Kuyinto edabukisayo ukuba xa abantwana beqokelela, kubandakanywa kwimidlalo, ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka. Nangona sithemba ukuba umdlalo weqela uza kufundisa ukuzonwabisa okuhle , akuqhelekanga kubadlali bexhatshazwa ngabalingani beqela. Kuye kwenzeka phakathi kwabadlali bepro. Kwaye kufuneka unakekele nangona umntwana wakho akayixhoba: Kwaye abajongene nabo banokuchaphazeleka ngokuxhatshazwa.
Yazi Iimpawu Zokuxhaphazwa Kwezemidlalo
Ngaba ukhathazeke ukuba into enokuthi iqhubeke ngayo nomntwana wakho okanye iqela lakhe?
Izimpawu zokuxhatshazwa kwimidlalo zingaquka:
- bengenabahlobo kwiqela; iingxelo zentshapheko evela kubalingane beqela (njengokungabandakanyi umdlali okanye ukusho izinto zithetha)
- ukwesaba okanye ukungafuni ukuqhuba okanye ukuzonwabisa
- ukulahleka kwenzalo ngokukhawuleza kwimidlalo
- iphikisana nabazalwana babo okanye abahlobo besikolo
- ukubuyela ekhaya ukusuka kwintsebenzo kunye nokulimala okungachazwanga, okanye izixhobo ezilahlekileyo okanye ezilahlekileyo
- ukuziphatha kakubi okanye ukuvutha komsindo ekhaya
- iimpawu zomzimba, ezinjengeentloko okanye isisu esiswini, inkathazo yokulala, okanye ukulahleka kwesidlo
- iimpawu zokuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, okanye ukuzithoba, njengomdlali ongeyonto emdlalweni wakhe
Xoxa Nomntwana Wakho Ngokuxhatshazwa
Buza umntwana wakho ukuba akuxelele ngakumbi malunga naziphi na iziganeko ezikhankanyweyo, okanye uthi ukhangele ukuba akayithandi imidlalo yakhe njengoko wayeyisebenzisa. Kubalulekile ukubuza imibuzo ngokuzinzileyo kunye nokugwema ukuhlazisa umntwana wakho njengoko uqokelela ulwazi.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, naluphi na uxhatshazo umntwana wakho ojongene nalo akusiyo iphoso lakhe, ngoko yenza ukuba kucace.
Ufuna ukuba azi ukuba uhlangothini lwakhe kwaye ulungele ukumnceda ukuba aphumelele oku. Qiniseka ukumxelela ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngaye ngokukuxelela oko kwenzekayo. Kulula ukuba ininzi abantwana bayenze.
Thatha inxaxheba ekuchaseni ukuxhatshazwa kwezemidlalo
Kubalulekile ukubandakanyeka ngokukhawuleza. Abantwana kule meko bafuna uncedo kubantu abadala abathembekileyo, ngoko ungalindelanga ukuba umntwana wakho ahambe yedwa.
I-National Alliance for Sports Sports (i-NAYS) inikeza ezi ngcebiso abantwana abangayisebenzisa xa bejongene nokuxhatshazwa. Bathetha nabo ngomntwana wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha ukudlala indima kunceda.
- Thatha umoya okhulu kwaye uvumele umoya uhambe kancane.
- Yima ende ngekhanda lakho.
- Gcina izandla zakho emacaleni abo.
- Yibonakaliso ebonakalayo ekhululekile kwaye egxininisekile, engabi nomsindo okanye ukuhleka.
- Gcinana noqhagamshelwano lwamehlo.
- Thetha ngezwi elizolileyo kodwa ukhulule ngokwaneleyo ukuba uvezwe ngumntwana oxhatshazayo okanye abo bangqina.
- Sebenzisa amagama angabonakaliyo kodwa ngezwi elithembekileyo lezwi. (Usenokuthi, "Ukuxhatshazwa kwaye andiyithandi. Myeke ukuze sikwazi ukuzonwabisa apha.")
- Gwema ukubiza igama okanye ukwenza izinto ezisongelayo.
- Gwema ukukhomba ngomunwe okanye ezinye izinto ezisongelayo.
- Yiba mfutshane kwaye uhambelane neempendulo zakho.
- Gwema ukuvelisa ama-grudges endala.
Ngoxa ukuxhobisa umntwana wakho kubalulekile kwaye kunceda, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uvelise le ngxaki kunye nomqeqeshi wakhe, naye. (Gwema ukudibanisa nabaxhasi okanye ngabazali bakho, okanye udibanise nomntwana wakho.)
Ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso kunye nomqeqeshi kulungile, uthi i-NAYS, kuba ibonisa ukuba uthatha oku. Umqeqeshi kufuneka abe ngu-ally kubo bonke abadlali bakhe. Buza oko umqeqeshi angakwenza ukuze ancede umntwana wakho (kunye nayo yonke into) uzive ekhuselekile njengelungu leqela.
Ukuba awukwaneliswa yimpendulo yakhe okanye ayisebenzisekanga, qhagamshelana nabalawuli bebhola yebhola yebhola ukuze bacele uncedo lwabo. Gcina umntanakho kwi-loop, naye. Unokuba neengcinga zakhe malunga noko kuya kwenza ukuba azive ekhuselekile. Ukuba oko kubandakanya ukutshintsha amaqela okanye ukuyeka , ukuxhasa isigqibo sakhe.