Ngexesha lokufunda esikolweni esiphakathi kunye neminyaka esikolweni esiphakamileyo, abantwana bahlakulela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kwaye bazama ukufumana ukuba bakuphi. Kwaye njengoko wonke umntu ezama ukufumana indawo yakhe, ii-clique kunye nokuxhatshazwa kuba zibalaseleyo. Ngenxa yoko, ukuchonga umahluko phakathi kweqela labahlobo kunye kunye ne-clique kubalulekile. Nazi ezinye iintlukwano ezibalulekileyo phakathi kwezi zibini.
Amaqela Ohlobo
Ubuhlobo ngokuqhelekileyo bubumba izinto eziqhelekileyo kubantu. Ngenxa yoko, kunjengokwemvelo kubadlali bebhola ukuba baxhomeke kunye njengokuba ku-mathletes. Ngokufanayo, amaqela angenza iqela elijikeleze ibhande, umdlalo we drama, nokuba uthanda umculo ofanayo okanye iifilimu. Abantwana bavame ukuziva bexhaswa kwaye bemkelwe ngenxa yezinto zabo ezifanayo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bahambe baze baphume kumaqela ahlukeneyo okanye babe yinxalenye yamaqela amaninzi ngexesha elinye. Ngokomzekelo, intombazana esikolweni esiphakamileyo ingaxhoma kunye neqela lebhola le-volleyball ngolunye usuku kunye nabasebenzi bencwadi ngolunye usuku. Ngaphandle kweqela, abantwana banokuba nabahlobo okanye abahlobo ababini abavakalelwa kukufuphi. Abantu baphinde baphume kwaye baphume kumaqela njengoko behlakulela iminqweno emitsha, benze abahlobo okanye baqaphele ukuba bahamba ngaphantsi kunokuba bebenjalo. Njengoko ixesha lidlulayo, amanye amaqela abahlobo aya kusondela xa abanye behlukana.
Ungazicingeli ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba onke amaqela abahlobo ziinkcazo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bafune ukuchitha ixesha nabantu abanezinto ezifanayo. Kwakhona kuyinto yemvelo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umntu uya kushiywa ngaphandle. Kodwa ebuhlotsheni obuhle , oku akuzange kwenziwe ngenjongo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umema kumaqela kunye neminye imisebenzi engekho ngaphandle ilawulwa yimingcele yendawo.
Amaqela abahlobo nawo athambekele ekuxhaseni omnye nomnye. Bayamkela abantu kwiqela labo, ii-quirks nazo zonke. Baxhasa ukunxaxha komnye umntu kwaye abayicingi ukuba bahambisane nemigangatho ethile ukuba babe yinxalenye yeqela. Ukongezelela, yintoni eyenza aba buhlobo nje njengeqela kwaye kungekhona i-clique yinqanaba lolawulo ngaphakathi kweli qela. Abantu bakhululekile ukuba babe ngabanye kwiqela labahlobo. Akukho mntu oyalela ukuba bafanele bembathe okanye ngubani na ongakwazi ukuxhuma nabo. Kwakhona bayamkela xa behlangana nabanye abanezinye iimfuno ezifanayo.
Khumbula, abahlobo bangabonisa ukuziphatha kakubi ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba baxhatshazwayo . Kubalulekile ukuqaphela umahluko phakathi kwabantu abanobuthi kunye nabangani abayinyani kunye nalabo banemini embi.
Cliques
Ngamanye amaxesha iqela labahlobo liyi-clique. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana kula maqela bakwenza kucacise ukuba bangaphandle ngaphandle kokuba nabani na onokujoyina kwaye babe yinxalenye yeqela labo. Enye into yokumisela kukuba ii-clique zihlala zijolise ekugcineni ukuthandwa kwabo okanye isimo. Bafezekisa ngokwenza abo bangaphandle bazive bengabalulekanga kunabo bangaphakathi kwi-clique.
Ngaphezu koko, abantu abakwiinkcazo ziyaziwayo ngokusebenzisa amandla abo aziwayo njengendlela yokulimaza okanye ukuxhaphaza abanye. Bavame ukukhuphela ngaphandle, ukugxotha kunye nokushiya abanye ngenjongo.
I-Cliques nazo zithetha . Yaye le ntsi ngiselo ayisoloko iphela kulabo bangaphandle. Abantu ngezinye iinkcazo bebuhlungu ngamalungu abo ngokuzama ukulawula okanye "ukulungisa" ngandlela-thile. Oku kungabandakanya ukunika i-makeovers engafunekiyo, ukucacisa ukhetho lwezambatho, ubatshele indlela yokwenza kunye nokunciphisa ubungani bangaphandle. Ubuntu abuyivuzwa okanye bukhuthazwe kwi-clique.
Ukongezelela, abantu abakwiinkcazo bahlala becinga ukuba xa behlekisa abanye, basasaza okanye basebenzise ezinye iintlobo zobudlova , ngokokuba baya kuthandwa.
Ngoko, baxhaphaza ukuba bafumane ingqwalasela, bafumane oko bafuna baze bahlwaye abantu abanomona .
Ngokungafani neqela labahlobo, iifowuni azihlali zihlala ngaphandle kweqela labo. Kunoko, benza konke kunye kunye nokutya ukutya kwasemini ndawonye, behleli ndawonye kwiklasi baze baxhomeke kunye emva kwesikolo. Ngokuqhelekileyo baya kwamkela umntu ongaphandle kwiqela ngaphandle kokuba bakholelwa ukwenza njalo kuya kukhonza injongo ethile.
Abanye abatsha bayakhangwa kwiinkcazo kuba zibeka ukubaluleka kakhulu ekuthandeni okanye ezipholile. Ii-Clique zinika indawo apho zifumana khona isimo sezenhlalakahle kwaye zivakale ngathi zizo. I-Cliques iyakhuphaza abantwana abathanda ukuphatha okanye ukuphumelela ekulawuleni. Okwangoku, ngenxa yezingane ezikhetha ukulandela kunokuba zikhokele, ii-clique zingaba yindawo eyingozi kakhulu. Iintsholongwane ezithandwayo zihlala zizenza zizigqibo ezimbi okanye zilandele izinto ezingenakuzivuma ngokwenene.
Ekugqibeleni, ii-clique zihlala zingabandakanyi abantwana abathandekayo abasongela ubukhokeli be-clique. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba iinkokheli kwi-clique zibona umntu njengomngcipheko, loo mntu uya kukhishwa ngaphandle kwaye mhlawumbi uyaxhatshazwa okanye aqhutywe nge-cyberbullied . Iqhosha lenza oku kumzamo wokuthatha amandla okubona komntu okanye usongelo. Basenokuba ngabahlobo bamhlobo abasondeleyo njengendlela yokuhlukanisa umntu kunye nokunciphisa isimo sakhe sezenhlalakahle.
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Ubuhlobo obuthile buyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bentsha. Ngenxa yoko, abazali kufuneka bakhuthaze baze bahlakulele ubuhlobo kubantwana babo. Enye indlela yokwenza oku, kukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ameme umhlobo okanye amabini ngaphezulu ukuba aphume. Ngaphandle kokunceda umntwana wakho azive edibene nehlabathi lakhe nabanye, ubuhlobo obuhle buya kuhamba ixesha elide ukukhusela ukuxhatshazwa . Khumbula, abantu abaxhatshazwayo bathambekele ekujoliseni abantwana abangabodwa , kodwa baya kucinga kabini ngaphambi kokuxhatshazwa kwentsha kunye noluntu oluqinileyo.