Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukuthetha ngokuyeka imidlalo, qaphela kuqala ukuba kutheni.
Ukuba umntwana wakho udlala imidlalo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kujongana nesibhengezo esithi "Ndiyayeka!" Kodwa ngaphambi kokuthi akukho-ukwesaba umntwana wakho uya kutshatyalaliswa ukuyeka ubomi-umva, kwaye uzame ukuqonda iinjongo zakhe.
Kulungile nokho, phuhlisa iplani yokulwa nokuyeka ngaphambi kokuba atyikitye kwimidlalo emitsha. Xoxa phambili malunga naluphi uhlobo lokuzibophezela komntwana wakho: Oko kuzakufuneka adabise ngaphandle kwexesha lonke, umzekelo, okanye inani elithile leveki okanye iinyanga ukuba le midlalo ayinayo ixesha elichaziweyo.
Yaye ke, ukulimala kunokuthetha isidingo sokuyeka, okanye ncinane uthathe ixesha lokuphulukisa.
Imibuzo Yokubuza Ngaphambi Kokuyeka
Ukuba awuzange ubeke isicwangciso ngaphambili, qalisa ukubuza imibuzo (ngokuqinisekileyo; umntwana wakho uya kubaphendula xa ukhetha ixesha kunye nendawo epholile kuye). Zama:
- Ngaba umntu uyakuchukumisa, ngokwenyama okanye ngokwemvakalelo ? (Kule meko, ukuyeka ukukhawuleza kunokukhawuleza, ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kungasombululwanga ngokukhawuleza.)
- Ubonakala unomdla xa usayina kuqala. Yintoni yatshintshile?
- Ngaba udidekile ngokusebenza kwakho, okanye iqela lakho?
- Ucinga ukuba wakho umqeqeshi / iqela liza kuziva njani xa ushiye iqembu?
- Ngaba kukho enye into ongathanda ukuyenza endaweni yoko?
- Ngaba ungathanda ukudlala imidlalo efanayo, kodwa kwiqela elinye?
- Ngaba ungathanda ukuqhubeka nokufunda le midlalo, kungekuyo nje ngoku?
- Ungathanda ukuzama imidlalo efanayo?
Amanyathelo alandelayo
Ngokuxhomekeke kwizinto ozifundileyo kule ngxoxo kunye nomdlali wakho, qwalasela ukuba kufuneka ufune ukutshintsha ingqondo yakhe.
Xoxa nomqeqeshi wakhe okanye umqeqeshi, onokuthi unokufumana ulwazi oluncedo. Ukuba kubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho usemngciphekweni wokutshiswa, ikhefu lingakunceda ukuhlaziya ibhetri yakhe kwaye ubuyele kwakhona kwimidlalo ayeyithandayo.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukunamathela kwimidlalo, qiniseka ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni kwaye ixesha elide: "Sitshale imali kulezi klasi kunye nezixhobo eziyimfuneko, ngoko kufuneka uqhubeke nokusa ekupheleni kwesi seshoni.
Emva koko, unokuzama into ehlukile ukuba ungathanda. "
Ukuba unqume ukuba ukuyeka ngokukhawuleza ngokwenene ukunyuka-kuthetha, amabakala omntwana wakho okanye impilo yakhe ihlupheke-mdumise ngokuzizi kakuhle ngokwaneleyo ukwenza ukhetho olunzima, nokuba uza kuwe uncedo. Mkhumbuze ukuba unokuzama kwakhona kamva ukuba ufuna, okanye ufuna enye. Unokuyonwabela umdlalo ofanayo kwikomiti elincinci lokuncintisana , umzekelo, okanye inguqu yodwa yomsebenzi endaweni yeqela (okanye ngokulandelana).
Ukuyeka akufuneki kube yinto engafanelekanga ukuba yenziwe njalo. Emva koko, sifuna ukuba abantwana bethu bazimisele ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Abayi kuyenza loo nto xa beva ukuba benza ukuzimisela konke ixesha. Amathuba omntwana wakho kufuneka azame imisebenzi emidlalweni yemidlalo kunye nemvelo, ithuba elinalo lokufumana uthando lwexesha elide . Yaye oko kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ubizwa ngokuthi "ukuyeka."