Kuze ube ngumzali, akunakwenzeka ukwazi oko kuthetha ukuba ngumzali. Oko akuthethi ukuba awuqhelekanga ngcamango yokubazali. Emva kwakho konke, sonke sinomzali omnye, nokuba ngaba kwakungekho umzali wezinto eziphilayo. Omnye wasikhulisa. Kwaye sasibahlobo ababenabantwana. Sifunda iincwadi malunga nezingane, kwaye abo bantwana babenabantwana. Sasibukela iifilimu kunye nemiboniso yethelevishini malunga neentsapho kunye neentsapho zabo, iintsapho ezibandakanya abazali.
Uyazi ukuba ngabazali bafanele benze ntoni kwaye ukuba wenza nantoni na, uyazi ukuba ukunyamekela abantwana kuthetha ntoni: ukugcina ukhuselekile, ukondla, uthuthuzela xa bebuhlungu okanye bebuhlungu, begcina behlambulukile, balala , ukubanceda ngomsebenzi wesikolo. Kodwa nokuba umntwana, nokuba ngabazalwana okanye nabamelwane kunye namanye amalungu entsapho, akasilungiseleli ngokupheleleyo ukuba ngumzali.
Ukuzaliswa kwabazali kunye neNqobo
Ukulindela kwethu ukuba ngumzali kusekelwe kwiimeko zethu zeentsapho kunye noko sikubonayo kwiintsapho zethu zabahlobo, kumabhayisikobho, kumabonwakude nakwiincwadi. Okwenene ukuba sibe ngumzali ngokwethu ukuba siqaphele ukuba kunzima kangakanani umsebenzi wokuba ngumzali. Unomzali wama-24 iiyure ngosuku, iintsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka (366 ngonyaka wokunyuka - akukho zikhefu kubazali!) Yaye nguwe omele umntwana wakho ngamnye ngaloo mihla - nangaphezulu. Ukwaxanduva lokuphuhliswa komntwana wakho, uvuyo lwakhe, ikamva lakhe.
Yonke into.
Ndandingomnye walabo babenomntwana othile, ngoko ndandiqiniseke ukuba ndiyazi ukuba kuba ngumzali ukuthini. Ndabona iifilimu, ndabukela imiboniso yeTV, ndifunda iincwadi, kwaye ekubeni ndade ndikhulile xa umntwana wam wazala, abahlobo bam bahlobo bam sele bekhulile abantwana babo kwiminyaka elishumi elivisayo, ngoko ndabona izinto abazenzayo kwaye ndabancedisa ngamanye amaxesha, kwakhona.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba ndiyazi kakuhle into endiyifunayo. Kodwa ukwazi nokwenza zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, ndazi ukuba ngandlela-thile ndimele ndihlale ubusuku bonke nomntwana ogulayo, kodwa ukwazi ukuba akuzange kumenze ndikhathazeke okanye ndanxinekile.
Andiyithandi ukutsho ukuba ukubeleka kukudanisa. Ukuba ngumzali kunokuba ngcono kunokuba sicinga. Ndilula kuthetha ukuba into esiyilindeleyo ayiyiyo yonke into esinayo.
Umzali onamabala
Xa ndicinga ukuba ngumzali, ndazicingela izinto ezininzi: ukufunda kum umntwana wam omncinci njengoko ehleli emgodini wam, encedayo ukufunda ukufunda, ukumnceda ngomsebenzi wesikolo, ukuthetha nootitshala bakhe ngokuziphatha kwakhe esikolweni ....
Akukho nto endiyicinga ukuba yiyiphi into endiyifumana - ubuncinane kungekhona indlela endicinga ngayo. Umntwana wam akazange avuyiswe ekufundeni xa wayesemncinci. Ukuba ndambeka emgumbeni wam ukuba ndifunde kuye, wayeza kukhwela aze adideke ade ndimvumele ukuba ahambe emlonyeni wam. Kwaye kwada kwade "ephule ikhowudi" eyandivumela ukuba ndifunde kuye kwaye kwafuneka ndifunde igama elinye ngelixesha njengoko wayichaza kuyo kwincwadi. Kwaye kwakukho ubungakanani bam ukumnceda afunde ukufunda. Ngethuba eliqalisa isikolo ezintlanu, wayengumfundi ofunda kakuhle . Andizange ndimdinge ngomsebenzi wesikolo. Into eyayiyilwa nayo kuphela yayikukwenza.
Akazange abe nengxaki yokuyiqonda. Kwafuneka ndixoxe nootitshala bakhe. Mamaxesha amaninzi. Kwaye kwakuqhelekile malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe - ukuthetha ngezobugcisa. Ukuziphatha "iingxaki" kubandakanyeka ukuba angaphenduli umsebenzi wesikolo kwaye "akahlali" kunye nabanye abantwana. Andizange ndilindele ukuba ndibuze umfundisi ngomsebenzi onzima kumntwana wam okanye kufuneka ndichaze ukuba unyana wam unxulumene kakuhle - kunye nezingane ezindala.
Ukulungelelwa koMzali umntwana onobubele
Lezo zizinto ezithile zezinto endizifumene ngokuba ngumzali wengane enesipho. Akukho nto yayilungiselele loo mava kwaye ndandisoloko ndiziva ndilahlekile kwaye ndedwa ndodwa.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba abaninzi abazali abanabantwana abanesipho baye bafumanisa ukuba umzali onobuchule uhlukile kwizinto abaye bacinga ngazo ngokuba ngumzali. Akukho mntu ulungele ngokupheleleyo ukuba ngumzali, kodwa ubuncinci abazali abaninzi banemibono yento enokuyilindela. Nangona umzali onomntwana onobuchule ufana nabanye abantwana abazali ngeendlela ezininzi-bengabantu, emva kwayo yonke into - eninzi izinto endibathandayo ukuba ndizazi ngabafundi abanesiphiwo ngaphambi kokuba ndibe ngumzali omnye. Ngomnye, ndifuna ukuba umntu anditshele ukuba banesidingo sokwenza umngeni . Ndifuna ukuba umntu ndixelele ngeemvakalelo zabo.