Ziziphi izizathu ezibangelwa amaTantrum kunye neNgaphezulu?
Ziziphi ezinye zezizathu zokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho enze okuthile? Ingaba umntwana wakho uhlala ecotha, okanye kungekudala kwaye waqala ukuphazamiseka, ukufumana isizathu sokuziphatha kubalulekile kwisinyathelo sokuqala ukulungisa le ngxaki.
Ukwenza Ukuziphatha
Asinakuzichaza ngokucacileyo igama elithi "ukwenza izinto" kubazali ukuqonda oko sikuthethayo.
Kodwa kubalulekile ukunika inkcazo yokuziphatha ngokuziphatha ngaphambi kokuthetha ngezizathu ezikhoyo.
Ibinzana elithi "ukwenza izinto" ngokuqhelekileyo libhekiselele ekuziphatheni kwengxaki ekhuseleyo, eyonakalisayo kwipropati, ngento enobudlova, okanye yimbi kunokuba yinto engalunganga. Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo kukuphazamisa nayiphi na imimiselo kwaye kudla ngokufuna ukungenelela kokuziphatha okusemthethweni ukuyilawula. Amanye amagama abazali abangasetyenziselwa ukuchaza oku kuziphatha kubandakanya:
- Ixesha lomsindo
- Utywala
- Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha
- Inkcaso
- Inkcazo
- Ukuziphatha okuchaseneyo
Kutheni Umntwana 'Aphume'?
Kukho izizathu ezinokwenzeka zokuziphatha ngokuziphatha, kwaye bambalwa banokulula nje ngokuba "uyinkwenkwe embi." Xa umntwana ephuma, umzekelo wokuziphatha okungafanelekanga udla ukusetyenziswa ukufihla iimvakalelo ezinzulu, ukwesaba, okanye ulolo.
Ewe, ukuba sithatha nje ukusola ukuziphatha komntwana engumntwana ongeyimbi, siyaziqinisa izizathu zakhe zokwenza izinto endaweni yokunciphisa.
Siphinde sishiye umntwana evakalelwa sisodwa kunye naluphi na iimvakalelo ahlangabezana nazo.
Izizathu zokuziphatha
Ukususela ekufumaneni isisombululo ekusebenzeni ukuziphatha kufuna ukuba ufumane isizathu sokuziphatha (ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba umntwana ungumntwana ongeyimbi) kubalulekile ukuthetha malunga nokuba zeziphi ezinye zezizathu.
Ezi zihlala zicacile, kwaye ngokwenene, zinokungcwatyelwa kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha isenzo somsindo sisetyenziselwe ukufihla umthombo wokuziphatha kakubi kubazali. Ukujonga ngolu hlobo lwezi zinto-ngaphandle kokuzigxotha njengokuba akunakwenzeka kwimeko yakho-kubalulekile ukuze ufike kumthombo onokulimaza wena nomntwana wakho. Abazali abaninzi bayamangalisa ukufunda ngezizathu zokubandezeleka kwengane yabo. Makhe sijonge ezinye zezizathu zokwenza oku:
Impendulo eqhelekileyo kwiimeko ezihlaselayo
Abanye abantwana baphumelela ngenxa yokuba basabela kwiimeko ezibaphazamise ukuba bangakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Kwezinye iimeko, umntwana ukhutshwe ukuphendula kwabanye abafundi eklasini. Kule meko kwaye ukuziphatha kwedwa kuthethwa, umntwana oye waphathwa kakubi uya kuhlwaywa ngokuphendula ukuphathwa kakubi. Isijeziso, ngandlela-thile, sifundisa umntwana ukuba akanalo ilungelo lokukhuselwa okanye ukuvakalelwa, okuchasene noko sifuna kubantwana bethu xa kuziwa ekwakheni ukuzithemba kwabo .
Kwamanye amaxesha, umntwana usenokuphendula kwinto eyenzeka ngaphandle kwexesha elifutshane.
Umzekelo, umntwana ophathwa kakubi ekhaya "unokuthatha" esikolweni apho angabonisa khona iimvakalelo zakhe ngokukhuseleko okukhulu. Kwiphepha le-flip, umntwana oxhatshazwayo esikolweni unokuthi "asebenze" wakhe umsindo kunye nokukhathazeka ngokungahambi ekhaya.
2. Izimo zeMpilo zeNgqondo ezingenanto
Abanye abantwana "baphumelela" ngenxa yeengxaki ezingaphendulwanga. Ezinye izimo ezinokuthi ziphathwe ngokuziphatha ngokuziphatha ziquka:
- Ingqalelo yokusweleka / ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki (ADHD)
- Autism
- Ukukhathazeka okuxhalabileyo njengengxaki yokukhathazeka jikelele
- Ubume obungalunganga obuphambanisayo
Nangona zonke ezi ngxaki zingaphathwa kakuhle ngoluhlu lwezonyango, unyango kufuneka lufanele kwaye luhambelane.
Iingxaki ezingabonakaliyo
Kwezinye iimeko, abantwana "baphumelele" ngenxa yeengxaki zengqondo ezinjenge-disordered disorder disorder, ezingenakuqondwa. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abaninzi abane-autism (kunye nabambalwa abangenazo i-diagnostic ethile) banokuba nemingeni eyenza ukuba benze izinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nezandi ezibuhlungu. Cinga ukuba uchitha ixesha lolo suku uhlangabezana nokungahambi kakuhle ngeendlela zokukhanyisa izibane, izitulo eziqhekezayo, kunye neengubo ezingenakuzikhusela. Kwimeko enjalo, phantse nabani na onokukufumana kunzima ukuhlala uxolo.
4. Ukukhubazeka kokuFunda okungafundwanga
Esinye isizathu sokuthi "sisebenzise" sinokukhungatheka ngenxa yokukhubazeka okungafunyanwa okanye okungafundwanga. Umntwana onokuthi, umzekelo, i- dyslexia engafumanekiyo iya kuphinda iphinde ibuye emva koko esikolweni. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba imingeni yakhe ayilungiselelwanga, akayi kukwazi ukufunda kwindawo yokufundela yokufundela. Ngaphandle kokuba utshintsho lwenziwe, akanayo nantoni yexesha lakhe kwisikolo ngaphandle kokungena enkingeni!
5. Indlela yokuqwalasela abantu abadala
Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho abantwana abathile "abazenzayo" njengendlela yokuqwalasela okanye ababi-kubantu abadala. Unokunqwenela ukujonga izicwangciso zobuzali kubantwana abahlala befuna ingqwalasela ngokuziphatha kakubi , kwaye bafunde ngalezi zicwangciso zengqwalasela ezifanelekileyo ezinokunciphisa ukuziphatha okubi. Kukho nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, ezinjengeengxaki zamandla , ngamanye amaxesha ezilungileyo zingashiywanga .
6. Ukuchukumisa oontanga
Kukho nabo bantwana "abaphumelelayo" ukuze baveze oontanga. Nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda isizathu esivela kule mfuneko ukukhupha. Kwezinye iimeko, aba bantwana bayanyanzelwa okanye bavalelwa; Kwezinye iimeko, bazithokozisa ngokwabo. Ngandlela-thile, ukuba usebenze ngaphandle kubenza bafumane uhlobo oluthile lokuqwalasela, baya kuqhubeka behlupha.
Ukufumanisa Isizathu Ngaphambi Kwonyango
Ngaphambi kokuba kuphuhliswe naluphi na uhlobo lwongenelelo okanye icebo loonyango lomntwana osebenzayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumanisa isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngaloo ndlela kuphela ingqwalasela imiba engundoqo. Kuphela emva kokuba imbangela yokuziphatha iqondwa ingaguquleka kakuhle.
Imizekelo: Ukuziphatha ngokubambisana kukubangela enkulu yokumiswa nokuxoshwa ezikolweni.