I-Jitters Day Day? Nantsi Indlela Yokunceda Abantwana Ngokusebenza Kwezemidlalo Ukukhathazeka.
Ewe: Ukuxhalaba komsebenzi kubantwana kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana bavame ukuqala ukuziva bexinzelelo lwe-game ngaphambi kokuba batyelele kumanqanaba omncinci okhuphiswano lwemidlalo yolutsha , okanye baqale ukukhuphisana ngabanye. (Basenokuziva bazixhalabele ngezinye izinto, njengokuthetha phambi kweqela.)
Umntwana wakho unokukwazi ukuvakalisa ukwesaba aze athi unxungule ngomdlalo ozayo okanye ukhuphiswano.
Okanye unokuba nengxaki yokudibanisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe kwimidlalo yakhe yokusebenza. Ngayiphi na indlela, abazali banokungena ekunikeni ukuqinisekiswa nokuncediswa.
Ukuchonga iNkqubo yokuXhalabisa kwabantwana
Iimvana ezininzi aziyi kuphuma kwaye zithetha oko zixhalabileyo. Akunakukwazi ukuba baxhalabile. Esikhundleni saloo nto, banokucaphuka okanye banenkathazo yokulala. Basenokuthetha ngokufuna ukuyeka umdlalo okanye umsebenzi owuthandwa ngaphambili. Basenokuzenza bazigulise okanye balimale ukwenzela ukuba bathe ukuthatha inxaxheba, okanye baze bavelise iimpawu ezithile zomzimba (zithi, isisu esisisu) esona sisuka kwixhala.
Ngoko abazali bangazifumana njani izinto ezenzekayo? Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda ukuhambelana nesihloko ngokugqithiseleyo. Unokuxelela umntwana wakho malunga namava akho evekisayo phambi komdlalo okanye isiganeko-mhlawumbi ngokutsha, uthi xa ugijime umncintiswano okanye wadlala umdlalo we-softball, okanye xa uneminyaka elifanayo umntwana wakho ngoku. Okanye uvakalise umzekelo weqhawe lezemidlalo: "Ngaba ucinga ukuba uStep Curry wayesaba phambi komdlalo omkhulu?" Ukukhuthaza njengalezi kunokunceda abantwana baqonde kwaye bavakalise iimvakalelo zabo.
Zama ukunceda umntwana wakho abize igama lakhe ngokuxhalabisa. Ingaba ukhathazekile ngokulibala into enokuyenza? Ukuyeka iqela lakhe? Ukwenza impazamo? Ukulimaza? Xa uwazi, unokukunceda uqinisekise umntwana wakho, kunye / okanye ucele umqeqeshi wakhe ukuba enze okufanayo. Unokuyicombulula nayo ingxaki, ucebise ezinye zezicwangciso ezingezantsi.
Indlela abantwana nabantwana abanokujamelana ngayo nokuSebenza ngokuxhalabisa
Wonke umntwana uya kuphendula ngokungafaniyo, kodwa ezi zicwangciso zokulawula uxinzelelo zinganceda. Xoxa ngazo ndawonye, uze ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba azame ezimbalwa ukuba abone okubaluleke kakhulu kuye.
Memoriza imantra. Ngamanye amaxesha uxhalaba luvela kwi-self-talk: "Andiyi kuyenza oku," "andiyi kukukhumbula into endiyenza ngayo," "wonke umntu uya kundithiya xa ndidibanisa." I-mantra ibinzana elihle lokuba umdlali angasebenzisa ukutshintsha abo bantu ababi. Nceda umntwana wakho eze ngegama elithetha into kuye, njengokuthi "Ndiyomelele" okanye "Ndifumene oku." Emva koko unokuziphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo: ngokusebenza, kwimidlalo, okanye nayiphi na ixesha eva ukuba "akakwazi ukwenza" ilizwi entloko yakhe.
Ngcamango. Oku kunokuba ukwandiswa kwendlela yokwenziwa kweMantra. Ngoxa uphinda uphinda umantana, umntwana wakho unokukwazi ukuzibona kakuhle.
Ziqhelise, kunye kwaye ngaphandle kokuhamba. Nangona ukusetyenziswa kwezakhono kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphumeleleni, ngamanye amaxesha ukuphindaphinda kwengqondo kungenza umehluko omkhulu. Mqeqeshe umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe ngokusebenza kwakhe, ukufanekisela isinyathelo ngasinye. Mhlawumbi unokufuna ukubhala yonke into kwaye uyihlolisise. Le ndlela ivumela umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze ngokungabikho kwemeko efana nemidlalo.
Ngokomzekelo, umvocavozi unokucinga ngenyathelo ngalinye lomgangatho wesiseko nangona xa engekho kwindawo yokuzivocavoca.
Beka iinjongo. Xoxa nomntwanakho malunga nento athembayo ukuphumeza kwintsebenzo elandelayo okanye umdlalo. Mncede afike ngenjongo elula, kodwa ayifumaneki. Endaweni yokuthatha indawo yokuqala, mhlawumbi ufuna ukubetha ixesha okanye isikhonkwane isakhono esithile. Ukugxininisa kuloo nto inokuthabatha ezinye zengcinezelo kweso siganeko.
Ukuphefumla obunzulu. Ukuphefumula okanye ukuphefumla kunganciphisa uxhalaba kwaye kuncede abantwana bazive bekhululekile. Bangakwazi ukuzenza ekhaya, endleleni eya kwimidlalo okanye edibana nayo, kwigumbi lokuprinta okanye ngasecaleni.
Inkohlakalo yinto oyenzayo. Ukumemeza kunceda ngokwenene, ngoko xelela umdlali wakho ukuba abeke omnye-nangona ukuba akayi kuthanda!
Oko Abazali Bangakwenza Xa Abantwana Baxhalabile
Ngaphandle kokuqeqesha umntwana wakho ngokusebenzisa ubuchule obungasentla, unokukunceda ngokubeka isiteji ngamava aphantsi koxinzelelo.
Ukuqinisekiswa komnikelo kunye nothando olungenammiselo. Akuyena wonke umntwana oya kukholwa okanye amkele amazwi akho okuqinisekisiweyo, kodwa ezinye ziya. Unokukhumbuza umntwana wakho ngendlela ayenzileyo ngayo kwimimangaliso edlulileyo, ingaba usebenze ixesha elingakanani, ubeka kangakanani ukholo kunye nomqeqeshi wakhe kuye, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani. Unokumkhumbuza nokuba ezinye izinto ziphuma ekulawuleni wonke umntu: imozulu, umzekelo, okanye ijaji. Kodwa ungalokothi usuphephe okanye uqhubise iingxaki zomntwana wakho.
Yenza inxalenye yakho. Ukuxhalabisa ngokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ulala ngokwaneleyo aze adle ukutya okunempilo . Ininzi abantwana kufuneka babe nexanduva lwezoxhobo zabo zemidlalo, iifomu, iibhotile zamanzi, njalo njalo. Kodwa unako ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into iqhutywe kwangaphambili kwaye ivumele ixesha lokuhamba elaneleyo ukuya kwiimbali. Ukunyuka kumdlalo okanye umdlalo kwintlanzi yindlela enzima yokuqalisa.