafumana ngexesha elifanayo njengomzala wakho wesithathu?
Ngaba unayo izalamane owaziyo ziya kwenza amazwana angalunganga?
Kwakhona, lumele ukuba nanini nawabelana ngayo, abantu abakhoyo baya kufuna ukukubuza imibuzo okanye intlanzi ukuze uthole iinkcukacha ezingaphezulu.
Qinisekisa ukuba usekuhla apho uya kuziva ukhululekile ukwabelana okanye ukubeka imida kwizinto ongakhetha kuzo. Yaye qiniseka ukuba kuya kuba nexesha leengxoxo ezicingayo.
Ukuthumela i-imeyile iyamkeleka
Ngamanye amaxesha, kulula ukuba ubhale phantsi into kwaye uyithumele kunokuba ubelane ngayo ubuso nobuso. Oku kuyinyani xa ubelana nomntu omnye okanye ezininzi
Enye icala kwicala: unokuba uzive uxhalabele ulinde ukuba uphendule.
Ukuba ukhathazeke ngokulinda impendulo, unokuthumela okanye uthumele umntu obhalayo kuye, kwaye ubazise ukuba uthumele i-imeyli engathandeki ongathanda ukuba bayifunde ngokukhawuleza.
Ungabavumela nokuba bazise kwi-imeyile yakho ukuba ufuna impendulo okanye umnxeba umnxeba emva kokufunda. Kulungile ukucela oko.
I-Media Media Mhlawumbi okanye Akunakuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokwabelana ngayo
I-media media ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma kwiqela elikhulu loqhagamshelwano lwakho, kodwa akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma ukuvala abahlobo kunye nosapho.
Ngesinye, abayikubona yakho post. I-Facebook ayibonisi zonke izithuba kubo bonke abahlobo bakho, kwaye akuyena omnye ofuna ukuba baphoswe.
Okwesibini, unokuba ungafuni ukuba yonke intanethi yentlalo ikwazi ukukwazi - ngakumbi ukuba intanethi yakho yintsebenziswano iquka abasebenza nabo okanye umphathi wakho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba sele usabelane nabo kunye nabo abasondeleyo kuwe, kwaye ulungele ukuba "uye omkhulu," imidiya yoluntu ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokumemeza indlela yakho yokuhlambalaza.
Ukuba ucinga ngeengxowa-mali zokungabikho kwemali, ukuvakalisa ukuba uxhatshazo lwakho kumabonwakude kuluntu luyimfuneko ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela ekuxhaseni imali.
Le ngenye yeengxowa ezikhoyo zokuxhaswa kwemali ... kodwa inokusebenzela wena, nayo.
Yilungele ukuba Bathi Zonke Izinto Ezimbi
Abayithethi. Enyanisweni, ayenjalo.
Kodwa iziganeko zithi, xa uqala ukuvula malunga nokungabikho kwengqondo yakho, umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho uya kuthetha into ezwakalayo (okanye ingabonakali ).
"Ubuncinane umhlaza!"
"Ndiyazi umntu okhulelwe xa bezama ukumkela. Kufuneka uzame ukumkela. "
"Unethamsanqa ukuba unabantwana, themba mna!"
Yikholwa okanye ayikho, abantu bayabuyela kule nkcazo eziqhelekileyo kuba 1) abazi ukuba yintoni enye yokuthetha, kunye no-2) bafuna ukuthetha into ... kwaye yinto yokuqala efika engqondweni.
Inzululwazi eyisiseko yabantu abaninzi xa bejamelene nentlungu yomnye umntu ukulahla intlungu. Abakwazi ukuphatha intlungu yakho, ngoko bazama ukukugxotha okanye bakunike isisombululo esheshayo nesilula ukuze bancede baziva bebanceda.
Ukuba kwaye xa bathetha ezi zinto, akuthethi ukuba wenze iphutha ekubaleni. Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba uya kufuneka ufundise oko kungathethi.
Unokufuna ukuwathumela ngee-imeyili ezi nqaku:
- Izinto Ezi-12 Azingathethi Kumntu ongenasiphelo
- Izinto ezili-10 zokuMisa ukwenza ukuba ufuna ukuxhasa umntu ongenalucalulo
Yilungele Ukubaxelela Indlela Abanokunceda ngayo
"Ndinganceda njani?"
Le mpendulo engcono kakhulu onokuyithemba ngayo xa ubelana nomhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho.
Into engcono kakhulu ukuba uyenze ukunika indlela yokukunceda.
Cinga ngendlela ongayiphendula ngayo ngaphambi kwexesha.
Mhlawumbi ufuna nje umntu ukuba akhulume naye, ihlombe ukukhala, xa izinto zikhuni. Batshele oko.
Mhlawumbi ufuna umntu ukuba abukele abantwana bakho xa uya kwiklinikhi yokuzala. Buza.
Mhlawumbi uzama ukuphakamisa imali ukuhlawula unyango lwakho. Qaphela ngokucokisekileyo ukuba ubuza kukulungele ukunceda.
Ungesabi ukwabelana ngeentlobo zenkxaso ongayisebenzisa.
Ungabelana nabo ngale nqaku:
Ukuphuma malunga nemingeni yakho yokuzala akulula, kodwa kunokusikhulula ukuba ungasayi kubamba ingxaki yakho.
Kwakhona uyazi ukuba xa uthetha malunga nokungabikho komntwana, ukhuthaza abanye kuluntu olungenamakhaya.
Xa abantu abaninzi belapho bethetha ngokungazinzi, ihlazo elincinci liya kubakho umba.
Akukuhle kuphela kuwe - kuhle kumntu wonke.