Fumanisa ukuba kutheni amaqhosha eendaba ezimbi
Xa abantu bacinga ngeefowuni , bahlala becinga ukuba baqulethwe ngabantwana abathandwayo esikolweni. Kodwa kukho iikhetshi zikhona kwizinga ngalinye lentlalo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha amanqaku amaninzi alawulayo kunye nonakalisayo awanakho kwi-radar yomntu.
Kubangaphandle, iqela libukeka njengecandelo lomnqamlezo lwabahlobo abanandipha ixesha kunye. Kodwa kukho izibonakaliso ezithile zeenkcazo.
Ngokomzekelo, ii-clique zidibanisa ubungane bangaphandle, ziphumelela kumntu oyedwa oyisigqibo kwaye zenziwa ngcinezelo yontanga. Kwakhona kubandakanya ubuhlobo obungenabungozi kwaye kubangele ingozi enkulu kubantwana. Nazi izinto ezihlanu eziphezulu zeefowuni.
Umncinci we-Cliques unciphisa isangqa yentlalo yesantya. Xa abantwana bekwi-clique, abaqhelekanga ukuba bahlali ngaphandle kweqela labo. Benza konke ndawonye. Ukususela ekudleni isidlo sasemini kunye nokuya kwiivenkile zentlalo, la bantwana bahlukana. Kwaye banqabile ukuba bameme umntu omtsha ukuba asebenzise ixesha kunye nabo.
Kwabanye abantu, iqela libonakala ngathi liqela labahlobo abasondeleyo. Unomdla ofanayo kunye nokuzonwabisa ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Iingxaki zivela xa abanye bengavumelekile ukujoyina okanye ukuxhoma kunye neqela. Ngaphezu koko, kwiinkqutyana zihlala zikhunjulwa ukuba ilungu leqela libe nabahlobo kwamanye amaqela. Ukulindela kukuba ukuba yingxenye yeqela, ubuhlobo buphela kwiqela.
Ukuba umntu eklasini uyaphambukela kwiqela, akhutshwa ngokukhawuleza.
Oku kuxoxisana ngokugqithiseleyo kubi kubabutsha kuba abahlanganisani nabantu abatsha okanye ukwandisa ubuhlobo babo bobuhlobo. Khumbula, abantwana abanempilo banomhlobo kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo kunye neendidi ezahlukeneyo.
Ungaze ukhuthaze abantwana bakho ukuba banamathele kunye neqela elinye labahlobo; kodwa kunoko bakhuthaze ukuba baqeshwe baze bahlangane nabantu abatsha.
Inkcazo kunye noxinzelelo lwontanga zihlala . Kuphantse ukuba kungabonakali ukuba i-clique ibe khona ngaphandle kohlobo oluthile loxinzelelo lwaontanga . Ukusuka kwiingcinezelo zokungabandakanyi abanye kwaye ugqoke ngendlela ethile, ukunyanzeliswa ukuza kubakho abantu abathile, abatsha kwiinkcazo baxinzelelo ukuba babe kunye nokwenza ngendlela ethile ukuze bafumane. Iingcinezelo ezigqithisileyo ezifana nokusela utywala okanye ukugcina ubunzima obuthile, zixhaphake kwiinkcazo.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uzizwa ecinezelekile ukuba aziphathe ngendlela ethile ukuze avunywe ngabahlobo bakhe, ngoko kufuneka ukhangele ngokukhawuleza lowo uphanye naye. Khumbula, ukulawula kunye nabangenabungozi abakwaziyo ukuwamkela ukuba amalungu eqela anokuba neengcamango ezahlukeneyo, iingcinga okanye iinketho. Ukuba abahlobo bakho bangamxabanga ngokuba ngubani, ke abahlobo abaphilileyo.
Iifowuni zenza iindlovu kwaye zithi intombazana ikhaliphe . Kukho amandla kumanani; kwaye xa abaselula beefowuni baziva bexhotywe ukwenza izinto abazingenakwenza. Ngenxa yoko, banako ukubandakanya amahlebezi kunye nokuhleba kunye nokubiza amagama .
Kananjalo banokuhlekisa abanye abantu kwaye baxhaphaze abo abangafanelanga iinjongo zeqela labo.
I-Cliques nayo inokukhokelela ekuqhubeni i-cyberbullying. Iintsholongwane kwiqela licinga ukuba abahlobo bazo banomqolo wabo kwaye baya kubandakanyeka kwi-cyberbullying abanye ngokukhululekile. Okwangoku, amalungu eqela lawo ahlala "athanda," "intandokazi" kunye "nokwabelana" kwezithuba zawo zithetha kwaye zandisa izinga labo kwiqela.
I-Cliques abanalo ubungqina bokwenene . Xa abafana beengqungquthela, kukho ithuba elincinci lokuba kukho ubuhlobo bokwenene kwiqela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amalungu eqela akhathazeke kakhulu ngokugcina isimo sabo kwiqela kunokuba baqonde umntu.
Bazixhalabisayo ngaphezu kobugwenxa kubo kwaye ngubani owamema ukuba bangene kumcimbi wexesha lwakutshanje. Ngaphezu koko, abatsha kwiikhetshana bahlala bexakeke kakhulu ukulawula ukuguqulwa kweqela ukuba babelane ngokwenene babenene nabanye. Uninzi lwexesha labo namandla lichithekile ekulandeleni imigaqo yeqela kunye nabantu abayithokozayo .
I-Clique igcina intsha ekufumaneni ukuba ngubani ngokwenene . Ukuba umntwana wakho uyilungu le-clique, kuya kumthintela ukufumanisa kwakhe kunye nokuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwakhe . Nangona kubonakala ngathi uyathuthuzela umntwana wakho ukuba axhomeke kunye nezingane ezifanayo lonke ixesha, kunokudala iingxaki ngexesha elide ngakumbi xa iqela liguqulela kwi-clique.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala egxininisekile okanye engaqinisekanga ngaye, okanye ufumanisa ukuba uyazibuza apho emele nabahlobo bakhe, kufuneka uqaphele. Ulwaphulo lweenkcukacha kumonakalo womntu wobunikazi. Andiyi kuphinda ikwazi ukuqonda ngokucacileyo into ayithandayo nokungathandekiyo kodwa endaweni yoko iya kuhamba kunye neqela. Unokuba nobunzima kunye nekhampasi yakhe yokuziphatha njengengcinezelo yokuba nokwanda.
Qinisekisa ukuba ukhuthaza wakho umntwana ukuba awandise isangqa sakhe sahlobo. Nangona kukumangalisayo ukuba nabahlobo abambalwa abasondeleyo, kunokuba yingozi, ngakumbi ukuba omnye okanye abahlobo abaninzi kwiqela bathanda ukulawula okanye ukulawula izigqibo. Khumbula, ubuhlobo obulungileyo yilabo abamkelayo ukuba ngubani umntwana wakho ongenayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukutshintsha okanye ukulawula.