Indlela Yokunceda Abantwana Bakho Bhekane Neengcinezelo Zontanga
Abaselula bayathonywa imihla ngemihla ngabalingane babo. Enyanisweni, onke amaxesha ophakathi okanye osemncinci uchitha ixesha kunye neontanga zabo, ziyakuthonya. Nangona bengaziqondi, nje ngokuchitha ixesha ndawonye befunda omnye komnye. Ngamanye amaxesha iimpembelelo zontanga zinokuthi zikhuthaze njengokuba zikhuthazana ukuze zizame izinto ezintsha okanye ziphume kwendawo yazo yokuthuthuzela ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Kodwa uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokuba lubi, ngakumbi xa luhlobene neziyobisi, ukusetyenziswa kotywala, kunye nokuxhatshazwa.
Indlela Uxinzelelo Lontanga Iimpembelelo Zokuxhaphaza
Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga uxinzelelo lwabanye ukuba luhambelane neempawu, izimo zengqondo kunye nemikhwa yabo yeqela okanye iqhosha. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abakwi-clique baya kucinezela abanye abantwana ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ekuxhatshazweni. Ukuxhatshazwa kungabandakanya konke ukushiya amanqaku athetha kunye nokubiza igama-magama ukuxhatshaza ubudlelwane bomnye umntu kunye nenkohliso, ubuxoki kunye namahemuhemu . Enyanisweni, ulwalamano oluninzi lobudlelwane kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe- intanethi lubandakanya uxinzelelo lwabaontanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha, i-tween kunye nentsha iya kuziva ixinzelelo lwangaphakathi ukwenza izinto abacinga ukuba ontanga zabo zenza. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantwana baya kuthatha inxaxheba ekuthumeleni i-sexting kuba becinga ukuba wonke umntu wenza njalo. Ngamanye amazwi, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lubangela abantwana ukuba benze izinto ababengenakuyenza kunye nethemba lokufaneleka okanye ukuqwalasela.
Xa kuziwa kuxhatshazo, iingcinezelo zokuxhatshaza abanye zivame ukuqala ngengqondo yepakethi kwaye zibaluleke kakhulu kwi-intanethi. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana baya kucinezela okanye bakhuthaze abanye ukuba baqhube i-cyberbully . Oku kunokubandakanya uxinzelelo lokuthatha inxaxheba kuyo yonke into esuka kwiintengiso zentengiso kwi-intanethi ukuthetha izithuba zentlalo zentlalo .
Isizathu sokuba abantwana bazinikezele uxinzelelo lwabaontanga
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa abantwana bezinikela kwingcinezelo yontanga kuba kuba bafuna ukuthandwa okanye ukungena.
Bayesaba ukuba xa bengayi kuhamba kunye neqela okanye iqhosha, abanye abantwana bahlekisa ngabo. Ngenxa yoko, ukuxhatshazwa ngamanye amaxesha kuyisenzo sokuzimela. Abantwana bayesaba ukuba abafaki abanye, bathathe inxaxheba ekuhlekeleni, basasaze amahemuhemu baze bahlekise abanye, ngoko nabo baya kukhutshwa okanye bahlutywe ngabaxhatshazwayo .
Ukongezelela, abanye abantwana bayamkela ingcamango yokuba "wonke umntu uyayenza" kwaye ngokusoloko eziva ephosakeleyo uxanduva lokuxhatshazwa xa lwenziwa njengeqela. Ngolu hlobo lwengqondo yepakethe, abantwana bahlala beshiya isigwebo sabo esingcono kunye nengqiqo. Ngenxa yoko, abavakalelwa kakhulu ukuzisola njengoko bekunjalo.
Indlela Abazali Abanceda Ngayo Abantwana Ukujamelana Nokunyanzeliswa Kontanga
Xa kuziwa kwingcinezelo yontanga, abazali bavakalelwa kukuba balwa nelifa. Kodwa ngokwenene, abazali banempembelelo engakumbi kunokuba bayayiqonda. Nangona i-tween kunye nentsha ikhupha kule minyaka kwaye izama ukuzithimela, zifuna kakhulu abazali bazo. Ngoko ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokungena.
Thetha nabantwana bakho. Zama ukuqonda iingcinezelo abazifumanayo. Buza malunga neengcinezelo abazivakalelwa ukuba bazibandakanye nobudlova , ubudlelwane be- cyberbullying nezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa .
Xa unako ukudibanisa nezingane zakho ngokuxhatshazwa, ngoku ngakumbi uya kuba nefuthe elihle. Nika abantwana bakho iingcamango ngendlela yokuphendula ngcinezelo yontanga. Yaye qiniseka ukuba zixhotyiswe ngokuzithemba , ukuzithemba kunye nezakhono zentlalo. Ezi mpawu zinceda abantwana baphendule ngcinezelo yontanga ngendlela enhle.
Kwakhona, misela imithetho kunye nemiphumo xa kuvela ukuxhatshazwa kwaye ulandele. Ukuba unomgaqo-nkqubo wokungaxhatshazi abanye kwaye ufumanisa umntwana wakho ngumxhaphazi-nangona ukuba unyanzelekile-kufuneka ulandele ngezenzo zoluleko . Ukuba awuyiyo, umntwana wakho uya kuthatha ukuba imigaqo ayisebenzisi okanye ayiyinto enkulu.
Ngenxa yoko, ukuxhatshazwa kunokunyuka kwinqanaba lokuba liphuma ekulawuleni okanye lilimaza omnye umntu. Khumbula, ukujonga ngenye indlela kuphela kumonakalisa umntwana wakho ekupheleni.
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Qonda ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba umzali wakho kakuhle kangakanani, wakho okanye umfana wakho uya kuphazamiseka ngezikhathi ezithile. Esikhundleni sokumemeza okanye ukugxeka, bancede bathathe uxanduva kwizenzo zabo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba babenomnye umntu, bacele uxolo. Okanye ukuba bafake i-locker ngegraffiti elimazayo, bahlambulule. Inqaku kukuqinisekisa ukuba benza izilungiso zokuxhatshazwa. Kwakhona, xhathisa umtsalane wokubhalela umntwana wakho umxhaphazi. Kunoko, mkhuthaze ukuba ayeke ukuxhatshazwa kwaye agxininise ekubeni nomusa , uvelwano kunye nozuko. Oku kungathatha ixesha, kodwa ngoxa uncedo lwakho, umntwana wakho unokufunda indlela yokwenza izigqibo ezingcono nangona uxinzelelo lweontanga.
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