Nceda abantwana bakho bachaze abaxhatshazi ebomini babo
Ubuhlobo buyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bentsha. Kodwa akubona bonke abahlobo abadalwa ngokulinganayo okanye bonke abanobuhlobo obunempilo . Enyanisweni, ezinye zithethi. Nangona kunjalo abantwana abasoloko babona umonakalo lo buhlobo lunokubangela. Enyanisweni, abanye abadala abakwazi ukuxelela ukuba umntu ungumhlobo okanye umxhaphazi.
Xa umxhaphazi ubonakala njengomhlobo, abaxhatshazwayo bavame ukubizwa ngokuba yiintanda.
Iifrenta zenza ubomi bube buhlungu kubantwana bakho. Njengabaphathi benkosi, bayakhohlisa abantu ukuba bakholelwe ukuba bangabangani, xa ubuhlobo bobuhlobo luphela nje indlela yokuphela. Iifrenta nazo zingasebenzisa uxinzelelo lwabaontanga ukuba zisebenzise abanye kwaye kungekudala umntwana wakho uxhalabisayo nabantu. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuchonga iintshaba zexesha elide.
Ukukhusela abantwana bakho ekuhlakuleni ubudlelwane kunye nabaxhatshazwayo, bathethe nabo ngeempawu zefrenemy. Nalu uluhlu lweempawu ezahlukileyo ukuxoxa nomntwana wakho. Hlangana, thetha ngantlukwano phakathi kwabahlobo abahle kunye neentaba.
1. Iifrenta zikhula kwiMandla
- Amafrensi anqwenela ukuba namandla phezu kwabanye, kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bafuna ukuba ubudlelwane bubulinganise kwaye bulingane.
- Iifrenta zifana nokuba zilawula kwaye zenze zonke izigqibo. Abahlobo abalungileyo bazimisele ukusebenzisana kwizigqibo.
- Iintlanzi zisoloko zithatha ulwalamano olusondeleyo kuquka ukudibana, ukwakha amaqela kunye nokungabandakanyi abantu, kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bayamkela wonke umntu.
- I-Frenemy ixelela abanye abakwaziyo kwaye abanakukwazi ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nabahlobo abalungileyo bevulekile ukwenza abahlobo abatsha.
- Iintlanzi zivame ukuziva zilungele izinto okanye zifuna unyango olukhethekileyo xa abahlobo abalungileyo bezithoba kwaye baxabisa.
- Iintlanzi zizonwabela abanye abantu ngokubukeka okubonakalayo kunye nokugqithisa amehlo abo. Abahlobo abalungileyo bayabingelela abanye abantu bemomotheka.
2. IiFrenemies Azinabantu Abahle
- Iifrenta zinokubonakala zibe mnandi kwaye zithandeka kodwa zenza nje kakuhle. Abahlobo abalungileyo banokwenene kwaye banokwenene.
- Iintlanzi zidibanisa iinyani kunye neemeko ukuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zabo. Kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo baya kwamkela xa bephosakele.
- Maxa wambi amaFrenzi ayenomona, enomona, okanye enomsindo kwabanye. Abahlobo abalungileyo abaziveki besongelwa yimpumelelo yabantu. Kunoko, bayabhiyozela nabo.
- Ama-Frenemy agxininisa ekuthandeni kwaye ngamanye amaxesha aya kubangela abanye ubuhlungu ukuba baziva besengozini. Kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo banomdla kunobungane kunokuthandwa.
- Iintlanzi zigwaza abanye emva ukunyuka kwezinga lentlalo. Abahlobo abalungileyo banamathele kwaye banamathela kubahlobo babo.
- Iifrenta zibaluleke kwaye zithetha kakubi ngabanye, nokuba ngabahlobo babo. Abahlobo abalungileyo bayakhuthaza kwaye bayeke ukuthetha izinto ezilimazayo.
- Iifrensi zihleka kwaye zihlekisa abanye abantu ngendlela abagqoka ngayo, bajonga okanye benze. Kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bahlonipha ukungafani kwabanye abantu kwaye bayawaxabisa ngokuba bangubani.
- Iifrenta zicinga ukuba kuyamkeleka ukunyaniseka nokugculela abahlobo babo phambi kwabanye abantu. Kodwa abahlobo abahle baqaphele ukuba bakhuthaze, babenomusa kwaye bahloniphe.
- Iintlanzi ziza kuxhaphaza umhlobo womhlobo okanye ububele. Kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bayamxabisa xa omnye umntu ebanceda.
3. IiFrenemy Yenza umdlalo
- Iifrenta zikwabelana ngolwazi lomntu xa abahlobo abalungileyo begcina ulwazi lomntu ngasese.
- I-Frenemies ixela ubuxoki kunye neenyaniso-ntlanu xa abahlobo abalungileyo benyanisekile kwaye bachanekile.
- Iifrenta zixhatshazwa ngokwemvakalelo kwaye ziya kusebenzisa ukunyaniseka kwesohlwayo kunye nokunyanzela ukufumana oko zifuna. Abahlobo abalungileyo baqonda ukulinganiselwa kunye nemida yokuhlonipha.
- Iifrenta zenza umdlalo ngokuhleba nokusasaza iindlebe xa abahlobo abalungileyo beyonandipha ukuthetha ngezinto ezithandayo, imisebenzi kunye neengcamango.
- Iintlanzi ziyakuthanda ukushiya imiyalezo okanye ukuthetha imiyalezo kwidesksi, kwiinksimbi okanye kwi-media media. Abahlobo abalungileyo banokuzithumela amanqaku okukhuthaza okanye imiyalezo.
- Iifrenta zibandakanya kwi- cyberbullying . Abahlobo abalungileyo kuphela bathumela izimvo ezintle kumajelo asekuhlaleni.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhulise ubudlelwane kunye ne-frenemy, mkhuthaze ukuba abeke isikhala phakathi kwakhe nomhlobo. Qinisekisa imbono yokuba ukuxhamla kwi-frenemy kunokubangela uxinzelelo oluninzi kunye nentlungu. Kodwa lungele ukuxhathisa. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba abantwana bazihlukanise nomntu abaziva bexhunyiwe. Kwakhona kungathatha ixesha lokuba bahlakulele abanye ubuhlobo. Ngoko ube nomonde.
Okwangoku, ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba adibanise nabanye . Mema abanye abahlobo kunye kwaye ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba azame imisebenzi emitsha okanye ahlole iimfuno ezintsha. Ekugqibeleni, ngoncedo lwakho, umntwana wakho uya kuhlakulela abanye ubuhlobo.