Ukwandisa uqeqesho olusekelwe kwiimfuno zomntwana wakho
Ngaba wakha waphawula ukuba ngaba abantwana ababini kwintsapho efanayo banokuhluke kakhulu? Umntwana omnye unokuba ngumntwana ovuyayo, olula ukufuna ukukholisa ngelixa elinye lingaba li-cranky, ukungahloneli, nokufuna ingqalelo.
Ngokucacileyo, ukungafani kokuziphatha akusoloko kuvela kwindawo. Umntwana ngamnye uzalwe ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Kwaye kubalulekile ukulungelelanisa izicwangciso zakho zokuqeqesha iimfuno zomntu ngamnye.
Iimpawu Ezenza Umoya
Iqhinga lihluke kancinci kumntu. Ubuntu bomntwana buquka izinto ezinjengobulumko kunye nobuchule. Iimpawu zibhekiselele kwiimpawu eziza kuzalwa kuphela. Abaphandi baye bafumanisa umonakalo wengane eyenziwe ngeendlela ezi-9 ezahlukeneyo:
- Inqanaba lomsebenzi - Ingaba umntwana wakho uhlala ekhuthele kakhulu, esebenzayo okanye engasebenziyo xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana bakhe ubudala?
- Ukuphindaphinda - Ingaba umntwana wakho ubonakala enomdla wokuqheleka? Ngaba umntwana wakho ufuna ukutya nokulala ngexesha elifanayo ngosuku?
- Indlela okanye Ukuhoxiswa - Ngaba umntwana wakho ujabulela ukuzama izinto ezintsha nokuhlangana nabantu abatsha? Okanye ukhetha ukugcina abanye kwaye uphinde uxhomeke xa echazwe ngeemeko ezintsha?
- Ukulungelelaniswa - Ingxaki yomntwana wakho ukutshintshelwa njani utshintsho? Ngaba uyazivumelanisa ngokukhawuleza okanye adideke xa ishedyuli yakhe ishintshile?
- Ubunzulu bezenzo - Ingakanani indlela awayeyenza ngayo xa efumana iziganeko ezintle nezimbi?
- Umgcini Wokuphendula - Umntwana wakho usabela njani ekuvuselelweni kwezinto ezinjengezinto ezithandayo, izinto ezifayo, izandi kunye nezandi?
- Ukuphazamiseka - Ngaba umntwana wakho unokuhlala egxininise emsebenzini okanye uphazamiseka lula ngomsindo okanye umsebenzi ojikelezayo?
- Ukuqwalaselwa kweengxaki kunye nokunyamezela - Ingaba umntwana wakho unako ukusebenza kumsebenzi ade ugqityiwe okanye uthanda ukuyeka okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumdla ngaphambi kokuba ugqibe? Ujongana njani nokuguquka ukusuka kwinto enye ukuya kutsho?
- Ubunjani boMoya - Ngokomyinge, ngaba umntwana wakho ubonakala ehamba kakuhle okanye enze uguquko lwakhe lwamaxesha kwaye lubonakala luxhomekeke kuyo yonke into eyenzayo?
Iimpawu zeMimiselo
Ngokusekelwe kwezi mpawu, abaphandi bavelise iindidi ezintathu eziphambili zezingane. Nangona kunjalo, baqaphele ukuba malunga ne-35% yabantwana abahambelani naluphi na uhlobo oluthile kodwa kunoko, kubonakala kubambene.
- Elula okanye eFlexible (40%) - Abantwana ababhekisiwe ukuba "bahamba ngokulula" banemiqondo enzulu kakhulu kunye nombono ontle ebomini. Ziyakwazi ukuguquguquka ngokutshintshwa kwenkqubo yazo kwaye aziphazamiseki ngamava amatsha. Iimpawu zabo zichaneke ngokucacileyo.
- Esebenzayo okanye enzima (10%) - Abantwana abakhutheleyo okanye abanzima bavame ukubhekwa ukuba "baxhamla. Abayithandi iinguqu kwiindlela zabo kwaye banokwesaba ukudibana nabantu abatsha. Bavame ukuba neengxaki kakhulu ekuvuseleleni, njengemisindo enkulu okanye izinto ezithile. Baphinde babonise iimpendulo ezimangalisayo kwizinto abangazithandiyo.
- Ukuphuza ukufudumala (15%) - Ukuphuza kumantombazana afudumele asebenzi kangako, kunokuthi 'kuphephe' kwaye ukwesaba abantu abatsha kunye neemeko. Bafudumala ngokubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwezinto ezintsha emva kokuba banike ixesha elaneleyo lokuzibona nokufunda ngaphambi kokuthatha inxaxheba.
Ukufumana Ukulungelelaniswa Okufanelekileyo Nokulungiswa
Kubalulekile ukufanisa isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho kwisicwangciso soqeqesho. Ngokomzekelo, indumiso inokusebenza kakuhle nomntwana ophuza ukufudumala njengoko kunokumkhuthaza ukuba azame imisebenzi emitsha. Umntwana onokuphuza ukufudumala unokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kwinkqubo yembuyekezo ebonisa ukukhuthaza nokukhuthaza.
Umntwana osebenzayo okanye onzima unokuphendula ngokugqithiseleyo ukungawunaki , ukuphuma ngexesha , okanye ukulahlekelwa ilungelo . Inkqubo yoqoqosho lweengxoxo ingaba sisixhobo esihle sokuqeqesha ukuziphatha kakuhle ngelixa ugcina ingqalelo yomntwana onzima.
Elula okanye eguquguqukileyo abantwana bangenza kakuhle ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zoqeqesho.
Ukuhlanganiswa kwemiphumo emihle kunye nembi kunokuba zixhobo zokusebenza zokuphatha kakuhle.
Ngoko phambi kokuba ucinge ngendlela yokuqeqesha umntwana wakho, qwa lasela iimfuno zakhe ezizodwa. Emva koko, zama ukulinganisa ukungenelela kwakho kunye nomoya wakhe.
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