Ingaba i-teenager yakho ilahle i-smartphone yakhe eludongeni xa ikhungathekile insiza ayiyi kusebenza, okanye ihlamba kwaye ifunge xa ingayifumani indlela, intsha engakwazi ukulawula umsindo wayo iya kuba neengxaki ezinzulu.
Nangona abanye abaselula bebethelwa ngomlomo, abanye bangase babe nobudlova. Kwaye ukuba afundanga indlela yokulawula umsindo wabo ngcono, baya kuba nobunzima kubundlelwane, kwimisebenzi yabo, nakwiimfuno zabo zemfundo.
Nangona umsindo uqhelekileyo, imvakalelo enempilo, kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokujongana nayo. Ukukwazi indlela yokujamelana nomsindo kunye nendlela yokuyiveza ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu kubalulekile ukuba izakhono zifundele.
Nazi iindlela ezisibhozo zokufundisa abatsha izakhono zokulawula umsindo:
1. Misela iMithetho Yomsindo kwiNdlu yakho
Yonke intsapho inokulindela okungafaniyo nendlela umsindo okufanele uyenze ngayo. Ezinye iintsapho zinyamezelekanga xa zikhwaza ngezinye iindidi, ukukhawula kuyindlela eqhelekileyo yokuthetha.
Yenza imigaqo malunga nokuba yiyiphi indlela yokwamkela okwamkelekileyo kwaye uchaze ukuba iziphi izinto aziyi kuzinyamezela. Ungavumeli igama lokubiza, ubundlobongela, okanye ukusongela ekhaya lakho. Yenza imiphumo ecacileyo yokuphula imithetho.
2. Xoxani ngokungafani phakathi kolaka kunye noxhatshazo
Fundisa umntwana wakho umfana umehluko phakathi kwemizwa enomsindo kunye nokuziphatha okubi. Imvakalelo evuthayo iyamkeleka ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuziphatha okubi, nangona kunjalo, akulungile. Yenza kucacise ukuba akunakulungele ukuphosa izinto, ukuvala iingcango okanye ukuphuka izinto ngenxa yokuba uvakalelwa ngumsindo.
Iintswelo zifuna ukwazi ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi-nokuba ngaba kukunyanzela-kunokuthi kube neengxaki ezinzulu.
Ukwenza izibhengezo zongongelo kwimidiya yoluntu, umzekelo, kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo yomthetho.
Xoxa ngomsebenzi onokufunda, ezentlalo kunye nemithetho yezenzo zobugwenxa nobudlova.
3. Fundisa izakhono zokuQinisekisa
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuziphatha okubi kunye nomsindo kubangelwa ukungabikho kokuqina. Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba athethe njani ngokwakhe ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Thetha ngokubaluleka kokuzithetha yena ngaphandle kokuphula amalungelo omntu. Ukudlala indima ekhethekileyo kunye nomntwana wakho, njengento enokuyenza xa umntu ecula phambi kwakhe kumgca okanye indlela yokuphendula xa evakalelwa kukuba uyasetyenziswa ngabanye.
4. Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Aqonde Iimpawu Zomzimba Ezibonakalisa Ubushushu
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abakwazi ukuqonda xa umsindo wabo uphakama. Ziyavuma ukuba zikhule ngokukrakra kangangokuthi azikwazi ukukunceda kodwa zikhuphe umntu.
Buza umntwana wakho, "Umzimba wakho uvakalelwa njani xa utyhafile?" Mfundise ukuba aqaphele iimpawu zomsindo womsindo, njengentliziyo yokukhawuleza, uboyiweyo okanye ubuso obushushu.
Mkhuthaze ukuba angenelele xa ebona ukuba umsindo wakhe uphakama. Oko kuthetha ukuthatha ikhefu, ukuthatha ukuphefumula okumbalwa, okanye ukubala kwi-10 engqondweni yakhe.
5. Vumela ixesha lokuzimela ixesha
Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba ahlale ebudeni xa elwa nomsindo.
Mnike ikhefu elikhawulezileyo ukuqokelela iingcamango zakhe kwigumbi lakhe okanye umkhuthaze ukuba ayeke ukuthetha nomhlobo ovuthayo.
Yenza imigaqo yokuphuma ixesha. Ngokomzekelo, vumelani ukuba ukuba ngubani na oya endlwini uyacaphuka kakhulu ukuba aqhube ingxoxo, uya kuthatha umzuzu o-15 ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nencoko.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhetha ukuthabatha ixesha, ungamlandeli okanye ufune ukuqhubeka nencoko ngelixa esengumsindo. Endaweni yoko, vumela ukubuyela kwakhona kwingxoxo emva kwexesha elifutshane elipholileyo.
6. Fundisa Iikhono zoLuntu oluMkelekileyo lokuCwangcisa
Iintswelo zifuna ukwazi iindlela ezifanelekileyo zoluntu zokujongana neemvakalelo ezinomsindo.
Iintsholongwane ezingenazo izakhono zokujamelana nazo ziyakwazi ukuthetha ngamazwi okanye ukunyusa.
Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba akwazi ukufumana iingxaki zokujamelana neengxaki zokujongana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka , ezifana nokudumala nokukhungatheka. Nangona ukudweba kunokuncedisa enye intombazana ukuba idibane, ngelixa enye intsha ingenelwa ekuhambeni ukuhamba xa ithukuthele. Sebenzisana nentombazana yakho ekufumaneni izicwangciso ezithile zokuncedisa ukulwa nomsindo.
7. Fundisa iZakhono zokuSombulula iingxaki
Iintsholongwane ezingenazo iingxaki zokuxazulula iingxaki zinokuthi zisebenzise ubugwenxa bokuzama ukufumana iimfuno zabo zidibene. Fundisa isakhono sakho sokusombulula iingxaki ezisemgangathweni.
Ingaba ulwa neprojekthi yesikolo okanye uzama ukuxazulula ingxaki nomhlobo wakhe, mkhuthaze ukuba achaze izixazululo ezinhlanu. Emva koko, unokuyihlolisisa i-pros and cons to each solution before you choose the one of which he thinks will work best.
Oku kunokukunceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zokusombulula ingxaki ngaphandle kokupheliswa. Emva kwexesha, uya kukhula ngakumbi xa ekwazi ukuphumeza ngokuphumelelayo iingxaki.
8. Uhlobo loMzekelo olufanelekileyo
Uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ngakumbi ngentliziyo ngokuziphatha kwakho kunamagama akho. Ukuba ukhala, ufunge, uphule izinto, ungalindelanga ukuba umntwana wakho afune ukulawula umsindo wakhe. Imodeli yohlobo olufanelekileyo iindlela zokujongana nomsindo.
Bonisa umntanakho indlela yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo ezinomsindo kunye nendlela yokubonisa loo mvakalelo ngokufanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, tshela, "Ndiyacaphuka gqitha ukuba awuhlambululi igumbi lakho njengoko ndakucela ukuba. Ndiya kuhamba emva kweminye imizuzu emva koko siza kuthetha ngesiphumo sakho. ".
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