Ukumangalela umntwana ngokwenza ukhetho olubi akuthethi ukuba ufanele uzive uziva kakubi ngaye. Enyanisweni, uqeqesho oluhlazisa abantwana lunokuba luyingozi kakhulu.
Ukuqeqeshwa okunempilo kunokunceda umntwana wakho azive kakubi ngezinto azenzileyo, kodwa akufanele kumenze azive kakubi ngenxa yokuba ungubani. Umntwana oziva kakuhle ngaye-nangona wenza iiphutha-uya kukhuthazwa ukwenza ukhetho oluhle kwikamva.
Gcina Ulindelo lwakho lufanelekile
Ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuphuhliswa kwabantwana kubalulekile ukukhulisa umntwana ngokuzithemba. Ukuba ukulindela komntwana wakho kukuphakame kakhulu, uya kuba noxinzelelo oluninzi-kwaye uya kwenza umntwana wakho-xa engakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezilindele.
Ukulindela okuphantsi kakhulu kunokulimaza ngokunjalo. Ukuba ulindele kancinci kumntwana wakho unokubangela ukukhula kwakhe.
Qaphela ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuzimela kulo lonke iqela lokuphuhlisa. Ukuchonga impawu zentlalo, ezempilo, zengqondo, nezengqondo umntwana wakho afikelela kuzo. Emva koko, unokuqinisekisa ukuba imigaqo yakho nemiphumo yakho iyasebenza, izicwangciso zokuqeqeshwa ezifanelekileyo .
Gwema ukusebenzisa iilebula
Kungaba nzima ukumbamba umntwana wakho ngokuthetha into ethi, "Ungumculi wam omncinci," okanye "Nguye inkwenkwezi yam ibalo." Ngelishwa, abanye abazali basebenzisa amanqaku amaninzi amaninzi, njengaye, "Uyi-klutz" okanye "Ungumngcwabo wam enye. " Iilebula zenza okubi ngakumbi kunokuba zilungileyo-nokuba zilungile .
Izingane ziyazi xa abazali bebhala ngeendlela ezithile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, bazivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka baphile ngokuvumelana nale migangatho.
Umntwana obizwa ngokuba ngu "ososayensi omncinci," akanakulandela umdla wakhe kumculo kuba ucinga ukuba ufanele ukuba abe nomdla kwizinto ezinxulumene nesayensi.
Xa abantwana bekhululekile ukuhlolisisa izinto ezininzi, imisebenzi, kunye nokuphishekela izinto, kungonakalisa ukuzixabisa kwabo.
Ukwahlula ukuziphatha koMntwana
Ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ungumfana obi!" Okanye "Ungumfana ongekho nto!" Utshintsha indlela abantwana abazibona ngayo. Kwaye ukuba baqala ukuzijonga njengento embi, banokungabikho kakuhle.
Ukwahlula ukuziphatha kumntwana wakho. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Uyihlazo," uthi, "Kwakuyinto ephosakeleyo." Mkhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba usenokuba yintsana enhle eyenza ukhetho olubi.
Dumisani imizamo yabantwana bakho
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali badibanisa ukuphelela. Kodwa ukuba uthetha nje izinto ezinje, "Umsebenzi omhle ubeka iinjongo ezimbini namhlanje," okanye "Umsebenzi ogqwesileyo ufumana onke amagama akho esipelingi," umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba kufuneka akhululele ukuba afaneleke ngamazwi anomusa.
Dumisani imizamo yomntwana ngokuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ndabona ukuba awuzange ulahlekelwe ngumdlalo namhlanje kwaye uhlawule," okanye "Ndiyathanda indlela oye wafunda nzima ngayo ukuvavanya kwakho upelo." Kwakhona, khumbula ukuncoma ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga ngokuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ukwabelana ngokubanzi nomsebenzi wakho nomhlobo wakho."
Yenza isiluleko malunga nokuFunda
Ukuzama ukwenza umntwana uzive kakubi akunakumkhuthaza ukuba enze ngcono. Kodwa, ukunikezela ngesiphumo esinengqiqo ngendlela enokumnceda kunokumnceda afunde izakhono eziya kumthintela ukuphinda yakhe impazamo.
Yenza kucace ukuba kuya kuba nethuba lokwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo. Ukulondoloza ukuzithemba kwakhe kuya kumnika ithemba lokuba unokuzama ngokukhawuleza kwaye enze ngcono ngexesha elizayo.
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