Indlela yokuphepha ukuxhatshazwa ebomini bakho
Ukuxhatshazwa kwiindaba ziphantse malunga nosuku. Ngenxa yoko, uninzi lwabazali bafundiswe kakuhle ngolu hlobo. Bathetha nezingane zabo ngokuxhatshazwa kwaye banokufumanisa iimpawu ezilumkiso . Kukho nepesenti enkulu yabazali abagcina iithebhu kwizinto zabo abantwana abazenzayo kwi-intanethi.
Kodwa ukuxhatshazwa kuyinkinga enzima eqhubekayo. Ngenxa yoko, abazali abaninzi bayothuka xa befunda ukuba ukujonga kwabo ukuxhaphaza kudla ngokungaphelelanga.
Nazi izinto ezisixhenxe eziphakamileyo abazali abahlala bengakwazi ngazo ngokuxhatshazwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bakho bambiza ngokuthi "abahlobo" abo bahamba phambili . Xa abazali becinga ngabaxhatshazo , bahlala becinga imibono yongxowankulu kubandakanywa nomntu ozondayo ihlabathi okanye intombazana entle ethatha abo abangenawo amaninzi entlalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abaxhatshazwayo bacinga ukuba basuswe kude nomntwana wabo.
Ngenxa yoko, abazali bahlala bexhala xa befunda ukuba abantwana abaxhaphaza abantwana babo yiyo abachitha ixesha elide-abo babiza abahlobo. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha kunye nezingane zakho malunga nokuba ngumhlobo ophilileyo womntwana kunye nokuba yintoni inhlonipho ebonakalayo. Nceda abantwana bakho bachaze ukuba abantwana ababiza ngokuba ngabahlobo bahlobo bobuhlobo.
Nawuphi na umntwana unako ukuxhatshazwa kwaye uthathe ukuziphatha, kuquka neyakho. Akukho mzali ufuna ukufunda ukuba umntwana wakhe uxhaphaza omnye umntwana. Kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kunokwenzeka.
Nangona abantwana abasuka kumakhaya abalungileyo banokuxhatshazwa xa bexhomekeke kwingcinezelo yontanga . Kananjalo banokubandakanya ukuxhatshazwa xa bezama ukungena okanye ukunyuka kwinqanaba lentlalo.
Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nabantwana bakho malunga nokuziphatha okuhloniphekileyo. Futhi jonga amathuba okuba uvelwano kunye nokwandisa ukufunda kwentlalo kunye nemvakalelo ebomini babo.
Ukuba ufumanisa umntwana wakho ukuxhatshazwa, yenza isenzo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuphunyezwa ngokufanelekileyo ngokuziphatha kakubi kunye nokujonga imeko ukuba kuqiniseke ukuba akuyi kwenzeka kwakhona.
Akunjalo konke ukuziphatha okubangela ukuxhatshazwa . Kukho ulwazi oluninzi kwiindaba malunga nokuxhatshazwa, ukuba umyalezo uye wahlanjululwa. Ngenxa yoko, abazali bahlala bebiza iilwimi zonke okanye izenzo ezinokunyelisa. Nangona ezi ntlobo zokuziphatha azizange zilungele kwaye njengokuba zilimaza, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuziphatha kakubi nokuziphatha kakubi . Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kokuxhatshazwa kunye neengxabano eziqhelekileyo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kubandakanya ukungalingani kwamandla phakathi kwexhoba kunye nomxhaphazi. Kwakhona ngokuzikhethela nangokuphindaphindiweyo. Ukubiza igama-magama ngokukhethekileyo kunokuba ludideko lokuxhatshazwa. Ukubiza umntu igama ngexesha elinye akubanga ukuxhaphaza, kodwa ukubiza umntu igama ngosuku okanye ngaphezu kwexesha elixhatshazayo. Qinisekisa ukuba uqinisekisile ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana uxhatshazo phambi kokuba ubhale ithile.
Abantwana ababelangalelani kakhulu njengoko ucinga ukuba bayakwenza. Nangona abantwana abavulekileyo nabazali babo bahlala beshiya iinkcukacha. Izizathu zokungabikho kokubhengezwa ziyahluka.
Kodwa, njengomzali, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba xa umntwana wakho ekutshela malunga nesiganeko sokuxhatshazwa naye okanye esasifakazelayo, unokushiya ezinye iinkcukacha. Ukongezelela, abantwana baqaphela ngokunciphisa into abajongene nayo ngakumbi ukuba bacinga ukuba uya kukhululeka.
Yakha ithemba nomntwana wakho okhuthaza ukwabelana ngokubanzi. Ngokomzekelo, vumela abantwana bakho ukuba bathethe ngendlela abafuna ngayo imeko. Kwakhona, musa ukucaphukisa kwizinto abakuxelela zona. Zama ukuphulaphula nokuqokelela ulwazi. Yaye qiniseka ukuba uvakalelwa ngento abaye bajamelana nayo nangona ungayiqondi okanye uvakalelwa kukuba akuyena omkhulu kumsebenzi.
Iintshukumo zihlala zibonisa indlela abonwa ngayo abanye. Qala ngokuzijonga. Ngaba wenza izinto ozixelela ukuba abantwana bakho bangenzi? Ngokomzekelo, ngaba uhleba kunye nabahlobo bakho ngomnye umama? Ngaba uyamhlekisa omnye utata ofuna ukunciphisa umzimba? Ngaba uhlekisa ngomntwana othile? Ukuba wenza ezi zinto, umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uya kwenza izinto ezifanayo.
Ukongezelela, jonga ngokukhawuleza kubahlobo bakho bomntwana. Ukuba iqela labo libukeka njengeqhosha, ncokola nomntwana wakho ngaleyo nto. Ukuba ubona amantombazana eklasini ebonisa ukuziphatha okuthethileyo, zama ukukunceda umntwana wakho awandise isangqa sakhe sahlobo. Kwaye ukuba ubona abafana bakho unyana bebahlobo kunye nokwenza amazwi angalunganga ngamantombazana, wandise iqela labazalwana bakho. Khumbula, njengoko ukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngumntu olungileyo, ukumelana nabanye kunye nokuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho, kunzima ukuba enze oko ukuba abantu abazungezile nabo abaziphatha ngendlela efanayo .
Uninzi lwaba bantwana bacinga ukuxhatshazwa nje ngokuthi "umdlalo" kwaye kaninzi abasebenzisi igama lokuxhatshazwa . Xa abaninzi abantwana becinga ngokuxhatshazwa, bacinga ukuxhatshazwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo aziqwalasele ezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa njengento enye ngaphandle kwedrama. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bakhumbule oku xa bexoxa nezingane zabo. Ukuba abantwana bakho bathi kukho umdlalo omkhulu esikolweni okanye ukuba abantwana baxhala nabo, babuze imibuzo. Fumana ukuba bathetha ntoni. Inkcazo yakho yokuxhatshazwa kunye ne drama iyahluke kakhulu kwintetho yengane yakho.
Abantwana baqulunqa kakhulu xa kuziwa kukuxhatshazwa. Kanye nje xa ucinga ukuba konke ukucinga kwakho, uya kuva ngeendlela ezintsha ezisebenzisa abantwana ukujolisa abanye. Qiniseka ukuba ufunda ngokuxhatshazwa rhoqo kwaye uhlale ujwayelene neenkqubo zokusebenza ezisetyenziswa ngabantwana. Uninzi lweenkqubo zokusebenza zibetha iimakethi ukuba abantwana basebenzisa ukusetyenziswa kwe- cyberbullying . Ukongezelela, qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho bathetha nawe ngaphambi kokulanda ii-apps ezintsha. Emva koko, bahlole kunye kunye.