Izimpawu zobuxoki
Intsha ingakhohlisa abazali bayo ukukhusela ubumfihlo kunye nenkululeko, ifihla iimpazamo kunye nokuphulwa kwemithetho kunye nokukhusela abanye. Njengomzali, ukhuseleko lomntwanakho luya kuba yinkxalabo yakho yokuqala. Ufuna ukwazi inyaniso ukuze ukwazi ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha okungaphephile, nokuba kusetyenziso lwezinto eziphathekayo, ngokwesondo, kwimisebenzi enobungozi, okanye kwanobugebengu obuncinane.
Unokwazi njani xa wakho umntwana elele?
Iindaba ezimbi kukuba uphando lubonisa ukuba baninzi bethu banethuba elingamashumi amahlanu anamashumi amahlanu (ngokufanelekileyo) lokubona xa umntu elele engazange alungiselele, kwaye yimbi ngakumbi xa umntwana ebenamathuba okulungisa amanga abo. Kodwa ukuba ubeka ingqalelo ekuziphatheni komntwana wakho xa engaboni, unokukwazi ukuphucula loo miqobo.
Wonke umntu uyaxoka
Nangona ubeke ixabiso eliphezulu xa uhlala uthetha inyaniso, ukuxoka kuyingxenye yokuziphatha komntu. Vumela ukutshitshiswa apho umntwana wakho oza kulala kuwe kwaye wamkele ukuba kuya kwenzeka. Sebenzisa oko ukhumbule ngokuziphatha kwakho kwentsha xa kukuxelela ubuxoki ukuba usebenzise ukugweba iingxelo zabo zexesha elizayo. Nangona ukufumanisa ubuxoki kungalimaza inqanaba lokumthemba onalo nomntwana wakho, qwalasela into yokuba ubuxoki bunganikezela kwaye ulingise impendulo yakho ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukukhohlisa kwenza umntu acinge kanzima (ekuthiwa ukwandisa umthwalo wabo wokuqonda). Oku kungakhokelela kwizibonakaliso ukuba umntu ucinga ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba bebeya kuba xa echaza inyaniso.
Enye yeendlela ezisetyenziselwa ukuthotyelwa komthetho kukukwenza ukuba umntu osolwayo acinge ngakumbi xa ephendula. Oku kukhokelela ekuziphatheni okungakumbi xa uthetha ubuxoki.
Iimpawu zeLizwi
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba iimpawu zobuxoki ziyahlukahluka ngamnye ngamnye. Kufuneka usebenzise amava akho kunye nomntwana wakho ukukukhokela.
Kodwa qwa lasela kule mimandla uze ubone indlela abantwana bakho abenza ngayo xa bethetha inyaniso nangokuba ulala.
- Ukumisa isikhala: Mamela ikhefu ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aqale ukunika impendulo yombuzo kunye nokuyeka kwexesha elide ngexesha leempendulo zabo. Iimpawu zokungaqhelekanga zibonakalisa ukuba kufuneka bacinge kanzima ukunika impendulo.
- Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo : Oku kuyahluka. Amehlo aqhekekileyo, ekhangele phantsi, okanye ekhangele kwindlela eyahlukileyo angabonakalisa ubuxoki. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abaselula banokuhlala bexhamla amehlo xa belele. Enye inkcazelo ingaba utshintsho kwindlela edla ngayo. Khangela uhlobo oluthile lokuqhagamshelana kwamehlo xa uthelwa ngokuqhathaniswa naxa bethetha inyaniso okanye kwingxoxo evamile.
- Umlomo ophuthumayo kunye noomlomo ocolileyo : Utshintsho lokuphefumla kunye nokomisa ummatha luphawu loxinzelelo ngokuza kuxoka ngamanga. Kukho nokuba kukho utshintsho kumgangatho wezwi, ungabi nzulu.
- Ukunyaniseka : Ngenxa yokuba ubuchopho buxakekile buza buxoki, umzimba udla ngokukhawuleza. Unokubona ikhefu kwindawo eqhelekileyo yokukhupha.
- Ukucwangcisa kunye neenyawo Ukukhwabanisa : Abanye abantu baya kusebenzisa izibonakaliso ezithe xaxa ezibonisa ukuthetha ubuxoki. Ngethuba umzimba ungase ube ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, iinyawo zinokubangela izinto ngokugubungela kwindlela yokuphepha.
- Ukuthintela intshontsho okanye umlomo : Ezi zibonakaliso eziqhelekileyo zokuxoxela amanga, ukukhusela indawo esengozini kunye nokuthintela ukunxibelelana.
- Iinkcukacha : Umntwana osetsheni oxokayo unokuphepha ukunika iinkcukacha, ubuncinane xa wayebuzwa okokuqala, ngaphandle kokuba uyenzile impendulo yakhe. Unokutshintsha ibali kwisicatshulwa sesibini. Ukucela iinkcukacha ezongezelelweyo kuya kubeka uxinzelelo ngakumbi kwintsapho yakho kwaye kunokukhokelela kwimpawu ezininzi zokuxoka. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukunikezela kakhulu kuninzi-ukufumana iinkcukacha kungabonakalisa ibali elenziwe.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
"Thembela, kodwa qinisekisa" inokuba yinto efanelekileyo xa ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha inyaniso kwaye akafihla ukuziphatha okungaphephile.
Cela izinto onokuzijonga, ukhumbule ukuba iziganeko zakho zokubona nje ubuxoki zingcono kakhulu kunethuba.
Yenza kube lula ukuba umntwana wakho atshayele inyaniso. Qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyakhuseleka kwisijeziso ngokukuxelela inyaniso ukuze usebenze iingxaki kunye.
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