"Uya kuba nini na umntwana?" Okanye, ukuba ujongene nokusweleka kwesibini , "Uya kuba nini na abantwana abaninzi ?"
Umbuzo okrakra oza kuzo zonke izibini ezingenabantwana. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngokwenu ukuba ulungele ukuba nomntwana , umbuzo onzima. Kunzima ukuphendula xa uzama ukuba nezingane zingaphumeleli .
Ukuba awuzange uceliwe okwamanje, qwa lasela inhlanhla. Ngelishwa, phantse zonke iibini ezithatha inzuzo yokungabikho kwengxaki ngemibuzo ethintekayo kunye namazwana .
Ngoko, uphendula njani? Ngaba ufanele uphendule?
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Ukuba uziva uzikhusele okanye ungakhathazeki xa abantu bebuza, qwa lasela u-100% oqhelekileyo. Kukho abantu abacelayo ngendlela engenasiphelo, kunye nabanye abaninzi abasanda kuba yi-nosy. Kungakhathaliseki, umbuzo uchaza ukuba xa kwaye kwaye unabantwana yoshishino lomnye umntu ... kwaye akunjalo.
Kwibini esithatha ukukhetha ukungabi nabantwana, ngumbuzo wobuqu, kodwa mhlawumbi ayiyibuhlungu.
Xa ujamelana nokungahambi , nangona kunjalo, u kubuzwa umbuzo onje oku kukukhumbuza intlungu kunye nokulahleka kwakho.
Ngokungabikho kwengqondo, ukufuna ukuba nezingane, nokuzama nzima njengokuba unako ukuzenza, kuza ngesinye isiqinisekiso sokuphumelela. Olu hlobo lombuzo lunokukukhumbuza ukungabikho kolawulo lwakho.
Usenokuzibuza, "Siya kuba nini na abantwana?"
Xa umntu ekubuza umbuzo obonisa ukuba ukhetha ukungabi nezingane, uyabetha.
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Unokuziva ngathi ufuna ukuzichaza. Unokuziva ulingwa ukuba ulinge kakhulu, unombulelo kakhulu, kodwa kukho iingxaki.
Oku kunokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuya kumbuzo, kodwa kungekho kuzo zonke iimeko.
Ngelishwa, akubona wonke umntu unesihawu njengoko kufanelekile.
Abanye banganika iingcebiso ezingafunekiyo , bathethe izimvo , okanye baphendule kakubi.
Ewe, abanye bayabuza ngokungenangqondo, bengazi ukuba buhlungu umbuzo wabo onokukuzisa ngawo. Abanye nje abaxhasile kwimida.
Ukugqiba ukuba uxelele umntu malunga neengxaki zakho zokungabikho kwengxaki. Akusiyo isigqibo esihle sokwenza xa phantsi kwengcinezelo okanye ngaphandle kokucinga izinto kuqala.
Kwenziwe ntoni
Ukuba ubuzwa nalo mbuzo, phendula ngokulula uze utshintshe isihloko.
Unokutshisa okanye uziva ngathi ufuna ukunika umntu obuza umbuzo ngengcamango yengqondo yakho. Kodwa, ngokuziqhelanisa, unokufunda ukuyeka ukuhamba kuloo ndlela. Amandla akho emvakalelo ihamba phambili kwenye indawo.
Zama ukuthatha umoya ophefumlelweyo, zikhuphe, uphendule ngenye yeendlela ezilandelayo:
- "Awuqinisekanga. Ngoko, umsebenzi wakho omtsha njani?"
- Buza amandla, kuba andiyazi. "
- "Andifuni ukuthetha ngako, mbulela."
Okanye, ukuba ufuna ukuya kwinto ethile, ungaphendula:
- Umbuzo onobuqu, ungacingi na? Nangona kunjalo, unjani umsebenzi wakho omtsha? "
Ukuba unesibindi, kwaye sele usuqumile ukuqala ukuxelela abantu malunga neengxaki zakho, ungasebenzisa oku njengethuba lokuthetha ngokungafumaneki:
- "Eyona nto inomdla ucela ... sizama ixesha elithile ngoku."
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ngokuphuma malunga nokungabikho kobuhlobo kubangani kunye nosapho.
Impendulo engaphenduliyo
Enye impendulo ngokusemthethweni ngokupheleleyo?
Unokukhetha ukuba ungaphenduli nhlobo.
Unokwenza ngathi awuzange uzive zibuze, zityumza nje, kwaye uguqule isihloko. Awunanto ukuthetha nantoni na.
Uninzi lwabantu luza kuthatha ingqalelo. Ukuba ufumana usebenzisana nomntu ongekho, vele udlala i-hijack record-crack. "Andifuni ukuthetha ngawo. Ewe, hayi, ndingakufuni ukuxoxa ngale nto ngoku."
Kwaye ukuba oko kusinceda, hamba kude.
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Abantu abaninzi ababuza malunga nokuba uza kuba nezingane bazama nje ukwenza incoko.
Bayibona njengento encinci-intetho ethi "Uthanda njani le mozulu?" Okanye, bafuna ukukubuza malunga (nokuba mhlawumbi amatsha) okanye umtshato, kwaye le ndlela yecala yokubuza.
Xa intsapho ebuzayo, banokuthi bacele izizathu ezizimeleyo. Abazali bakho, umzekelo, banokufuna ukuba ngootatomkhulu. Udade wakho unokulinda ukuba ngumama. Akuyena uxanduva lwakho "ukubanika" ezi zinto zibalulekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngaphantsi: awunanto umntu naziphi na iinkcazo. Ukuba ivakalelwa ngokufanelekileyo, unokuzama ukuchaza ukuba kutheni imibuzo enjalo ayifanelekanga. Kodwa ininzi yexesha, kungcono ukumomotheka, kunika imbeko kwaye imfutshane ingaphenduli ("andiyazi."), Kwaye uhambe. Okanye utshintshe isihloko.
Ukujamelana nokungafumaneki kunzima ngokwaneleyo. Ukubandakanyeka kwingxoxo ende ende, eyabangela ukuphazamisa imibuzo okanye abantu (nokuba nokuba ngaba intsapho), ayikho into eya kukunceda.