Nangona abanye abaxhatshazwayo bebonakala bebancinci, abanye abavelanga de kube yintshumi. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana abalungileyo baphendukela kubaxhatshazo. Nazi ezinye zeziganeko eziqhelekileyo kunye nemingcipheko ebushushu abasakhulayo.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zoLutsha lwaBantwana
Nangona enye intshutshiso enokutsha ingase ihlasele abantu ngokubanzi kwi-intanethi, abanye banokunyelisa abo ontanga esikolweni.
Nangona naluphi na indlela abasetyenziselwa ukuhlutywa kweethagethi zabo, abaninzi abatshabisayo banokwabelana ngala mazwi kunye neempawu:
- Impulsive
- Iingxaki zolawulo zobushushu
- Uzama ukulawula abanye abantu, kunokukhuthaza abanye ukuba balandele
- Wabuhlungu kwaye wakhathazeka
- Engenalo uvelwano, akayi kuvelana neemfuno zabanye okanye iimfuno kodwa zabo
- Ulahla ixhoba ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngokuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ukuba loo nto yayingakhange ibonakale ibudenge, andizange ndibethe."
- Ubunzima ukulandela imithetho kunye nokuhlonipha kakhulu igunya
- Jonga ubudlova ngendlela enhle, njengendlela yokuzonwabisa okanye indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana iimfuno
- Abafana abaxhaphazelayo bahlala benamandla kunabanye abantwana
- Amantombazana abaxhaphazayo bavame ukubonakala ngathi bayathandwa
Izinto zobungozi zentsapho zokuxhatshazwa
Akukho nto ebangela ukuxhatshazwa phakathi kwabantwana. Imininzi yemeko eyahlukileyo inokubeka umntwana engozini yokuxhatshazwa ngabaontanga bakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, kufunyanwe ukuba abantwana abaxhatshazwayo banokuba baninzi kunokuba babo bangabandlululo bavela kwimimandla eneempawu ezithile.
Nazi ezinye zeengxaki zentsapho ezixhaphakileyo:
- Ukungabikho kokufudumala nokubandakanyeka kwinxalenye yabazali . Oku kungakho ngenxa yendawo engumzali oyedwa apho umzali engekho ekhaya okanye ukhathele kakhulu okanye ungakhathazeki xa basekhaya.
- Ukukhulisa abantwana ngokubanzi (kuquka ukungahambi kwemida yokuziphatha kwabantwana) . Xa abantwana banikwa imigaqo embalwa kunye nesikhokelo esincinci, bangazama ukulawula oontanga babo. Abazali abavumelekileyo abayibeki umda kwaye bavame ukuba abantwana bazive benelungelo.
- Ukungabikho kolawulo lwabazali . Ngaphandle kolawulo olufanelekileyo, intsha ingazihlaziya. Basenokufumanisa ukuba ukuthetha, ukuthini, kunye nokufuna ukufumana iimfuno zabo badibana nexeshana. Kodwa ekubeni ukuxhatshazwa komzabalazo kunzima ukuqinisa ubudlelwane obuhle, ukuziphatha kwabo kubuyiselwa kwixesha elide.
- Ukholo, ukuziphatha ngokomzimba . Akunjalo nje ngabazali abavumelekileyo abakhuthaza ukuxhatshazwa. Abazali abasebenzisa isijeziso somntu, okanye abo bafaka imiphumo engumngcipheko, bangakhuthaza abantwana ukuba baxhase abanye.
- I-Chaos kunye neengxabano . Abantwana ababona ubungqineli ekhaya okanye abo baxhatshazwa ngabantwana bakowenu banokukwazi ukuxhaphaza abanye. Iingxabano ezihlala rhoqo ekhaya, ezifana nokuhamba ngokukhawuleza, zinokubangela ukunyanzelisa.
Ukuxhatshazwa kunye nezinye izinto ezinobundlobongela kunye / okanye iiNtshukumo zoLuntu
Ukuxhatshazwa kunokusuka kwimicimbi yengqondo. Imiba yempilo yengqondo , njengokukhathazeka, okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, njengengxaki yokuchasana nengxaki , inokuba negalelo lokuxhatshazwa. Abanye abatsha baqala ukuxhaphaza emva kokuxhaphazwa okanye bafumana isiganeko esibuhlungu.
Nangona kukho ingxoxo enkulu malunga nento eyenzekayo kubantu abatsha ngamaxhoba okuxhatshazwa, akukho ingxoxo encinci malunga nemiphumo yokuxhatshazwa. Ngelixa ezininzi zifumana imiphumo ethile, uluntu ngokubanzi luhlawula ixabiso elikhulu kubantwana abaxhaphazayo.
Abantwana abavame ukuxhaphazela oontanga babo banamathuba amaninzi kunezinye:
- Yiba nokulwa rhoqo
- Yenzakaliswa ekulweni
- Vandalize okanye uthathe indawo
- Phuza utywala
- Umsi
- Yiba nesisithakazelo esikolweni
- Ukuphuma esikolweni
- Thatha isikhali
Ukuba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi, kubalulekile ukujongana neentloko. Ukubonelela ngongamela, ukubeka imida ecacileyo, nokunyanzelisa imiphumo.
Ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuqhubeka, cinga ukufumana uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokukwazi ukulawula ingxaki yengqondo yengqondo kwaye ingakwazi ukufundisa izakhono zakho ezitsha ezisemtsha eziya kumnceda ukuba afune ukufumana iimfuno zakhe ngaphandle kokuxhaphaza abanye abantwana.
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