Kunyaka ngamnye, ngaphezu kwe-1 yezigidi zaseMerika ziphelile kwinkqubo yobulungisa yabantwana. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabazali babo abaqinisekanga ukuba bangenelela njani okanye bafumana phi uncedo xa bebona iimpawu zabo zentsholongwane.
Ukungenelela kwangaphambili kuyona nto ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni umntwana osemncinci. Ukufumana uncedo lobuchule kunokunceda umntwana ukuba abuyele kwindlela efanelekileyo ukuze afikelele kunako konke okusemandleni akhe.
Nazi iinqununu ezinhlanu eziphakamileyo abazali abazibuzayo malunga nomzali osemncinci:
1. Ziziphi iimpawu zentsholongwane engxaki?
Ixesha elixhalabileyo elisetyenziselwa ulutsha lisetyenziselwa ukuchaza uluhlu olubanzi lweendlela zokuziphatha okanye iimvakalelo zengqondo kubantu abaselula. Abanye abathandabuzayo abanentsholongwane abaneengxaki zempilo yengqondo , njengengxaki yokudandatheka okanye i-ADHD, ephazamisana nemisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla. Abanye banemicimbi yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, ubunzima bokufunda, okanye iingxaki zoluntu.
Iimpawu ezilumkiso zentsholongwane echaphazelekayo zibandakanya ukuziphatha kwengozi, njengokwenzakala, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye nokusela.
Iingxaki zivame ukuqala kwindawo enye yobomi bentsholongwane kunye nexesha elide, ezo ngxaki zityhila kwezinye iindawo. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana uselula ukuxhoma kunye nesihlwele esingalunganga , esinokubangela ingxubusho nabazali bakhe. Amabanga akhe angancipha kwaye ekugqibeleni, imfundo iya kuhlupheka.
2. Ndingamnceda Njani Umntwana Oxinezelekileyo?
Enye yezona zinto ezintle ongayenza ukuze uncede umntwana okhuselekileyo ungenelela kwangaphambili.
Kulula kakhulu ukujongana neengxaki xa zisesezigaba zokuqala. Kodwa, kungcono ukungenelela ngasekupheleni kunokuba kungenjalo, ngoko ukuba uye wavumela iingxaki ukuba ziqhubeke ixesha elide, thabatha inyathelo ngokukhawuleza.
Xa ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kubumnene, unokukwazi ukunqanda iingxaki ngokwenza utshintsho oluthile ekhaya.
Ukujonga ilutsha lakho ngcono, umise imithetho eqinile, kwaye ugxininise imiphumo . Uqeqesho olungqinelanayo lunokwanela ukunceda wakho umntwana ukuba enze ukhetho olungcono.
Ukuba ujongene neengxaki ezinzulu, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Ungaze uzame ukulungisa umlutha okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho ngokwakho. Impilo yengqondo okanye ootitshala bezonyango bangakunika izibonelelo ezifanelekileyo.
3. Ndingayifumana njani Uncedo?
Indawo enokuqala ukuqala kukuxubusha iingxaki zakho kunye nezingane zakudala. Udokotela wezingane unokuncedisa ukuba ngaba iziphathamandla ozibonayo ziziphatha ngokuqhelekileyo kwentsha okanye ingxaki enkulu.
Udokotela wezilwanyana unokukwazi ukubhekisela kwizixhobo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kwindawo yakho, njengengcali yezempilo yengqondo okanye indawo yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi. Udokotela wakho osetsheni uya kuba nako ukulawula iingxaki zempilo ezingenakho ukufaka isandla kwimibandela oyibonayo.
4. Kuthiwani Ukuba Umntwana Wam Unqabile Uncedo?
Kuqhelekile ukuba ininzi intsha imisele ukuba ayifuni-okanye idinga uncedo. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho othobela unyango alithethi ukuba awukwazi ukuqhubeka ucela uncedo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuya kumcebisi, udibana neengcali zempilo yengqondo ngokwakho ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ozikhethayo.
Unokufumana umntanakho ukhuthazwa ukuba alulekele ukwabelana naye kwicala lakhe ukuba ucinga ukuba uthetha ngaye.
Umqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo unokukwacebisa ngokukhetha kwakho. Unokwazi ukusebenza kunye nabanye abadala, njengabafundisi bakho abatsha, abaqeqeshi, amagosa okuvavanya, kunye nabanye abanonophelo ukudala indawo ephephile, eyakhiweyo.
5. Ndingamelana njani neengcinezelo zokukhulisa umntwana onenkathazo?
Ukulawula uxinzelelo lwakho ngenye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu xa ungakhuthaza nawuphi na umntwana osemtsha, ungayikhupheli umntu ophazamisekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uzinakekele kakuhle ukuze ungakhathazeki kangangokuba awukwazi ukujongana nemiba yakho yeveki.
Cinga ukufuna unyango okanye ujoyine iqela lokuxhasa. Unganqikazi ukufuna uncedo kubahlobo okanye kwintsapho. Thatha ixesha lokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi enempilo ukuze ulawulwe ngempumelelo iqondo lakho.
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> Mathys CCA. Amacandelo afanelekileyo angenelelo ngoncedo loluntu kwiindawo ezisemthethweni zobulungisa: Indlela yokunyamekela ulutsha oluphangaleleyo? Ukuhlaziywa koNcedo lwaBantwana noLutsha . 2017; 73: 319-327.
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