Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana banwebe inyaniso baze bathethe amabali amade ngexesha elinye. kodwa, ngaphandle kokungenelela okufanelekileyo, ukuxoka kungaba yinto embi.
Ngaphambi kokuba unqume indlela ongasabela ngayo xa ukungathembeki komntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela izizathu ezibangelwa ubuxoki.
Nazi izizathu ezintathu ezibangela ukuba abantwana bathethe amanga:
1. Basebenzisa Iingcamango Zabo Ukuthetha Iimbali Ezide
Ingaba umntwana wakho akutshilo ukuthi uhambe nge-unicorn?
Okanye ngaba umntwana wakho ugxininisa ukuba akayi kucoca igumbi lakhe ngenxa yokuba waya kwenyanga? Abantwana baneengcamango ezintle kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, banikela iimvakalelo zabo njengeenyaniso.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unomkhuba wokuxelela iindaba ezide, phendula ibali ngokubuza, "Ngaba yinto eyenzeka ngokwenene okanye yinto enqwenela ukuba yenzeke?" Impendulo engenamgwebo iya kumkhuthaza umntwana ukuba aqonde, " Kulungile, akunjalo ngokwenene, kodwa ndiyathanda ukuba ngaba! "
Musa ukuphazamisa ingcinga yomntwana wakho. Endaweni yoko, ncedise umntwana wakho ukuba afunde ukuqaphela ukuba unokukwazi ukuxelela amabali amnandi, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba acacisa ukuba amabali ayinyani. Ngokuziqhelanisa kunye nokuqeqesha, umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni unokufunda ukuqala ingcamango ngokuthi, "Uyazi into endiyifunayo ukuba yinyani?" Okanye "Cinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ..."
2. Bafuna Ukuphepha Iimiphumo
Ngaba umntwana wakho wakha wazama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba akayidli nayiphi na ikhekhe ngaphandle kweqabunga ebusweni ebusweni bakhe?
Ngokufanayo nendlela umntu omdala angathetha ngayo ukuphepha ingxabano kunye neqabane, abantwana bahlala bexoka ukuba baphephe imiphumo emibi .
Ukuba ubamba umntwana wakho ngamanga, nikeza ithuba elinye lokuthetha inyaniso. Yithi, "Ndiza kukunika umzuzu ukucinga ngako kwaye ndiza kukubuza enye ixesha elithile lenzekile."
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayazenzekela ngokuqamba amanga xa besaba ukuba baya kuba neengxaki. Ukunika elinye ithuba linika ithuba lokukhumbula ukubaluleka kokunyaniseka.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unomkhuba wokuqamba amanga ukuhlala engxakini, hlola izicwangciso zakho zokuziphatha. Uphando lubonisa ukuba uqeqesho olunzima lujika abantwana babe ngabaxoki abaqinileyo ngoko kubalulekile ukuqwalasela indlela othanda ukuphendula ngayo ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana wakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukwesaba indlela ophendule ngayo, uya kukwazi ukuthetha ubuxoki.
3. Bafuna Ukubonakala 'Bakhuphe'
Abantwana baphinda bathethe amanga kuba bafuna ukuphazamisa abanye abantu. Umntwana unokuxelela bakhe abahlobo ukuba uqhutywe kwikhaya lebhola yebhola, okanye unokuxelela abazali bakhe ukuba unokufumana ibanga eliphezulu kakhulu kwiklasi, nangona kungenjalo.
Ukunyanisekisa inyaniso-okanye ukuxoka kwamanga-ngokuqhelekileyo kusetyenziselwa ukuzingela ukungaqiniseki. Ngomzamo wokufanelana neontanga zabo, ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baxininisa ukuba baye baxhamla amava afanayo njengabahlobo babo, okanye bazama ukugcizelela abahlobo babo ngamabali abo.
Umntwana ongazi ukuba angashukuma angathi ibone ithaki elwandle okanye umntwana ongenakufumana izipho ezininzi zeeholide angenza uluhlu olude lwezipho ezibizayo awamkelayo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unomkhuba wokulala ukubukeka kakuhle phambi kwabanye, unokufuna ukunyaniseka . Thetha naye malunga nemiphumo yokuziqhayisa nokusebenza kwizakhono zentlalo ezifanelekileyo. Mncede athole iindlela zokudibanisa nabanye abantu ngaphandle kokuxoka ngamava akhe.
Dumisani iinzame zakhe , kungekhona isiphumo ukuze aqonde ukubaluleka kokusebenza kanzima. Umzekelo, kunokuba umdumise ngokufumana iinjongo ezininzi kumdlalo webhola lebhola, mdumise ngokuzama kanzima. Qinisekisa kuye ukuba akadingeki ukuba abe ngowona mhle ukuze athabatheke kwabanye.
Indlela yokuphendula xa ufumana umntwana wakho wokulala
Kungaba kufanelekile ukunika umphumo owongezelelweyo wokulala ngamanye amaxesha.
Tshela umntwana wakho, "Ulahlekelwa ngumdlalo wakho wevidiyo yonke imihla ngenxa yokuba awuzange wenze umsebenzi wakho wesikolo. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba uthe waxoxela ngawo, uya kulahleka i-TV."
Yenza okunyanisekileyo kwindlu yakho ngokunjalo. Yakha umgaqo wendlu uthi, "Thetha inyaniso," yaye abantwana bakho baya kuba banokuqonda ukubaluleka kokunyaniseka.
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