Ukudala ixesha elikhuselekileyo kunye neendawo zokukhala
Ngaba ngathi ufuna ukukhala? Awodwa, kungekude. Ukujamelana nokungafumaneki kunzima kakhulu . Uphando lufumene ukuba amava abafazi abajongene nokungabikho kwengqondo afana neentlungu zengqondo ezivezwa ngabasetyhini abajongene nomhlaza, i-HIV kunye nentlungu engapheliyo.
Ukwenza izinto ziqine ngakumbi, izidakamizwa ezininzi zokuzala zizisa ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo, kuqhube ngakumbi ukuphazamisa ukuzinza kwethu ngokomzwelo.
Abantu bathetha malunga neComidid Crazies - isimo sengqondo esichaphazelayo le nkunkuma ethile iyaziwa - kwaye ayidlala!
Kanye njengabaninzi bafazi bafumana i-teary nje ngaphambi kwexesha labo, ukuvelisa iziyobisi ngezidakamizwa kunye neemvakalelo ngendlela efanayo. Ngelishwa, uluntu lwethu ludikibala ukuvuma uxhala. Sifanele "sibone uhlangothi olukhanyayo," kwaye "hlala ulungile!"
Abantu banganxininisa ukuba sijonge zonke iintsikelelo nobubele esinalo ebomini bethu, okanye basenokushumayela ukuba ukuba "siya kuba nethemba" ngokwaneleyo, siya kukhulelwa ngeminwe yethu.
Kukho, ke, indawo yokubulela nokuzama ukubona ukukhanya phakathi kobumnyama. Kodwa unokuziva uzibini.
Unokubulela into onayo kwaye uzive ubuhlungu. Oku akuphikisanayo.
Ungazibambeli Iinyembezi
Ukubeka izityholo zobuxoki akuyi kudala ummangaliso. Yaye ndiziva ndibuhlungu ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kunye nokukhungatheka ukuba ukungabikho kokusondeza akuthinteli ukulunga ebomini bethu.
Xa ufuna ukukhala, kubalulekile ukuvumela ukuba wenze njalo.
Ukubamba ngokudabuka akukwenzi ukuba kuphele. Endaweni yoko, idla amandla ovakalelo omele ujamelane nawo kwaye ubhekane nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Iinyembezi zifumana indlela yazo yokudlula, ngamanye amaxesha kwixesha elibi kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukudabuka okubanjwe kuyo kunokuzibonakalisa njengobunxungubo okanye ukwethuka.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, awufuni ukudabuka kukutya ebomini bakho. Xa izinto zinzima kakhulu, zinokukunceda ukhethe ixesha elithile elinokubakho ukulila.
Kungabonakala kungeyinto engaqhelekanga ngexesha elithile ukukhala-kodwa kuyamangalisa ukusebenza nokukhululeka.
7 Izinyathelo zokuLungela kakuhle
Inyathelo 1: Khetha usuku kunye nexesha lokuziva usizi.
Ukuba ufunda oku kutyhutyha, mhlawumbi ixesha kufuneka lihambe kungekudala. Unokubeka eceleni imizuzu eyi-15 okanye iiyure ezimbalwa. Ngethuba nje ukuba uya kuba yedwa kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukukhala kwaye uzivakalise ngeli xesha.
Inyathelo 2: Beka ixesha lokuqala nokuphela.
Kubalulekile ukuba ubeke isiqalo kunye nexesha lokuphela. Oku akuthethi ukuba awuvumelekanga ukuba uzive uhlungu ngenxa yomda wexesha, akunjalo. Kodwa unokuziva ukhuselekile ukwazi ukuba awuyi kulila ngonaphakade xa uqala.
Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ufumanisa intlungu edabukisayo kwimihla yonke, oku kunokunika indlela yokubonisa loo mvakalelo kodwa ubathintele ukuba bathathe ngokupheleleyo.
Inyathelo 3: Khetha indawo ekhuselekileyo ukuba uvumele ukuhamba.
Le ndawo ingaba yikhaya, okanye inokuthi ibe kwihlathi eduze kweofisi yakho.
Ukuba usebenza, kwaye ufuna ngokwenene imizuzu eyi-10 ukukhala ukuze ufikelele ngosuku, unokugqiba ukuqhubela kwindawo yokupaka engenanto.
Ukuba ubona umcebisi, indawo yakho ekhuselekileyo ingaba ngaphakathi kwiofisi yakhe. Qiniseka ukuba unendawo ekhuselekileyo ngaphandle kwonyango. Awufuni ukusebenzisa iiveki yakho ephethe iimvakalelo.
Inyathelo 4: Fumana indlela yokukhupha iinyembezi.
Kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukukhala akuthethi ukuba unako ukufuna. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba udinga ukukrazula iinyembezi.
Unokusebenzisa umculo, ukubhala, ubugcisa, okanye i-movie ukunceda ufumane iinyembezi zihamba.
Xa ubuye ubambe ixesha elide, iinyembezi zinokubamba. Xa ndivakalelwa isidingo sokukhala, amafilimu endikhethayo yiForrest Gump, Society of Dead Poet, kwaye Ubomi obuhle .
Andicingi ukuba ndiyifumene nale mafilimu ngamehlo omeleyo.
Ngokuphathelene nomculo, ndinehlu lokudlalwayo ngemoya. Ukukhala komculo, ukuthucula umculo, umculo ovuyayo ...
Ngokubalulekileyo: Kunceda!
Enye inkohliso endyisebenzisileyo kukuba ndibhale incwadi, ndithetha zonke ezo zinto ndizithetha kumnye kum imeko yam. (Ngaba akuhlekisayo indlela ukuxolela kunye nomusa esinokuba ngayo kwabanye, kodwa sihlala sizigweba thina?)
Inyathelo lesi-5: Zinike zona ezininzi zokuzithuthuzela.
Oku kusenokuthi ukusela inkomishi eshushu yokutya itiye okanye ukuzibophelela kwiengubo okanye ithawula nje ngaphandle kwebhola. Yenza nantoni na okufuneka uyenze ukuze uzive unothando kwaye uyathandwa.
Usenokuzibetha ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Ukubetha kutyhubela inkqubo ye-nervous. Sebenzisa olo lwazi ukuzinyamekela!
Inyathelo 6: Musa ukuzigweba ukuba awukwazi ukukhala kule mzuzwana.
Ukuba awukwazi ukukhala, oko kulungile.
Naliphi na ixesha elichithwayo elijongene nokukhathazeka kwakho ixesha elichithwe kakuhle.
Inyathelo 7: Yenza umsebenzi wokuphela okanye wokutshintsha.
Uchithe ixesha kunye nokudabuka kwakho. Ngoku sekuyisihlandlo sokuthi ulahlekele kuyo (ngoku ngoku) kwaye uhambe kwindawo engakumbi okanye encinci engqondweni.
Mhlawumbi omnye umculo, okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle. Mhlawumbi unokubiza umhlobo ukuba "uthethe nto."
Ufuna kuphela into ekubonakalisa ngayo ukuba uzivelele, uye wavuma intlungu, kwaye ngoku, ixesha lokuba ubuyele ebomini bakho.
Ixesha leShedyuli yeeNyembezi njengamaxesha amaninzi njengoko ufuna
Shedyulela le mizuzu naluphi na ukufunayo, nokuba ngaba kanye ngeveki, kanye emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, okanye imizuzu eyi-15 ngemihla, ngelixesha elinzima.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukudabuka kuthatha ubomi bakho, kwaye le mizuzu emfutshane akwanele, cinga ngokugqithiseleyo ukufumanisa uphando lweengcali ukuthetha naye.
Ulwaphulo luncede izigidi zabantu zifikelela kumaxesha amanzima. Ungacingi ukuba awukwazi ukuwufumana. Hlola nge-inshorensi yakho yempilo, ukululekwa yingxenye yezicwangciso ezininzi.
Ekuqaleni, kunokuziva ukwesaba ukuyeka ukubamba iinyembezi, kwaye kunokuvakalelwa kukuba awuyi kubuya ukhale.
Kodwa uya kubona.
Nangona ibuhlungu xa usesikhathini, emva koko, intliziyo yakho iya kuziva i-lighter encinane.
Oluthe xaxa malunga nokunyamezela xa uzama ukukhulelwa:
- Izibonakaliso zengxaki yokungaxhatshaziyo kunye nokuxhalabisa
- Indlela Yokujamelana Nokuba Uzama Ukuqonda Ukukunceda
- Indlela Yokuba Nesana Xa Uzama Ukusilela
Umthombo:
UMichelle P. Lukse noNicholas A. I-vacc. "Usizi, ukuxinezeleka, nokuxhatshazwa kwabasetyhini abangena kwi-Treatment of Treatment." I-Obstetrics & Gynecology 1999 93: 245-251. Kufike ngoJanuwari 30, 2008.