Nangona ixesha elikhawulezayo lingaba lisebenzisayo kwiminyaka emi-5, ngelixa umntanakho ephendukela kwi-10, uya kufuna izicwangciso ezintsha zokuziphatha. Ukuze izicwangciso zokuqeqesha ziphumelele, zifuna ukufanisa iimfuno zophuhliso lwakho lomntwana.
Ubuchule obufanelekileyo beminyaka yobudala abugcini nje ukukhawuleza ukuziphatha kakubi, kodwa baqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufunda izakhono afuna ukuba ngumntu omdala onoxanduva.
Kubalulekile ukufumana izicwangciso zobuchule ezifanelekileyo eziza kufeza iimfuno zomntwana wakho kunye nokunceda uphuhliso lwakhe.
Funda ngeNtuthuko yabantwana bakho
Ukungabikho kolwazi lokuphuhlisa abantwana kungaba yingxaki enkulu kubazali kunye nakumntwana. Abazali abalindele ukuba abaneminyaka emi-2 ubudala ukuba bahlale ngecala kwivenkile yokutyela bayakukhungatheka xa umntwana wabo engakwazi ukwenza njalo.
Ngenxa yoko, banokuzama ukuhlwaya umntwana wabo xa edibanisa itafile okanye ezama ukuphuma esihlalweni sakhe. Kodwa, ukuziphatha komntwana kungahle kuphuhliswe kakuhle kwaye isohlwayo singenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuzifundisa malunga noko ukulindela kwimeko nganye yentuthuko yabantwana bakho. Oku kunokukunceda uhlakulele ukulindela okufanelekileyo.
Xa ufunda oko ungalindela kumntwana wakho, unokwenza imimiselo efanelekileyo yeminyaka eya kumisela umntwana wakho impumelelo. Umzekelo, ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulala kunye neminyaka efanelekileyo yemisebenzi iya kuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana ufunda kwaye ukhula ngendlela eya kumnceda ukuba abe ngowona mhle.
Njengoko ekhula kwaye ekhula, kufuneka ulungise utshintsho lwakho ngokufanelekileyo.
Kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni, nangona kunjalo, ukuba abantwana bahlakulele kumazinga ahlukeneyo. Akubona bonke abaneminyaka engama-3 ubudala abanesitorethi abaqeqeshwe kwaye akubona bonke abaneminyaka engama-16 abanomthwalo okwaneleyo wokuqhuba.
Ngoko ukongeza kwiminyaka yengane yomntwana wakho, gcina nengqondo yakhe yokukhula.
Uphuhliso lwakhe lwengqondo kunye nophuhliso loluntu alukwazi ukulinganisa ixesha lokulandelana kwexesha kwaye kufuneka ulungelelanise okulindelekileyo ngokufanelekileyo.
Imithetho eyahlukileyo yabantwana abahlukileyo
Kuphilile ukuba ube nemithetho eyahlukileyo yabantwana abahlukileyo. Umzekelo, wakho oneminyaka engama-14 akadingeki ukuba alele embhedeni ngo-7 ebusuku nje ngokuba uneminyaka engama-6 ubudala.
Ngoko ngoxa ufuna ukufumana imithetho ethile yasekhaya ukuba wonke umntu alandele, kufuneka ube nemithetho efanelekileyo yomntwana ngamnye.
Ukulindela abantwana abancinci abacinga ukuba imithetho ayilungile. Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana omncinane afune ukufana nabantwana bakhulileyo. Kubalulekile ukuwakhumbuza ukuba xa bekhulile, baya kufumana amalungelo amaninzi.
Lungisa iMithetho Yakho kunye neNkqubo yokuLawula njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula
Njengoko umntwana wakho akhula kwaye ahlakulele, iimfuno zokuziphatha ziya kutshintsha. Nangona ixesha lokuphuma likwazi ukusebenza kakuhle xa selula, ukuthumela umntwana wakho egumbini lakhe xa umntwana eselula esenokubonakala ngathi unomvuzo, kunesihlwayo.
Thatha ingqalelo kumntwana wakho malunga nobuchule bokuziphatha. Ukuba uthatha ithoyiphu yakhe oyithandayo xa exabela umntakwabo, kodwa uqhubeka eshaya umntakwabo ngokusesikweni, iziphumo zakho azisebenzi. Unokufuna ukufumana esinye isiphumo esibi esiya kusebenza ngakumbi.
Phinda uhlolisise imigaqo onayo kumntwana wakho ngexesha elifanayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ihlobo lasekuqaleni uyamkhwelisa ibhayisekile kwi-driveway, kulo nyaka unakho ukulungela ukuwukhwela kwindlela.
Qinisekisa ukuba uchaza ngokucacileyo nayiphi na utshintsho kwimithetho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqonda ngokucacileyo imithetho phambi kokuba uqale ukuphumeza.
Isicwangciso esinokusebenza nakwiyiphi iminyaka
Kukho iindlela zoqeqesho eziza kusebenza kubantwana nanini na ubudala. Kodwa bafuna ukulungiswa ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezithile zomntwana wakho:
- Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo - Ukuvuza umgangatho wakho wokuziphatha komntwana, njengokusebenza nzima emsebenzini wakhe wesikolo okanye ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe eyenziwa ngexesha. Abantwana abancinci basabela kakuhle kwiitshathi zesikhokelo xa abantwana beselula banokwenza okusemgangathweni kwinkqubo yoqoqosho lwempawu . Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umdala kangakanani umntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukunika abantwana ithuba lokukhuthaza xa beqhuba kakuhle.
- Ukudumisa - Abancinci abantwana abancinci banokubakhuthaza ukuba baqhubeke nomsebenzi omhle. Ukudumisa abantwana abadala kukukhumbuza ukuba bahamba ngendlela efanelekileyo.
- Ukuqwalasela okulungileyo - Sebenzisa umgangatho omnye ngexesha elinye kunye nezingane zakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi ixesha. Ukwakha ulwalamano oluhle lukhulisa umnqweno wabo wokuphulaphula imiyalelo yakho kwaye kunciphisa imizamo yabo yokwenza ukutsala ingqalelo.
- Imiphumo engqiqo - Melana nemiphumo yokuziphatha kakubi komntwana wakho. Ukuba ugibela ibhayisikili ngaphandle kwemida, thabatha ibhasikidi. Ukuba uyambamba usebenzisa ifowuni phakathi kobusuku, thabatha ifowuni yakhe.
> Imithombo
> Umbutho wase-American Psychological Association: Ulungiso oluhle ngexesha lobudala.
> HealthyChildren.org: Ukuyala umntwana wakho.