Fumanisa indlela ukubizwa ngegama kukuchaphazela njani amaxhoba
Ukubiza igama-ngenye yezona zinto ziwonakalisa kwaye zibuhlungu. Ushiya amaxhoba ngemilayezo engathandekiyo malunga nabani abaxhomekeke kwingqondo yabo. Kwakhona kuyingozi kuba uzama ukuchaza abantu. Ngokomzekelo, ukubiza umntu "inqatha," "ukukhawuleza," "nerd," okanye nayiphi na igama elihlambalazayo likhawuleza ukuzithemba , ukuvakalelwa nokuzimela.
Ukubiza igama-magama kwenza kube nzima ukuba ixhoba lithembele ingcamango yakhe ngaye. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngamagama abizwa ngokuba yixhoba, imilayezo engaphantsi kwaye iphinda iphinda ithi "awunelisekile" kwaye "awuyikulinganisa." Nazi ezinye iindlela abantu abaselula abachaphazelekayo ngokubizwa ngegama.
I-Erodes i-Victim's Feelings of Self
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukubiza igama kunye nezinye izigxeko zinganciphisa ngokuzithemba kwaye ixhoba aliyi kuphinda libone okoqobo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba intombazana ibizwa rhoqo ngokuba "inqatha," unokuzijonga njengongaphezu komzimba nangona emva kokulahlekelwa ngumzimba. Olu hlobo lwesimboli somzimba luyindlela yokuqala yesifo sokutya .
Ubangela abantwana ukuba bahambisane neenkolelo zabo kunye neemilinganiselo
Xa abantwana behlaselwa ngenxa yeenkolelo okanye iimpawu ezithile, ukubizwa ngegama kunokubangela ukuba banamathele kwiingcinezelo zontanga baze badibanise iinkolelo zabo ukuze babalekele ukuxhatshazwa.
Ngokomzekelo, intombazana ebizwa ngokuba "ulungile" inokuzama ukugubungela lo mfanekiso ngokwenza izinto ezichasene nenkqubo yakhe yenkolelo njengoko ezama ukubonisa ukuba akahlali "onobuhle".
Ichaphazela i-Victim's Feelings of Well-Being
Ukubiza igama kubangela ukuba utshintsho olubonakalayo kubuntu nokuziphatha kwabo bachaphazelekile.
Ngokomzekelo, amaxhoba asetsheni angabonakalisa, abanobutsha okanye abahoxiswe. Kwakhona banokwenza izizathu zokugwema izikolo kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi yangaphandle. Ngaphezu koko, amaxhoba ahlala enganeliseki ngobomi. Kwakhona banokujamelana neemvakalelo zodwa kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba.
Iimpembelelo zobume bomntu
Xa umxhaphazi ebiza omnye umntu igama, bazama ukulawula indlela abanye abambona ngayo umntu. Ngokomzekelo, umxhaphazi angabiza umntu "osisidenge." Le-call-calling ivame ukuqhutyelwa phambi kwabanye kwaye ifuna ukukhuthaza abanye ukuba babone umntu "njengesisiphukuphuku". Ukuba i-call-calling iphindaphindiwe, emva kwexesha abanye, kuquka i-target, bangase baqale ukudibanisa igama elithi "siyisiphukuphuku" kulowo mntu. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, elo ileta elibuhlungu linokuba yinxalenye yaloo mntu.
Ivula iSango kwiViyalence
Kwiimeko ezinzima, abaxhaphazayo abathiwa ngamagama ngamathuba amaninzi baya kusebenza ngokuvutha komsindo baze baphumele ngendlela ebonakalayo. Enyanisweni, ininzi inzondo zonyango ziqala ngokubiza amagama. Ungalokothi ulawule ukubiza igama. Endaweni yoko, ukuba umntwana wakho ubizwa ngokuba ngamagama esikolweni, makuthathele ngutitshala okanye inqununu.
Ikhuthaza ukunyanzeliswa kwangaphakathi
Ukubiza igama-magama kubakhokela iithagethi zokuthatha amagama njengenyaniso.
Ngenxa yoko, baqala ukuzigxeka kunoko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu ubizwa ngokuba "ulahlekile," ilizwi labo langaphakathi liya kufunda ukubiza ngokuba ngumntu olahlekileyo kwaye xa benza iimpazamo. Ingxaki kukuba eli lizwi langaphakathi lilukhuni ukutshintsha kwaye akuyona injongo.
Impembelelo yeMood
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba utshintsho olukhawuleza luneemvakalelo ngandlelinye ixesha lubonisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka. Ungalokothi ulawule utshintsho lomntwana kwisimo sengqondo okanye ubhale phantsi njenge-hormonal uze uqinisekise ukuba kutheni zibonakala zixakekile, zithukuthele okanye zikude. Utshintsho ekuziphatheni, imikhuba yokulala kunye nemizwelo kufuneka ihlale ibonwa njengeempawu zokuqala ezilumkileyo zokuthi into engalunganga.
Akuqhelekanga kumaxhoba okubiza igama kunye nezinye iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa ukuba zenze uxhalabe kunye nokuxinezeleka. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa utshintsho kwimizwa, mvavanywe ngugqirha ngokukhawuleza.
Ichaphazela impilo yengqondo
Ukubiza igama kungabangela imiphumo emibi kwimpilo yengqondo. Enyanisweni, abaphandi bacinga ukuba enye yeyona ndlela yingozi kakhulu yokuxhaphaza. Ngokomzekelo, amanye amaxhoba axineke kakhulu kwigama-ukubiza ukuba baqala ukuziva bengenalutho, abangenakunceda kwaye bengabikho kolawulo. Amanye amaxhoba anokucinga nokuzibulala . Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha ngokufa okanye ufuna ukufa, musa ukuwutyeshela izimvo zakhe. Yenza umntwana wakho ahlolwe ngumphathi wezobugcisa kwangoko.
Ichaphazela impilo yeMpilo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa abantwana bebizwa ngokuba ngamagama abo impilo yabo yomzimba iya kuphazamiseka. Ukongeza kwenkathazo yokutya okanye ukulala, nabo banokukhalaza ngesisu nesisu. Ukongezelela, amanye amaxhoba angathuthuka ingxaki yoxinzelelo emva kokudandatheka , izilonda, okanye ezinye iimeko ezinxulumene noxinzelelo.