Iingcebiso zokusinda kwi-Thanksgiving, iKrisimesi, iPasika, kunye nezinye izidlo zeeholide
Iintlanganiso zeholide zentsapho ziba nzima xa ulwa ne-infertility . Ieholide zingasikhumbuza ukuba isakhiwo sethu sentsapho asihambanga ngendlela esacinga ngayo. Ukubona abantakwabo kunye nabazala babo nabantwana babo banokukukhumbuza into ongenayo. Akunakuze kube lula.
Ukuba uziva ucinezelekile nje ukucinga malunga neeholide yakho ezayo, zikhona ezinye iingcebiso zokuhlangabezana nazo ezinokukunceda.
Sukuhamba
Cinga mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba yinto ephilileyo kakhulu ukuqala, kodwa kubalulekile.
Xa kuziwa kwintsapho, ukuthi cha hayi kucinga ukuba akunakwenzeka. Ukuba awuyi kudla isidlo seeholide, abazali bakho kunye nosapho banokubhikisha-ngokukodwa.
Nangona kunjalo, abakwazi ukukwenza uhambe. Kufuneka wenze okulungileyo kuwe. Mhlawumbi unomnyaka onzima ngokwenene kwaye ube kunye neentsana kunye nabantwana yinto yokugqibela oyifunayo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Mhlawumbi oko kuthetha ukunqumla i-Thanksgiving okanye iPhasika kumzali wakho kulo nyaka.
Kunoko, unokwenza isidlo ekhaya, udibene kunye nabahlobo abadala (ngaphandle kwabantwana), okanye usenokuthatha iintsuku zeholide uze uzichithe kunye neqabane lakho kwinqanaba elifutshane.
Usapho lwakho lunokuthukuthela, kodwa ekugqibeleni baya kufikelela kulo. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uya kuba nexesha elide.
Ngenye indlela, Yenza Umndeni Wakho
Ukubamba idilesi yohlobo lweeholide kungabangela uxinzelelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ubeka nokulawula ezandleni zakho. Ngoku, yindlu yakho, ishedyuli yakho, kunye nemithetho yakho. (Kwinqanaba, nakanjani.)
Ukubamba iqela liyakukugcina lixakeke, oku kunokukunceda ukuba ugweme iimeko ezinamathele. Ukuba ufumanisa kwingxoxo engenakukhathazeka, unako ukutshintsha isifundo ngokuthi, "Hayi, unako ukuncedisa nge ...?"
Enye inzuzo yokudlala umdlali? Inceda ukunikhumbuza ukuba sele usenentsapho kwaye unelungelo lokusingatha wonke umntu njengabo banabantwana. Akuqhelekanga ukuba izibini ezingenabantwana zenziwe ukuba zive ngathi 'zinyani' iintsapho. Kodwa oku akuyinyaniso. Unentsapho, njengoko ulungile ngoku.
Ungazivumi Ukuba Ufanele Ubabambe Nawaphi Iintsana
Ukuba phakathi kwabantwana kunokuba nzima xa uzama ukukhulelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha, ingakumbi ukuba iingalo zakho zingenanto, amalungu omndeni angaphinda athabathe umntwana emntwini wakho xa ehamba kwezinye izinto.
Kwabanye, ukubamba abantwana kubakhumbuza into abangenayo.
Ungesabi ukuthi cha.
Unokukhawuleza usususe umntwana ukuya kwelinye ibini lezandla ezingenanto, uzenze uxakeke, okanye uthembeke kwaye uvumele ilungu lentsapho yakho likwazi ukuba ukubamba izinsana kukubuhlungu kakhulu ngoku. (Nceda uqaphele ukuba ukwabelana ngendlela ebuhlungu ngayo ukubamba umntwana. Kuxhomekeke kwindlela ukuqonda ngayo intsapho yakho.)
Ngenye indlela, Nciphisa Uthando Lomntwana
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akusiwo onke amabhinqa anengxaki yokungabikho kwengxaki yokubamba abantwana. Mhlawumbi uthanda ukubamba ezinye iintsana zabantu. Mhlawumbi yindlela ofumana ngayo umthamo we "uthando lomntwana."
Ukuba le nto ifana nesitayela sakho, sisebenzise ubuninzi babantwana kwixesha leeholide.
Hamba phambili kwaye uphile ngokubambisana nabanye. Thatha ixesha lokuhla phantsi uze udlale kunye nabantwana bakho, abazala kunye nabazala. Ivolontiya yokuqhawula umntwana okanye ukutshintsha i-diaper.
Yamukela indima yakho ye- Auntie .
Unokukhala xa uhamba, wazi ukuba awukwazi ukuthatha umntwana ekhaya nawe. Sekunjalo, asikho isizathu sokungcwina lonke uthando lomntwana xa unako, ukuba ufuna.
Yilungele "Xa Uza Kuba Nabafundi?" Imibuzo
Ngokukodwa xa abanye bengayazi malunga nokungafumaneki okanye ukuzama ukukhulelwa, imibuzo malunga nokuba ungenayo abantwana (okanye kutheni ungenayo enye) iya kuvela.
Inokukunceda ukulungele ukuphendula lo mbuzo .
Khawucinge ukuba Uthetha Nentsapho Yakho okanye Hayi Ngokwenene
Oku kuphakamisa esinye isihloko esichukumisayo: ukuba uxelele intsapho yakho malunga nokungabikho kwengqondo? Kukho iingenelo 'zokuphuma' malunga nokungafumaneki . Kwenye, amalungu omndeni (kunye nabahlobo) banokunika inkxaso.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxelela intsapho yakho, unokufuna ukucinga kabini malunga nokwenza njalo kwixesha leeholide. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unabantu bonke, kunye nokwenza kube lula. Ngolunye uhlangothi, ukuba awufuni ukuba ibe yintsikelelo yobusuku, uya kufuna ukuyikhupha ekugqibeleni okanye usebenze kanzima ekumiseni imida ngqo phambi.
(Ngamanye amagama, ungathi, "Ndifuna ukuba nonke niyazi, kodwa andifuni ukuthetha ngoku ngoku.")
Ungabi Nesaba Ukunquma Ingxoxo Engenakuncokola
Iingxoxo ezingenakuzixhamla ziphantse zithethe ngesidlo seentsapho.
Unokufumana ixhoba elijoliswe kwiiluleko ezingafunekiyo . Nantoni na evela "kwondlo lokuzala" ukuba kutheni ungafanele 'ulinde ixesha elide' lokuba nezingane ziqhelekileyo.
Kwakhona, iingxoxo ezigxila kwimimandla engafanelekanga yokukhulelwa okanye umzali inokukhushulwa ngokwenene. Ukuphulaphula udade wakho uhamba ngokugula kwakhe kwasekuseni kunokuziva ungazibekezeleleka xa unika into enokukhulelwa kwaye uyilahle.
Ukuba ufumanisa phakathi kwintetho engaxakekanga, ungesabi ukutshintsha isihloko.
Yiba ngqo ukuba oko akusebenzi. Kuthetha ukuba awufuni ukuthetha ngale nto ngoku. Kunceda ukuba wenza konke ngokumomotheka kwaye kungekho nsolo.
Yilungele Ukuhlangabezana Nezivakalisi Zokukhulelwa
Iintlanganiso zentsapho yindawo yokuvakalisa izibhengezo, nokuba ngaba ngqo (ngokwazisa ngokwasemthethweni ukukhulelwa) okanye ngokungathanga ngqo (ukuhamba endlwini ngeempahla zokubeleka kunye nesisu esikhulu).
Akukude kulula ukuhlangabezana nokuvakalisa ukukhulelwa xa uzama ukukhulelwa.
Nangona uvuyiswa ngumhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho, lingazilimaza. Isimemezelo sokukhulelwa esingalindelekanga sinokuthi unikezele ukunyaniseka nokulwa nesifiso sokukhala.
Ungaziva unetyala ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakho zokudabuka, kodwa zilungele ukuba kwenzeke.
Fihla kwiBathole ngamaminithi ambalwa
Ukuba unayo ngokwaneleyo, okanye nje ufuna indawo yokukhala okanye ukuphefumla, cinga ukufihla kwindawo yokuhlambela. Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba kutheni ukhona, kwaye umnyango uvale, wenze indawo epheleleyo.
Unokugijima amanzi kwisitya xa ungafuni ukuba umntu akuve akukhala. (Nangona ukuba usapho lwakho luvakala ngokwemvelo, oku akuyi kuba yingxaki!)
Ngamanye amaxesha, awukwazi ukuzibamba iintlungu. Ngoko mayeke.
Yiba nokukhala kakuhle , hlamba ubuso bakho, uze uphinde uphume.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Unokuziva unetyala ngenxa yokudabuka xa udade wakho ekhulelwe. Unokuziva unjengekrele xa ucela umzala wakho ukuba anganqali ukuthetha ngendaba yakhe yokuzalwa. Kodwa akufanele uzive unetyala. Yonke imvakalelo evamile.
Ukujamelana nokungazinzi kunzima kakhulu . Uya kuba nethamsanqa ukuba unayo na abahlobo kunye nosapho abayiqonda ngokwenene.
Ngokona nkoliso, abantu ababheki nantoni na. Abayifumani nje. Bangafuna ukukuxhasa kodwa bangazi ukuba njani.
Ukuba udinga ukunqumla iiholide kunye nosapho kulo nyaka, yeqa. Ukuba ufuna ukushiya kusasa, okanye ufike ngokukhawuleza, yenza oko.
Ukuba ufuna ukufihla kwindawo yokuhlambela kwaye ukhale, okanye ugweme ukubamba umntwana, ungacingi ukuba kukukwenza ube ngumntu ombi.
Yonke into ithetha ukuba ungumuntu, unemvakalelo yangempela - iimvakalelo eziphantse malunga neembini ezitshatileyo eziye zaziqonda.